Submitting my interview request letter, need some reassurance.

[Greenbaum 12,259]

This whole process is easy. You fill out forms, you pay fees, you secure the required documents for the interview and you have the interview.  Interview is at best less then 10 min. Just a few questions that you should know about the petitioner and your done. NEXT.

 

Stop making it more than it is. I've heard all the excuses so don't go there. Suck it up and get it done. 98% pass. So you should to.

[fip & jim 452]

Hey Lynxwarden, I'm the mother of an autistic teenager and we emigrated last year. I understand some of the anxiety you're feeling and wanted to offer you my perspective.

 

Change and taking is risk is scary. It's completely normal to ask "what if?", especially when it's something so important to you. You have to find a way to turn down the volume of those nagging doubts because this is a marathon, not a sprint, and you'll wear yourself out. I tell my son to acknowledge those doubts, see what's the feeling behind it, then get on with doing something else. Over the years you'll have learned what works for you to help you feel calm - go for a walk, clean a room, get active. It really does help your mind unwind. 

 

It's OK to feel fear. I was really scared before we flew out to the States, and I've had several really bad days since where I also wonder if I've done the right thing. If you try something new or tough nobody can promise you that it will work out or you won't make mistakes. But if you don't try you definitely won't grow beyond who you are right now, and then instead the "What if?" questions will become regrets. Very little in life is complete success or total failure. 

 

What I know helps for my son is switching the negative self-talk in to positive ("I can't" to "I can"). A thought is just a thought. It is no stronger than you allow it to be. Remind yourself of some simple truths about yourself ( "I'm reliable and trustworthy", "I try hard to achieve my goals"). If you feel "I'm never going to pass that interview", what can you tell yourself to counter that? People pass their visa interviews all the time. My son passed his medical and interview, and we just had our AOS interview last month. He found it all tough and uncomfortable but he did it. What steps can you take to make it easier for yourself? You've already done something - you've come on here and asked for help and people have responded.

 

You do the best you can, then try to move on while waiting for the next step. There is no way round the waiting and uncertainty so try to fill your time with something productive. 

[Lynxwarden 28]

On 4/15/2019 at 6:22 AM, SanjaAlex said:

I think you ask for an extension in your consulate if you won't be attending your interview in those 4 months. I would post a link but I'm on my phone so can't figure how. 

It is not late, yours is valid till June 

Thanks for the info! I just added my timeline for my K1 visa process (hopefully it isn't jumbled and folks can make sense of it, timeline-wise. I've never filled out anything like it but I did my best with the dates I could find!) 

[Lynxwarden 28]

11 hours ago, fip & jim said:

Hey Lynxwarden, I'm the mother of an autistic teenager and we emigrated last year. I understand some of the anxiety you're feeling and wanted to offer you my perspective.

 

Change and taking is risk is scary. It's completely normal to ask "what if?", especially when it's something so important to you. You have to find a way to turn down the volume of those nagging doubts because this is a marathon, not a sprint, and you'll wear yourself out. I tell my son to acknowledge those doubts, see what's the feeling behind it, then get on with doing something else. Over the years you'll have learned what works for you to help you feel calm - go for a walk, clean a room, get active. It really does help your mind unwind. 

 

It's OK to feel fear. I was really scared before we flew out to the States, and I've had several really bad days since where I also wonder if I've done the right thing. If you try something new or tough nobody can promise you that it will work out or you won't make mistakes. But if you don't try you definitely won't grow beyond who you are right now, and then instead the "What if?" questions will become regrets. Very little in life is complete success or total failure. 

 

What I know helps for my son is switching the negative self-talk in to positive ("I can't" to "I can"). A thought is just a thought. It is no stronger than you allow it to be. Remind yourself of some simple truths about yourself ( "I'm reliable and trustworthy", "I try hard to achieve my goals"). If you feel "I'm never going to pass that interview", what can you tell yourself to counter that? People pass their visa interviews all the time. My son passed his medical and interview, and we just had our AOS interview last month. He found it all tough and uncomfortable but he did it. What steps can you take to make it easier for yourself? You've already done something - you've come on here and asked for help and people have responded.

 

You do the best you can, then try to move on while waiting for the next step. There is no way round the waiting and uncertainty so try to fill your time with something productive.

Thank you for taking the time to write all this out! ❤️ 

 

It can be tough to navigate this stuff, and I'm a lot more easily overwhelmed than my soon-to-be husband can get. I've had troubles with negative talk to myself when I think I've screwed something up with this process, and it's hard to snap out of. I know a lot of what I worry about tends to be seen as me blowing things out of proportion (which not going to lie, I do obsess over it to a point where I get VERY distressed unnecessarily), it's been like that for me since I was a kid. But I do have some coping methods, and I feel calmer a day after posting this - still a bit worried, but much calmer.

 

I've done all I can do for now though, I'm nervous for the interview when it rolls around but I'm also certain I can handle things, even if it'll be a bit uncomfortable at times. And coming on here has been a good choice - I don't know many people who've been through this sort of thing, so it's good to talk to folks who've had experience.

[fip & jim 452]

12 hours ago, Lynxwarden said:

Thank you for taking the time to write all this out! ❤️ 

 

It can be tough to navigate this stuff, and I'm a lot more easily overwhelmed than my soon-to-be husband can get. I've had troubles with negative talk to myself when I think I've screwed something up with this process, and it's hard to snap out of. I know a lot of what I worry about tends to be seen as me blowing things out of proportion (which not going to lie, I do obsess over it to a point where I get VERY distressed unnecessarily), it's been like that for me since I was a kid. But I do have some coping methods, and I feel calmer a day after posting this - still a bit worried, but much calmer.

