Abandoned wife...advice sought...procedure to allow stay?

[titotomas 0]

Hi Folks,

Looking for help for a friend. This is NOT us, either!! Hehehe! I haven't been real active on the list, but rest assured my beloved wife and I are doing fine. This topic really does apply to a friend. Now, then;

We have a friend whose husband is ready to dump her, plain and simple. Nice guy, huh? Anyway, she's a sweet lady, extremely hard worker, but not qualified to get a work visa. She is a CONDITIONAL permanent resident coming up for renewal (removal of restrictions) in a few months, and suddenly hubby has decided she can just go back to the Philippines where she came from. A marriage counselor I am not, and why this is happening is beside the point... Is there not a provision in the immigration procedure for just this sort of occurence? She wants very badly to stay here in the U.S., and has in fact been working 2 jobs. Ideas?

Thanks, Tom

[Donna A 4]

well remember every story has two sides so i wouldnt put all the blame on him. im sure ur hearing her side only.

anyway...she dont need a work visa since she is already a conditional resident and that is enough to work. what makes u think she needs a visa to work?

anyway if they divorse she can remove the conditions on her own if she can prove she married him in good faith.

[diadromous mermaid 36]

Hi Folks,

Looking for help for a friend. This is NOT us, either!! Hehehe! I haven't been real active on the list, but rest assured my beloved wife and I are doing fine. This topic really does apply to a friend. Now, then;

We have a friend whose husband is ready to dump her, plain and simple. Nice guy, huh? Anyway, she's a sweet lady, extremely hard worker, but not qualified to get a work visa. She is a CONDITIONAL permanent resident coming up for renewal (removal of restrictions) in a few months, and suddenly hubby has decided she can just go back to the Philippines where she came from. A marriage counselor I am not, and why this is happening is beside the point... Is there not a provision in the immigration procedure for just this sort of occurence? She wants very badly to stay here in the U.S., and has in fact been working 2 jobs. Ideas?

Thanks, Tom

Once a divorce is final she can apply to remove conditions without the assistance of her US husband. But, she must have a divorce decree in order to do that.

[eau_xplain 2]

Just make sure that your friend has sufficient documents to show that their marriage was entered into in good faith. These documents should show co-mingled finances, things the couple does together, insurance(s), etc.

[titotomas 0]

Thanks for the feedback, guys. And, special thanks to whoever re-posted my original post in the correct forum. I missed the "Effects of Major Family Changes...." forum at 2 AM and put my post in the AOS forum. This forum, in and of itself, is of great help. So many sad stories....glad I am not among them myself.

Later, T

[titotomas 0]

Just make sure that your friend has sufficient documents to show that their marriage was entered into in good faith. These documents should show co-mingled finances, things the couple does together, insurance(s), etc.

Here's a bit more info: Evidently I was misunderstanding a bit, lost in the translation as it were, between MY wife and our friend. (Filipinas....I love my wife to death as I always have....but sometimes I miss a lot....and when you have TWO of them and are trying to interpret.....sigh. ) Evidently the hubby isn't just "dumping" her, he (the USC-let's call him John) wants the marriage to end amicably due to his own family reasons. Reportedly, they have been on him for the "culture clash" all along, and he is caving in to family pressures. Right or wrong, that's the story, and let's not even get off on that tangent....I don't think it's right of him either. Regardless (and the point of this post), the wife (let's call her Jane) is okay with that, but wants to remain here. They have been married I BELIEVE for slightly under two years. I understand from this forum that two years is the magic number, as far as proving the "good faith" part. What I am concerned about is where they go from here so she doesn't get denyed/deported. It WAS a good faith marriage that didn't work out. Currently they are still living together as man and wife (at least in outside appearance)as John is willing to help in any way he can to allow her to stay. To further confuse (or maybe help) the issue, she has developed a (platonic) friendship with another guy that could develop into more......later, much later. That guy (let's call him Jim) is another personal acquaintance of mine, and is willing to do anything HE can to assist Jane in staying here. (Note: my personal advice to HIM has been to stay OUT of it, let her get herself clear of the immigration thing without any assistance from HIM, and THEN develop a relationship, advice he has been following. Jane has the same viewpoint as I do on that subject, which eliminates the confusion question of "is she jumping from one guy to another handy one?".)

Quite a story, eh? Any other feedback is welcome. My personal conclusion (especially since Jane is insisting on doing this ON HER OWN sans assistance from Jim) is that this, while a very sad story, is above board with nobody "playing games". Jon and Jane didn't work out. Jane wants to stay. John will help anyway he can, including "rooming" with her for now. Jim stands in the wings......

Later,

T

[nane1104 146]

Well, if her still-husbands wants to help her and basically supports her wish to stay in the US, and she can file to lift conditions soon...then I think, the situation isn't that bad actually. It would be worse if he would try to get her out of the country.

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No?

[tiberonsuave 0]

Perhaps you should follow your own advice...

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(Note: my personal advice to HIM has been to stay OUT of it, let her get herself clear of the immigration thing without any assistance from HIM, and THEN develop a relationship, advice he has been following. Jane has the same viewpoint as I do on that subject, which eliminates the confusion question of "is she jumping from one guy to another handy one?".) "

So he plays along and fraudently helps her to adjust status. Maybe enough people do this and they will raise the time for removal of conditions to twenty years.

tiberon