How do people cope

[GingerDino 28]

To be honest, we didn’t. We weren’t apart. We lived in a third country where we both were foreigners with no permanent residency for two years, from the beginning of our petition to the end. We hired a lawyer, but that turned out to be a terrible idea. I travelled quite a bit for other reasons, though we never lived apart. During the petition process, we simply said we were immigrating together. That was the end of it. The Embassy where we had the interview worried more about financials than establishing a domicile.

[Bengoj 133]

1 hour ago, GingerDino said:

To be honest, we didn’t. We weren’t apart. We lived in a third country where we both were foreigners with no permanent residency for two years, from the beginning of our petition to the end. We hired a lawyer, but that turned out to be a terrible idea. I travelled quite a bit for other reasons, though we never lived apart. During the petition process, we simply said we were immigrating together. That was the end of it. The Embassy where we had the interview worried more about financials than establishing a domicile.

1 hour ago, GingerDino said:

To be honest, we didn’t. We weren’t apart. We lived in a third country where we both were foreigners with no permanent residency for two years, from the beginning of our petition to the end. We hired a lawyer, but that turned out to be a terrible idea. I travelled quite a bit for other reasons, though we never lived apart. During the petition process, we simply said we were immigrating together. That was the end of it. The Embassy where we had the interview worried more about financials than establishing a domicile.

Nice!  

[SuzanneG 0]

On ‎2‎/‎13‎/‎2019 at 1:19 PM, adil-rafa said:

Every VJ member understands your frustration  

we all go thru it

I think when we start we have no idea of the cost/no idea of the wait time

USCIS site only says need to meet the person to apply for a K1

I do read all the State department warnings but none said you can be denied for age, or religion or sex

my total wait was 6 years and i have not actually added it up but i spent at least $35,000

 

btw   are you aware he will need the criminal reports from both countries for the interview?

 

omg why did it take you 6 years? 

[snowdog 153]

I might be the most impatient person in the world, so this is probably a great test of strength of character for me. We have made an effort not to be apart longer than three months since we met, as right around that two month mark the distance really becomes increasingly noticeable. I don't know how some of you do it that are going six months, a year, or longer. You're heroes!

 

For us it's all about looking forward to that next bit of time together and planning that to take the mind off the "other" wait. (First we were waiting for paperwork to be approved in Norway for our marriage, now it's waiting on the immigration process). And I've always loved traveling and finding deals on flights, so I keep my eyes peeled for cheap airfare to take some of the financial stress away as well. Bit by bit, visit by visit, and someday this will all be part of a really cool story we tell about persevering for love.

[Bengoj 133]

1 hour ago, snowdog said:

I might be the most impatient person in the world, so this is probably a great test of strength of character for me. We have made an effort not to be apart longer than three months since we met, as right around that two month mark the distance really becomes increasingly noticeable. I don't know how some of you do it that are going six months, a year, or longer. You're heroes!

 

For us it's all about looking forward to that next bit of time together and planning that to take the mind off the "other" wait. (First we were waiting for paperwork to be approved in Norway for our marriage, now it's waiting on the immigration process). And I've always loved traveling and finding deals on flights, so I keep my eyes peeled for cheap airfare to take some of the financial stress away as well. Bit by bit, visit by visit, and someday this will all be part of a really cool story we tell about persevering for love.

Same here. I travel every 3 months to see my husband. Long flights. I’m also impatient. This is soo sad but I’m glad that I’m not the only one...it gives me a little strength to know I’m not the only one.  I just left my husband in January and already looking for flights for May. I don’t know how other people do it so long apart, they are truly the heroes.  We will definitely have stories to tell when this is all over with. 

[TBoneTX 45,291]

The "face time" scores points with the consulates.  Keep that in mind, and keep the faith.

[Bengoj 133]

10 minutes ago, TBoneTX said:

The "face time" scores points with the consulates.  Keep that in mind, and keep the faith.

We do WhatsApp video. How do we show video calls on WhatsApp please?

[Bengoj 133]

12 minutes ago, TBoneTX said:

The "face time" scores points with the consulates.  Keep that in mind, and keep the faith.

Or do you mean face time as in visits?? ..lol