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This thread is upsetting to read... 

 

8 minutes ago, PirateLiker said:

This girl, who is 20 years younger than me, is very sweet and smart. She is not at her best now, because of the stress of the situation. She has lost weight and has stomach pain. So I get to watch this wonderful person suffer due to what I've done. It kills me. I look at her and think "I want her, I want this relationship, but I can't have it". What I have is sitting right there, in my house, available to me. But I can't have it. Because I'm 90% sure that if I move forward and marry her I'll change my mind. So how is that fair to her??? 

 

Some people look at themselves and their behavior and say "I don't want to be like that anymore" and they change. It doesn't seem to be that simple for me. Or maybe it is, and I don't actually want to change.

On this point, NOBODY finds it easy to make such big decisions/change their behaviours. Some people make it look easy or handle it better, but it isn't easy for anyone. You have acknowledge this situation is unfair to her and that you are 90% sure you do not want to marry her. At this stage you will not get an epiphany to make you surer so please stop procrastinating the inevitable! 

 

You need to let her go, break up and move on. Please step up and do it, it is best for both of you.

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And this is why k visa is a visa from hell. Beneficiary totally dependent on petitioner who may do exactly what you’re doing.    If you won’t sign I-864 she won’t be a legal documented resid

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A.  She would be an undocumented immigrant subject to arrest and deportation.   B.  She would be an undocumented immigrant subject to arrest and deportation.  Marriage to a USC does not make

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The time for words is over.  It's time for some mature actions!!!

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The OP has received objective immigration advice and should seek marriage or other counseling in regard to the relationship issues.

 

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06-04-2007 = TSC stamps postal return-receipt for I-129f.

06-11-2007 = NOA1 date (unknown to me).

07-20-2007 = Phoned Immigration Officer; got WAC#; where's NOA1?

09-25-2007 = Touch (first-ever).

09-28-2007 = NOA1, 23 days after their 45-day promise to send it (grrrr).

10-20 & 11-14-2007 = Phoned ImmOffs; "still pending."

12-11-2007 = 180 days; file is "between workstations, may be early Jan."; touches 12/11 & 12/12.

12-18-2007 = Call; file is with Division 9 ofcr. (bckgrnd check); e-prompt to shake it; touch.

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01-09-2008 = File from USCIS to NVC, 1-4-08; NVC creates file, 1/15/08; to consulate 1/16/08.

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04-29-2008 = Fiancee's 4-min. consular interview, 8:30 a.m.; much evidence brought but not allowed to be presented (consul: "More proof! Second interview! Bring your fiance!").

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05-06-2008 = Better $12 call to English-speaker; "joint" interview date 6/30/08 (my selection).

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07-2008 = Daily calls to DOS: "currently processing"; 8/05 = Phoned consulate, got Section Chief; wrote him.

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