A really complicated ROC

[ihaveadream 19]

Hi friends.  I am not a newbie on here, but created a new account.  Just couldn't bring myself to even open the old account with my posts not wanting to live a day without hubby and him the same

So now this is not a simple divorce story...but I will not bore you with details, just focus on relevant info for paper work.

Landed July 2017
Was out of country twice each one about a month each

We are in a real relationship, in love and strong together.  To keep it simple lets summarize and say he has PTSD and it resulted in several abusive situations towards me for the course of our 2.5 year marriage.  Cops were called but case never filed.  I was once Baker Acted due to the situation.

Feb 2018
Filed joint divorce.  Was forced and blackmailed into it but on paper it was joint

Now we didn't take a day to make up after divorce and his PTSD issues took a lot of patience and I did nearly give up a few times, he has made remarkable strides as of today he is a completely changed man and has not had an episode in a couple of months or so which is incredible given earlier we are talking about every 2nd or 3rd day.  No professional help was sort - but I guess my lifetime of dealing with mental health individuals makes me half a professional!  (trying to make light of the tragedy)

We have taken several international and domestic trips together too.

I am about to file my ROC and he will write up a watered down maybe, but factual affidavit.  I have a couple of friends who are willing to write up affidavits of my journey.  I have a therapist who may write a little bit and can get documents from hospitalization, Baker Act, Shelter.


I think its necessary to mention the PTSD and other issues as our marriage after landing was very short.  Also, I am sure there are some records somewhere of travels and I don't want them to wander what we are doing traveling together once divorced.  We have travelled as soon as 1.5 weeks after the divorce. 

We live together most of the time too.  I do have a separate place that barely gets used.

 

 

 

I have little evidence in terms of joint finances and the like from duration of marriage, have some from after it!


It is a genuine relationship (as messed up as it may sound - in real life many don't know we are divorced and they just know us an incredible couple...).  Of course, I don't know where we will be by the time the physical green card comes in 17-19 months (current wait time I believe).  I don't think I am giving up, but it has been exhausting and I could possibly give up as wonderful as he is now - there is of course resentment for the traumas I went through and I believe I have developed a form of PTSD from this.

 

 

Anyone with complex ROC experience?  He is willing to pay for a lawyer as at the moment but its probably easier for me to document all this myself then to talk to another human about it....  If I did get a lawyer I would really only want a specialist in ROC with waivers, as I have found that most of the 'normal' ones tend to know less than many of us on VJ.



My questions I guess are 

 

1. I really see the need to mention that we are still together as its a reality 

2. A lot of relationship evidence is from after the divorce as during the short stay before divorce he was struggling with issues and I never once left home without him, no license, no car, no banking stuff, no anything...

3. We did fly several times half way across the world to meet each other before and after marriage while papers were in progress
4. We do have photos in several countries, with/without other family, cards and hundreds and thousands of messages on our phones

 

 

[Georgia16 2,858]

In those 6 months just were here did you have any joint accounts, health insurence, anything joint? Any mail saying you lived at the same address, bills you got. 

You do have taxes from 2017 filed as married so you can you that one. If you have more than 2017 ( can’t see if you were married before you came than use that also). 

Since you are divorced I don’t really think USCIS cares that you are still living together though as you will be filing with a divorce waiver (you could have filed a year ago) but getting a affidavit from him would be fine. 

But they want to see evidence from the time you were married not after. 

Edited March 12, 2019 by Georgia16

[Mollie09 1,543]

This is not a complicated ROC. You got married, USCIS cares about why you did that. You got divorced, USCIS doesn't care about why you did that.

 

Prove the marriage was bonafide, joint accounts, real estate, bills, health insurance, wills, 401(k), etc. Why you got divorced is not relevant.

[junkmart 320]

8 hours ago, ihaveadream said:

Of course, I don't know where we will be by the time the physical green card comes in 17-19 months (current wait time I believe).

I'm confused by your statement above. Do you have a green card, or are you waiting for a green card? Because if you do not have a green card then I do not think you qualify for one now that you are divorced, and therefore do not need to even think about ROC.

Edited March 12, 2019 by junkmart

[Georgia16 2,858]

29 minutes ago, junkmart said:

I'm confused by your statement above. Do you have a green card, or are you waiting for a green card? Because if you do not have a green card then I do not think you qualify for one now that you are divorced, and therefore do not need to even think about ROC.

She means the 10-year GC.

[ihaveadream 19]

19 hours ago, Georgia16 said:

In those 6 months just were here did you have any joint accounts, health insurence, anything joint? Any mail saying you lived at the same address, bills you got. 

You do have taxes from 2017 filed as married so you can you that one. If you have more than 2017 ( can’t see if you were married before you came than use that also). 

Since you are divorced I don’t really think USCIS cares that you are still living together though as you will be filing with a divorce waiver (you could have filed a year ago) but getting a affidavit from him would be fine. 

But they want to see evidence from the time you were married not after. 

yes taxes for 2016 even though I was not here at that time were and then for 2017.  Thanks good point.

[ihaveadream 19]

12 hours ago, Mollie09 said:

This is not a complicated ROC. You got married, USCIS cares about why you did that. You got divorced, USCIS doesn't care about why you did that.

 

Prove the marriage was bonafide, joint accounts, real estate, bills, health insurance, wills, 401(k), etc. Why you got divorced is not relevant.

My biggest worry is the divorce was very short period after I landed and I have nothing joint... no wills, no accounts, no real estate....  

[GreenGem 58]

On 3/12/2019 at 7:33 PM, ihaveadream said:

My biggest worry is the divorce was very short period after I landed and I have nothing joint... no wills, no accounts, no real estate....  

Did he not add you in his health insurance? How about the place you both lived at? Did you have the same address in your id's. Do you have any bills that is under your name or does he have any bills under his name that show's both your residence?