Very VERY bad K1 situation

[Boiler 45,579]

I also had the gmail issue.

 

I have seen this situation a few times, and obviously it is common enough for some Consulates to put specific warnings on their web sites. There is a local term for this which I forget, well in the MENA region.

 

I would not be so sure just because she was going to pay for the ticket, another red flag, that he could not find the money if he was able to get a visa. Relatively small loan compared to what many would pay.

[Ontarkie 14,236]

Yes the best thing for her to do is not say anything until she contacts the consulate. Once she is sure everything is canceled. If she is wanting to tell him personally that it's over and why make sure you are with her. I've read on here some pretty crazy things the scammers say to try and wiggle their way back in. Personally I would cancel and block the entire family and let the consulate let him know his visa is denied. 

[Cathi 5,760]

I'm sure this girl is one of his cousins. Although Jordan is a pretty progressive country and many families are trying to get away from marrying within the family, it's still not uncommon for people to marry first and second cousins, especially in the villages. Not just Muslims, but Christians, also.  When I met my husband I was not aware that this is common in Middle Eastern culture. Even though it's very shocking for people in the West and frowned upon, it's normal there. Way back when, people married within the family to protect their wealth. The instances are much lower in Jordan than other countries, but it happens. A few people in my husband's extended family married cousins and I'm glad he warned me ahead of time because I would have been floored if I found out on my own. It's still such a strange concept to me because I cannot even imagine marrying a blood relative.

Keep us updated and tell her not to tell a soul in Jordan that she knows. I'm not convinced his family knows, but don't take a chance in telling them or anyone else until his visa has been cancelled and she has proof from the consulate. 

[Cathi 5,760]

19 minutes ago, Boiler said:

I also had the gmail issue.

 

I have seen this situation a few times, and obviously it is common enough for some Consulates to put specific warnings on their web sites. There is a local term for this which I forget, well in the MENA region.

 

I would not be so sure just because she was going to pay for the ticket, another red flag, that he could not find the money if he was able to get a visa. Relatively small loan compared to what many would pay.

Not only that, I can guarantee his family would pool their money together to buy him a plane ticket. 

[Loren Y 2,755]

Why even bother stirring the pot. Cancel the whole K1 process and have nothing to do with him again. Block him from social media, change your phone number, I wouldn't even want to talk to some scum like that ever again, and just move on with your life. Don't worry, karma will come around and take care of him.

[LionessDeon 2,060]

I applaud her for canceling the visa  and staying strong. I hope she gets in touch with the embassy in time. Please keep us inform and tell her we will keep her in our prayers. 

[SJordanS 343]

So here is an update for everyone on Sarah. First of all thank you all for your support.  Im having her stay through the entire weekend for moral support. So far...

 

- Sarah is still unable to create her own VJ profile even from an alternate yahoo email. Same email verification issues. Maybe in the next few days she will get the verification. 

- When she does eventually get on VJ, she will create a timeline anyways and input everything on her journey as she understands this will help all of us with tracking timelines. 

-  Then she will update her experience and the outcome of Embassy ruling on her cancelling the Visa and hopefully on time.

-  She has sent an URGENT CANCEL VISA email to the Embassy and Cc'd an alternate email we found. She gathered and attached as much evidence she had which wasn't much,  Flash screens of the FACEBOOK page of the girlfriend, text messages from a friend in Jordan with information pertaining to him in English and thats basically it. Not much more than that along with and her testimony. 

- She will call the Embassy late tonight PST which will be morning Jordan time we will work to get someone on the phone and see what else is required.

- She has a lawyer standing by just in case she needs one who will create a legal letter and send it express to the embassy.

 

On a personal note:

 

- She received a text from her now ex (although he doesnt know it yet) fiance that he sold his car so he can have enough cash to come with. (he's gonna wish he waited) and that he officially put in his 2 weeks notice with his job (he'll be jobless too). Basically it was a cheerful message from him and wished her to feel better soon. She is not replying to his messages. No communication until she have confirmed the Visa is cancelled. 

- And yes to those who asked, I will be right there when she makes that call to him. She needs all the support she can get.

 

 

[SJordanS 343]

Just now, LionessDeon said:

I applaud her for canceling the visa  and staying strong. I hope she gets in touch with the embassy in time. Please keep us inform and tell her we will keep her in our prayers. 

I will update you ALL tomorrow as I hope she gets through to the Embassy tonight our time and gets definitive confirmation its been cancelled....then the best part. She tells him. Thank you for your wonderful words. Im sharing it all with her. 

[SJordanS 343]

1 hour ago, Cathi said:

I'm sure this girl is one of his cousins. Although Jordan is a pretty progressive country and many families are trying to get away from marrying within the family, it's still not uncommon for people to marry first and second cousins, especially in the villages. Not just Muslims, but Christians, also.  When I met my husband I was not aware that this is common in Middle Eastern culture. Even though it's very shocking for people in the West and frowned upon, it's normal there. Way back when, people married within the family to protect their wealth. The instances are much lower in Jordan than other countries, but it happens. A few people in my husband's extended family married cousins and I'm glad he warned me ahead of time because I would have been floored if I found out on my own. It's still such a strange concept to me because I cannot even imagine marrying a blood relative.

Keep us updated and tell her not to tell a soul in Jordan that she knows. I'm not convinced his family knows, but don't take a chance in telling them or anyone else until his visa has been cancelled and she has proof from the consulate. 

She's not his relative although you are right. Alot of them still do marry their cousins. Her fiance met this woman when they were both at the University. She was his college sweetheart. She doesn't speak arabic so after she tells him he's been cancelled in every way possible, I will speak to his parents on her behalf since I do speak arabic. I have many questions for them!!

[Cathi 5,760]

2 minutes ago, SJordanS said:

She's not his relative although you are right. Alot of them still do marry their cousins. Her fiance met this woman when they were both at the University. She was his college sweetheart. She doesn't speak arabic so after she tells him he's been cancelled in every way possible, I will speak to his parents on her behalf since I do speak arabic. I have many questions for them!!

Oh, I thought you said in the original post she was a family member. I must have misread. I apologize.

 

 

I really hope she gets this all straightened out. Now that he's sold his car that means he has money to buy a plane ticket on his own. I hope he doesn't find out what's going on ahead of time.

[SJordanS 343]

1 minute ago, Cathi said:

Oh, I thought you said in the original post she was a family member. I must have misread. I apologize.

 

 

I really hope she gets this all straightened out. Now that he's sold his car that means he has money to buy a plane ticket on his own. I hope he doesn't find out what's going on ahead of time.

I hope he doesnt as well! if he sold his car chances are he doesnt know anything as of yet.  but the block is ticking here so hoping embassy can confirm something tomorrow. shes on edge 

[killadocg23 88]

In for when she tells him and what his reaction was

[Cathi 5,760]

29 minutes ago, SJordanS said:

I hope he doesnt as well! if he sold his car chances are he doesnt know anything as of yet.  but the block is ticking here so hoping embassy can confirm something tomorrow. shes on edge 

Whenever I've dealt with the consulate in Amman they've been very good about responding to email in a timely way. 

[SJordanS 343]

15 minutes ago, Cathi said:

Whenever I've dealt with the consulate in Amman they've been very good about responding to email in a timely way. 

Oh good. That means she can hear something by tomorrow latest. 

[SalishSea 17,856]

Wow!  USCIS and embassy websites have warnings against just this type of marriage fraud, so hopefully they will take action quickly.  She was clever to figure it all out on her own!

 

Dodged a bullet. Keep us updated and best wishes and hugs to her.