Do not Ignore Obvious Signs

[Bynx24 72]

For the sake of anonymity I have created a new account with the hopes of sharing my current situation and possibly helping someone else. I am an active member on here and do not and will not share any personal details so do not ask because I am not sharing, all I will say is that he is from a high fraud country.

 

My situation is the following:

 

I caught my husband talking to women and on dating sites, he has displayed countless times that when we are okay he is faithful, when we have a disagreement or argument he flies to open a dating app and starts talking to others. I didn't want to believe that he was just in it for a green card but I should've gone with what was being shown to me. He showed me that he was ungrateful, disrespectful and childish yet I chose to continue, I am a beautiful woman so for those people always talking about red flag this or that, I am young and good looking with a great job and personality. He put up the best of farces to get what he ultimately wanted. I have now cut the cord and moving forward, I am not a weak person and do not accept BS, this is cut with no return. Hoping that you ladies open your eyes to the signs and if it doesn't feel right is because it isn't.

 

Good luck to all on your journeys.

 

Amber

[Ben&Zian 4,398]

Good luck to you.

[Crazy Cat 41,881]

Our actions speak louder than our words..........Good luck, and I congratulate you for having the courage to take action.  Life is too short to spend the time we have being miserable.......

Edited May 6, 2019 by missileman

[TBoneTX 45,299]

You've saved yourself a lot of time and future grief.  Thanks for the cautionary message, and all the best to you.

[NikLR 13,227]

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[Bynx24 72]

2 minutes ago, TBoneTX said:

You've saved yourself a lot of time and future grief.  Thanks for the cautionary message, and all the best to you.

Spot on, the most amazing thing about it though is how convincing it all was , right down to his family. I am beginning to think that they also were a part of it. Tryly heartbreaking day for me but necessary.

 

What should be my next step? Emailing NVC or the consulate to withdraw my case? We are at the interview stage.

[Boiler 45,519]

Sadly a not uncommon story and if the VJ experience is anything to go by will not be heeded by others as they will consider their situation different. I think this is the third similar post today.

1 minute ago, Bynx24 said:

Spot on, the most amazing thing about it though is how convincing it all was , right down to his family. I am beginning to think that they also were a part of it. Tryly heartbreaking day for me but necessary.

 

What should be my next step? Emailing NVC or the consulate to withdraw my case? We are at the interview stage.

Interview for what?

[Crazy Cat 41,881]

2 minutes ago, Bynx24 said:

Spot on, the most amazing thing about it though is how convincing it all was , right down to his family. I am beginning to think that they also were a part of it. Tryly heartbreaking day for me but necessary.

 

What should be my next step? Emailing NVC or the consulate to withdraw my case? We are at the interview stage.

AOS interview or consulate interview?

[Dashinka 24,505]

Good luck to you and keep in mind it is not only women that are scammed.

 

28 minutes ago, Bynx24 said:

For the sake of anonymity I have created a new account with the hopes of sharing my current situation and possibly helping someone else. I am an active member on here and do not and will not share any personal details so do not ask because I am not sharing, all I will say is that he is from a high fraud country.

 

My situation is the following:

 

I caught my husband talking to women and on dating sites, he has displayed countless times that when we are okay he is faithful, when we have a disagreement or argument he flies to open a dating app and starts talking to others. I didn't want to believe that he was just in it for a green card but I should've gone with what was being shown to me. He showed me that he was ungrateful, disrespectful and childish yet I chose to continue, I am a beautiful woman so for those people always talking about red flag this or that, I am young and good looking with a great job and personality. He put up the best of farces to get what he ultimately wanted. I have now cut the cord and moving forward, I am not a weak person and do not accept BS, this is cut with no return. Hoping that you ladies open your eyes to the signs and if it doesn't feel right is because it isn't.

 

Good luck to all on your journeys.

 

Amber

 

[Bynx24 72]

1 minute ago, Boiler said:

Sadly a not uncommon story and if the VJ experience is anything to go by will not be heeded by others as they will consider their situation different. I think this is the third similar post today.

Interview for what?

Sad state of affairs, truly is

 

Our interview with the consulate is pending, how can I cancel it? I don't want to react out of anger so I will exclude the part where his intention was a greencard , I will let life deal with him BUT, do I have to give a reason?

 

[Amadia 711]

4 minutes ago, Bynx24 said:

We are at the interview stage.

Which interview exactly? Maybe there's a chance you can cut the cord for him there as well.

[Crazy Cat 41,881]

Just now, Bynx24 said:

Sad state of affairs, truly is

 

Our interview with the consulate is pending, how can I cancel it? I don't want to react out of anger so I will exclude the part where his intention was a greencard , I will let life deal with him BUT, do I have to give a reason?

 

I would IMMEDIATELY contact USCIS, NVC, and the consulate to withdraw the petition and the I-864...........

[Bynx24 72]

3 minutes ago, Boiler said:

Sadly a not uncommon story and if the VJ experience is anything to go by will not be heeded by others as they will consider their situation different. I think this is the third similar post today.

Interview for what?

I was one of those who thought I was different, looks wise a perfect match, no red flags, beautiful love story. Oh well, we do not think it can happen to us until it does. I am convinced now that these countries are high fraud for a reason and atleast for me, I would never again do something this follish, lesson learned.

1 minute ago, Amadia said:

Which interview exactly? Maybe there's a chance you can cut the cord for him there as well.

We are waiting for his interview with the consulate, he is not here yet.

[Bynx24 72]

1 minute ago, missileman said:

I would IMMEDIATELY contact USCIS, NVC, and the consulate to withdraw the petition and the I-864...........

Do I give a reason or just say I want to withdraw?

 

[Bynx24 72]

5 minutes ago, missileman said:

AOS interview or consulate interview?

Consulate interview