 

I've done all I can do for now though, I'm nervous for the interview when it rolls around but I'm also certain I can handle things, even if it'll be a bit uncomfortable at times. And coming on here has been a good choice - I don't know many people who've been through this sort of thing, so it's good to talk to folks who've had experience.

The fact is that it is more difficult on the immigrant. It is you that will be dealing with a lot of change and uncertainty and that is stressful, so I don't think it's an over-reaction. Try not to judge how you feel because it doesn't help yourself. Everything passes. Even when you feel completely overwhelmed and stressed try to remember that it will pass. And knowing that you're not alone in feeling that way is a comfort too. 

 

[Shiran 1,134]

17 hours ago, Lynxwarden said:

I've done all I can do for now though, I'm nervous for the interview when it rolls around but I'm also certain I can handle things, even if it'll be a bit uncomfortable at times. And coming on here has been a good choice - I don't know many people who've been through this sort of thing, so it's good to talk to folks who've had experience.

I helps if you think of this process in stages. The first stage, filling out 129F was mostly on your partner, the USC petitioner. You are done with that part, and congratulations on that. Now that your case is at the embassy in NZ, it is your time to shine. Unfortunately this part can be very confusing, because step you are required to take in NZ are unique to NZ, so you have to be careful when researching things. For example, we never had to write any letters requesting interviews in Ukraine, it was done online. There are certain steps are common though: Filling out DS-160 online, paying visa fee, gathering documents, police certificate etc, getting form I-134 and supporting evidence from your petitioner, medical examination, scheduling and attending interview. 

 

Did you receive any document (usually by e-mail) from your embassy telling you what you need to do? This is sometimes referred to as "Packet 3" or "P3" for historical reasons? 

 

The process can be overwhelming if you try to do it all at once, so split it into checklist and small manageable chunks, you can do it, hey on a bright side, you won't have to worry about learning a new language when moving to US! 

 

 

[Lynxwarden 28]

1 hour ago, Shiran said:

I helps if you think of this process in stages. The first stage, filling out 129F was mostly on your partner, the USC petitioner. You are done with that part, and congratulations on that. Now that your case is at the embassy in NZ, it is your time to shine. Unfortunately this part can be very confusing, because step you are required to take in NZ are unique to NZ, so you have to be careful when researching things. For example, we never had to write any letters requesting interviews in Ukraine, it was done online. There are certain steps are common though: Filling out DS-160 online, paying visa fee, gathering documents, police certificate etc, getting form I-134 and supporting evidence from your petitioner, medical examination, scheduling and attending interview. 

 

Did you receive any document (usually by e-mail) from your embassy telling you what you need to do? This is sometimes referred to as "Packet 3" or "P3" for historical reasons? 

 

The process can be overwhelming if you try to do it all at once, so split it into checklist and small manageable chunks, you can do it, hey on a bright side, you won't have to worry about learning a new language when moving to US! 

I did indeed! It was a bulk list of things I needed to do, stuff I need to gather for the interview etc. I've pretty much done all of it, just waiting on the I-134 form from my fiance and I'm set to go honestly. Haven't paid any fees yet aside from all the things I had to do for the medical exam, but I assume that part is coming soon.

[SalishSea 18,073]

We didn't have to write a letter requesting an interview in Auckland, either.  Not sure what that is about.  It is scheduled for you by the consulate though.  

 

For Auckland, the P3 is emailed to the petitioner, so ask your fiancé to watch for that to come through, and then he can forward it to you.

 

Have you filled out the DS-160 online yet?

[Lynxwarden 28]

Just now, Jorgedig said:

We didn't have to write a letter requesting an interview in Auckland, either.  Not sure what that is about.  It is scheduled for you by the consulate though.  

 

For Auckland, the P3 is emailed to the petitioner, so ask your fiancé to watch for that to come through, and then he can forward it to you.

 

Have you filled out the DS-160 online yet?

Yes, I have indeed! I had to send that, a scanned copy of my passport, the letter requesting an interview and some passport style photos of myself to the consulate for the interview request. Now I'm just kinda stuck waiting for whatever comes next.

[SalishSea 18,073]

Just now, Lynxwarden said:

Yes, I have indeed! I had to send that, a scanned copy of my passport, the letter requesting an interview and some passport style photos of myself to the consulate for the interview request. Now I'm just kinda stuck waiting for whatever comes next.

Next they will notify you of the date and time for your interview!  Best of luck!  You got this.  Auckland isn't a tough consulate at all.  

[Shiran 1,134]

2 minutes ago, Lynxwarden said:

Yes, I have indeed! I had to send that, a scanned copy of my passport, the letter requesting an interview and some passport style photos of myself to the consulate for the interview request. Now I'm just kinda stuck waiting for whatever comes next.

Typically you have to fill out DS-160 and pay interview fee before the interview scheduled. Once again, NZ protocol might be different. It might be helpful if you share the letter you got (redact any personal info)

[SalishSea 18,073]

1 minute ago, Shiran said:

Typically you have to fill out DS-160 and pay interview fee before the interview scheduled. Once again, NZ protocol might be different. It might be helpful if you share the letter you got (redact any personal info)

Auckland schedules the interviews for applicants.  As long as her file is complete, they will contact her with the date and time. 

[Lynxwarden 28]

1 minute ago, Shiran said:

Typically you have to fill out DS-160 and pay interview fee before the interview scheduled. Once again, NZ protocol might be different. It might be helpful if you share the letter you got (redact any personal info)

This was what I got with the email! I did fill out the DS-160, just waiting for some kind of instructions to pay an interview fee and whatnot now.

Immigration_Document_PDF_3.pdf