Been here for 5 years and I don't know if I made the right choice.

[LiddiaJ 11]

I worry about this myself . My husband is the USC and we ( he, our son, and myself ) packed up everything and moved from Australia to Texas 6 weeks ago. I am still awaiting approval so I am really only here visiting until all of my paperwork is approved. I leave in 2 weeks to go back to Australia 1) so that I don’t overstay  my ESTA and 2 ) for my daughter’s ( from my first marriage) uni grad. I will stay in Australia for a couple of months and come to visit again  before going back to Australia until my application is complete .... the whole visa process is taking FOR.EV.ER. We lived in a beautiful part of Australia and well Texas ain’t that! We moved because we had come to a standstill , we were stagnating and we needed to shake things up a bit . We currently live with my in-laws ( which is rough) until my husband lands a job and we get on our feet so we can move on. Our boy (7) left a lovely little catholic school to attend a much larger public school but he appears to be coping really well and liking school as much as he did in Oz. It will be hard for me to know if we have made the right decision until we are out on our own and not living with the in-laws so I am trying to reserve my judgement until then . My situation is different from yours though in that my husband said even before we left that if we ( ANY of us ) are unhappy and wants to go back to Australia then that is what we will do . BUT I think we have to at least give it a chance first. I left a lot in Australia... 2 children (22 and 18) and I question daily if we have made the right decision. Only time will tell I suppose.

 

Talk to your husband... you have already given so much.  If he’s not willing to listen or compromise then maybe that is all the answer you need on what you should do. 

 

Good luck to you xx

 

[Lil bear 4,355]

2 hours ago, LiddiaJ said:

I worry about this myself . My husband is the USC and we ( he, our son, and myself ) packed up everything and moved from Australia to Texas 6 weeks ago. I am still awaiting approval so I am really only here visiting until all of my paperwork is approved. I leave in 2 weeks to go back to Australia 1) so that I don’t overstay  my ESTA and 2 ) for my daughter’s ( from my first marriage) uni grad. I will stay in Australia for a couple of months and come to visit again  before going back to Australia until my application is complete .... the whole visa process is taking FOR.EV.ER. We lived in a beautiful part of Australia and well Texas ain’t that! We moved because we had come to a standstill , we were stagnating and we needed to shake things up a bit . We currently live with my in-laws ( which is rough) until my husband lands a job and we get on our feet so we can move on. Our boy (7) left a lovely little catholic school to attend a much larger public school but he appears to be coping really well and liking school as much as he did in Oz. It will be hard for me to know if we have made the right decision until we are out on our own and not living with the in-laws so I am trying to reserve my judgement until then . My situation is different from yours though in that my husband said even before we left that if we ( ANY of us ) are unhappy and wants to go back to Australia then that is what we will do . BUT I think we have to at least give it a chance first. I left a lot in Australia... 2 children (22 and 18) and I question daily if we have made the right decision. Only time will tell I suppose.

 

Talk to your husband... you have already given so much.  If he’s not willing to listen or compromise then maybe that is all the answer you need on what you should do. 

 

Good luck to you xx

 

Hey to another Aussie in Dallas. Happy to chat via PM if I can be of any support. We’ve made the AUST  to US move twice now 🤪.   My heart is with you in your journey and the challenges. Nothings easy I know .. and there are losses which ever way you  choose. 

Edited April 9, 2019 by Lil bear

[AussieTam 48]

I have only been in the US a year and a half . 

I think coming from Australia makes it a much harder transition.  One of Hubbies friends said something that changed my view.  You need to treat America as 50 different countries. (Like Europe)

Many parts of American are not developed and have bad socioeconomic situations.  

Some states I plan on avoiding. 

We live in Florida, so I love the weather and the critters. I have told Hubby I couldn't live here if he lived anywhere else. 

I am lucky as my youngest daughter moved with me so I have company. 

My husband understands what we gave up to move here. He knows the sacrifices we made to be together as a family.  

Sadly many Americans don't see the Truth about  life in America. It really isn't a land of opportunity like Australia. So many people here struggle,  work conditions suck (I don't work here) , the food is terrible,  the education system is a joke.

As Australians we were privileged to be born in one of the best countries in the world. It is hard to ignore the differences.  

Your Husband was obviously enough to bring you here

Just keep talking things out , and be 100% honest about your feelings.  Hopefully he sees he needs to compromise and move to a more suitable area 

[AussieTam 48]

On 3/4/2019 at 6:39 PM, Lil bear said:

I have found ways to get most of the ingredients I need here.. golden syrup, milo, vegemite to name a few... PM me if you want info !!! 

Where do you get the Milo ?

[Crazy Cat 42,588]

3 minutes ago, AussieTam said:

Where do you get the Milo ?

I found some in an African grocery store in Dallas.

[AussieTam 48]

1 minute ago, missileman said:

I found some in an African grocery store in Dallas.

I am currently getting friends and family to pack refill bags in their luggage when they visit.  

I saw they have it on Amazon but it isn't the same recipe

I live in Florida so we don't have any African grocery stores

[Lil bear 4,355]

2 hours ago, AussieTam said:

I am currently getting friends and family to pack refill bags in their luggage when they visit.  

I saw they have it on Amazon but it isn't the same recipe

I live in Florida so we don't have any African grocery stores

I get it at Kroger’s grocery store. It is a slightly different formula but workable .. seems to be made i Mexico 

 

Simply Oz has it too. .. and it is the Australian recipe 

https://www.simplyoz.com/

Edited April 30, 2019 by Lil bear

[LiddiaJ 11]

On 4/30/2019 at 11:36 PM, AussieTam said:

I have only been in the US a year and a half . 

I think coming from Australia makes it a much harder transition.  One of Hubbies friends said something that changed my view.  You need to treat America as 50 different countries. (Like Europe)

Many parts of American are not developed and have bad socioeconomic situations.  

Some states I plan on avoiding. 

We live in Florida, so I love the weather and the critters. I have told Hubby I couldn't live here if he lived anywhere else. 

I am lucky as my youngest daughter moved with me so I have company. 

My husband understands what we gave up to move here. He knows the sacrifices we made to be together as a family.  

Sadly many Americans don't see the Truth about  life in America. It really isn't a land of opportunity like Australia. So many people here struggle,  work conditions suck (I don't work here) , the food is terrible,  the education system is a joke.

As Australians we were privileged to be born in one of the best countries in the world. It is hard to ignore the differences.  

Your Husband was obviously enough to bring you here

Just keep talking things out , and be 100% honest about your feelings.  Hopefully he sees he needs to compromise and move to a more suitable area 

Hi Aussie Tam, you said your youngest daughter moved with you, does this mean you have older children still in Australia? I am REALLY REALLY struggling with being so far away from my older kids. If you have older children back in Oz how did you cope ? 

[AussieTam 48]

11 hours ago, LiddiaJ said:

Hi Aussie Tam, you said your youngest daughter moved with you, does this mean you have older children still in Australia? I am REALLY REALLY struggling with being so far away from my older kids. If you have older children back in Oz how did you cope ? 

My Eldest daughter is 24 so she wasn't able to immigrate.  She has a fiance , animals , finished university and has a job . 

Sometimes it is hard knowing all my family is half a world away. We visited in Nov and we plan on visiting every couple of years. Messenger is great , we can message and video chat when we want to. 

I strongly believe everything happens for a reason. Hoping I raised her independent enough not to need me close by .

Edited July 4, 2019 by AussieTam