What I can do if my us citizen wife is very bad for me

[Piyoli 0]

I immigrated here about 3 months ago because of a person I met a few years ago while I was visiting here. When I met him I thought she was the ideal person to make a living with.

 

Once I visited she said that she could not conrinue to attend me if we did not marry. I loved it with your heart and I decided to marry him 24 days after my entry and we spent a very good time together I go back to my country and after I come back soon after to continue our story. I had a good time without really knowing the person and his intention in the relationship. After I return to my country and he told me that he wants me here definitively he filled out the forms and last December I come here as legal permanent resident.

 

Some days after my arrival I do not receive my green card until after 36 days and my social security number 7 days later. She's starting to make life difficult I got a job 3 days about 10 miles from home after my ssn arrived I'm working on foot in the cold and I can not even afford to pay nouriture.

 

She argues with me almost every day and threatens to call immigration is the opposite of the person I met I feel very bad.

 

In addition she has two children whom I love very much she asks the children to love me if I say something that she is recording it and sending it to her sister.

 

today it's been 3 days since I did not eat because I did not have my pay.

 

I have no family here, I think returns to my country but before I seek advice after much research I think here you can help me.

 

thank you already for your contribution

[Lil bear 4,228]

1 minute ago, Piyoli said:

I immigrated here about 3 months ago because of a person I met a few years ago while I was visiting here. When I met him I thought she was the ideal person to make a living with.

 

Once I visited she said that she could not conrinue to attend me if we did not marry. I loved it with your heart and I decided to marry him 24 days after my entry and we spent a very good time together I go back to my country and after I come back soon after to continue our story. I had a good time without really knowing the person and his intention in the relationship. After I return to my country and he told me that he wants me here definitively he filled out the forms and last December I come here as legal permanent resident.

 

Some days after my arrival I do not receive my green card until after 36 days and my social security number 7 days later. She's starting to make life difficult I got a job 3 days about 10 miles from home after my ssn arrived I'm working on foot in the cold and I can not even afford to pay nouriture.

 

She argues with me almost every day and threatens to call immigration is the opposite of the person I met I feel very bad.

 

In addition she has two children whom I love very much she asks the children to love me if I say something that she is recording it and sending it to her sister.

 

today it's been 3 days since I did not eat because I did not have my pay.

 

I have no family here, I think returns to my country but before I seek advice after much research I think here you can help me.

 

thank you already for your contribution

Sounds like your best move is to return to your home country 

[Piyoli 0]

5 minutes ago, Lil bear said:

Sounds like your best move is to return to your home country 

I think the same thing. Once I get my paycheck I'll get a flight and go home my life was better before. Hopefully I can get an expedite divorce. 

[Just Paul 4,595]

1 hour ago, Piyoli said:

Hopefully I can get an expedite divorce. 

You don't have to divorce to leave.  You can divorce almost anywhere, except the Vatican and the Philippines

[Just Paul 4,595]

1 hour ago, Piyoli said:

I'll get a flight and go home my life was better before.

If you leave you can still return with 6 months in case she suddenly decides to make it better.

 

Best wishes!

[TBoneTX 45,330]

This thread is moved from the "Moving to the US" forum to the Effects of Major Changes forum, to be among similar threads.

[Going through 5,671]

9 hours ago, Piyoli said:

She argues with me almost every day and threatens to call immigration is the opposite of the person I met I feel very bad.

Just know that she cannot do anything to take away your greencard or deport you or anything like that (unless she submits proof that it was not a true marriage, and USCIS takes her seriously).  A lot of "bad" spouses threaten to call immigration as a way of controlling the other person.

 

I'm sorry this is happening to you.  Being in the US for only 3 months, might be more worth it to just file for divorce at this point, and go back to your country as you want to.

 

 

Edited February 2, 2019 by Going through

[carmel34 3,636]

You could also leave her and stay in the US if you can figure out a way to do it.  Live somewhere else, continue to work to support yourself, file for divorce.  Get another job that pays better, in a city you want to live in.  Or go back to your home country if you have the money to do that.  You can do whatever you want to do, but get out of that bad situation.  Good luck!

[ThomasNC1988 762]

You refer to your "wife" with male pronouns quite a lot.

[bakphx1 789]

21 minutes ago, ThomasNC1988 said:

You refer to your "wife" with male pronouns quite a lot.

It’s an easy mistake for ESL learners. Especially when their native language doesn’t depend on the pronoun to define the sex of the person.

[Sbrisa 41]

I agree with what has been said by other people here. It sounds like she or he (I don't really understand, sorry) is very manipulative and shouldn't threaten you with the whole "I'm calling the immigration officers/I'll get you deported" thing.
If you have a job in the States, I'm pretty sure there are ways you can keep living there and maintain your job, unless you'd rather go back to your home country, obviously.
Law protects US citizens by scammers, but it works the other way around too. This is abuse, she/he is the real "scammer" here and if you can prove you moved to the States to be with this person but she/he turned out to be someone completely different, I'm confident they'll help you with your situation.
Best of luck

[bakphx1 789]

2 minutes ago, Sbrisa said:

I agree with what has been said by other people here. It sounds like she or he (I don't really understand, sorry) is very manipulative and shouldn't threaten you with the whole "I'm calling the immigration officers/I'll get you deported" thing.

Threatening to have a visa revoked shows a power play that has been mentioned in other threads where the USC is abusive. I can’t imagine ever saying that.

 

That to me is about the cruelest thing you can say to a spouse you brought over who’s put themselves in a unique position.  If you’re an immigrant and a spouse says that, I would be looking to get away ASAP. It takes having something pathologically wrong with you to do that.

[Sbrisa 41]

17 minutes ago, bakphx1 said:

Threatening to have a visa revoked shows a power play that has been mentioned in other threads where the USC is abusive. I can’t imagine ever saying that.

 

That to me is about the cruelest thing you can say to a spouse you brought over who’s put themselves in a unique position.  If you’re an immigrant and a spouse says that, I would be looking to get away ASAP. It takes having something pathologically wrong with you to do that. 

Unfortunately I've read many threads here about this topic. It must be horrible to leave everything behind, your friends, your family, your country, your entire life to be with the person you love and instead it turns out to be a nightmare. I can't even think about it. My fiancè would never say that to me, like I'd never say something like "I left everything I had to be with you!". Both things hurt.
The only thing I can think about, is how do those people ever recover from those experiences? How can they go back on their feet? It takes a lot of strength that I'm sure I wouldn't have if I ever found myself in this mess.

[Paul & Mallory 1,398]

If you have the means to return to your country, I would do that ASAP, if you aren't able to eat for days, and your spouse is threatening your residency/status here. Whether or not they have any control of that or not, it's cruel enough to try and hold it over your head regardless.