Husband passed away. Not sure what to do next!

[Paul & Marina 53]

It is sad to hear your news. I would think that to have make it this journey you are a strong person. Seek support from friends & family. And then there are the things that need to be done.

[Diane and Chris 651]

10 hours ago, Redheadguy03 said:

You can't gain citizenship through marriage since your spouse passed. Also, don't tell people they can't post that's against the terms of visa journey. Are you sure it was negligence? If so, get yourself a lawyer. 

For goodness sake, give the guy a break about posting. He just lost his spouse. There is a time for being correct and a time for sympathy.  

[TomEn 90]

4 hours ago, TBoneTX said:

Take it a day at a time and a step at a time, and you'll make it through this.

I recommend ordering multiple copies of the death certificate, just to be safe.

Good that you're seeing the counselor.

If you're still in Sugar Land, good; you can distract yourself in many positive ways.

THank you @TBoneTX,

 

Yes I am still in SL and I have ordered 21 copies of the DC. i am trying to take it one step at a time but it gets harder by the day. We only had a direct cremation, hence I think I'd have to ask the mortuary for some paperwork to send to USCIS. The other creditors i'm not worried about now. Its just USCIS is so finicky with everything, I needed to make sure I dont let something slip through the holes!

[MadamG 26]

I am very sorry for you loss and as stated you have to wait the five years. Also try to get out the house and occupy your time. Being alone isn’t what you need at the moment. Also @redheadguy03 she can say whatever she wants mentioning terms and agreements don’t matter. People on this site seem to be insensitive to folks when they just want a little support and want answers. 

[TomEn 90]

29 minutes ago, MadamG said:

I am very sorry for you loss and as stated you have to wait the five years. Also try to get out the house and occupy your time. Being alone isn’t what you need at the moment. Also @redheadguy03 she can say whatever she wants mentioning terms and agreements don’t matter. People on this site seem to be insensitive to folks when they just want a little support and want answers. 

@MadamG thank you so much for your kind words. 

[SJordanS 343]

16 hours ago, Redheadguy03 said:

You can't gain citizenship through marriage since your spouse passed. Also, don't tell people they can't post that's against the terms of visa journey. Are you sure it was negligence? If so, get yourself a lawyer. 

I think you need to be more sensitive to her here. She NEVER said not to post. She said if you dont have anything nice or helpful to say, to stay away. Which I agree. Pay attention!! 

[SJordanS 343]

16 hours ago, TomEn said:

Dear VJ family,

 

My husband the USC passed away on Feb 11, 2019. I know that it is too soon for me to be thinking about what to do next but please try to understand that I am couped up in our house all alone by myself and trying to do things on my own but failing at it with bouts of dpression and anxiety attacks at most times! So, please if you do not have something nice and helpful to say please stay away.

 

We were married since Aug 14, 2015 and have been in a happy married life. I lost my husband due to medical negligence on the above mentioned day. Sept 2018 marked three years of our marriage and Dec 2018 marked three years of being a legal resident through marriage and I was eligible to apply for N-400. Now my N-400 and my I-751 are pending at the NBC with an 18 month estimated wait time.

 

My question is,

 

Do I withdraw the N-400 application?

 

If I do, is that going to make my I-751 application start afresh?

 

Valueable input is much appreciated.

 

T&E

 I am so very sorry for your loss. How devastating. You stay strong for the sake of your husband and the beautiful marriage you both had. I would definitely definitely see an immigration lawyer at least pay for the consultation if you cannot afford him to take over.  Everyone else is giving you great advice. God bless you and God be with you! 

[geowrian 22,337]

I'm very sorry for your loss. This must be a very rough period for you.

As for advice, I agree with the others - get copies of the death certificates as they'll be needed for various purposes (not just immigration).

You can reapply for naturalization at the 5 year mark. The current application no longer being valid won't be held against you in anyway at all.

I wish you the best.

 

5 hours ago, SueSaed said:

I think you need to be more sensitive to her here. She NEVER said not to post. She said if you dont have anything nice or helpful to say, to stay away. Which I agree. Pay attention!! 

Inhibiting somebody from posting (i.e. telling them to stay away unless they respond in a certain way) is against the TOS.

At the same time, I think it is one of those times where it doesn't need to be pointed out. And what kind of monster would actually be mean here?

Edited March 2, 2019 by geowrian

[SJordanS 343]

Just now, geowrian said:

I'm very sorry for your loss. This must be a very rough period for you.

As for advice, I agree with the others - get copies of the death certificates as they'll be needed for various purposes (not just immigration).

You can reapply for naturalization at the 5 year mark. The current application no longer being valid won't be held against you in anyway at all.

I wish you the best.

 

Inhibiting somebody from posting (i.e. telling them to stay away unless they respond in a certain way) is against the TOS.

At the same time, I think it is one of those times where it doesn't need to be pointed out...what kind of monster would actually be mean here?

 

[SJordanS 343]

Just now, SueSaed said:

 

She has every right to demand people not comment harshly! What she said is not against VJ rules!!  You still don’t get it. Dont reply....done with you 😡

[Ban Hammer 13,352]

27 minutes ago, SueSaed said:

She has every right to demand people not comment harshly! What she said is not against VJ rules!!  You still don’t get it. Dont reply....done with you 😡

no one is commenting harshly.  however, it is against the terms of service to tell people not to post.

 

charles

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[TomEn 90]

Dear JV Family,

 

Y'all have been very helpful in providing me with the answers that I was looking for and the love. THank you so much once again since now I have a something to do with my time. THanks again.

 

[TBoneTX 45,329]

18 hours ago, TomEn said:

We only had a direct cremation, hence I think I'd have to ask the mortuary for some paperwork to send to USCIS.

That's a good idea.  The mortuary should certainly be happy to help you.

Check your PM box.

[Paul & Mallory 1,398]

I think you have received solid advice and I don't have anything to add to that. I just wanted to share my condolences as well. I cannot imagine what you are going through, and what a tough road this must be. I think honoring your husband by continuing whatever bucket list the two of you had together is not only a beautiful way to honor him, but also a beautiful way to occupy yourself and your time in a positive way while you grieve. I think he'd be happy to know you did that.

 

Prayers and well wishes for you, and for peace during this difficult time. Hang in there, and just take it one day at a time.

[TomEn 90]

2 hours ago, Paul & Mallory said:

I think you have received solid advice and I don't have anything to add to that. I just wanted to share my condolences as well. I cannot imagine what you are going through, and what a tough road this must be. I think honoring your husband by continuing whatever bucket list the two of you had together is not only a beautiful way to honor him, but also a beautiful way to occupy yourself and your time in a positive way while you grieve. I think he'd be happy to know you did that.

 

Prayers and well wishes for you, and for peace during this difficult time. Hang in there, and just take it one day at a time.

Thank you for your kinds words @Paul & Mallory

 

I never thought of the bucket list, perhaps that is another thing I should do now to occupy myself. THanks again.