k1 visa divorce Need some great K1 Visa advise on divorce!!!

[Delandman 0]

I married my wife now that is a Filipina a year ago on a K1 Visa. Things have gotten bad to worse and she has changed 180. We are no longer in love and like oil and water. She has made statements that she wants to go home if we don't have a baby now. She has also made statements that when she gets her green card which our appointment is in 25days she wants to go live with her friend in another state so we can seperate and chill out. These are all red flags and concerned now because we are married and if she leaves how would I get a divorce beacause she does not have a green card in hand to come back to the states. The other thing if she does go to the interview in 25 days she gets her green card and splits. What to do....... 

Edited January 6, 2019 by Delandman

[Just Paul 4,595]

Sorry for you problems.   Don/t have a baby to make her happy.   If she wants to leave to the Philippines get her a ticket.   I recommend google flights.  IF she gets the green card and splits, you are still liable for her.   The rest you can figure out when she leaves.

[NikLR 13,227]

Decide quickly what you want to do.  If you do not want your wife in your life, then pull the I-864 and prevent the green card.  If you do then keep trying.  Ask her if she will go to marriage counselling or if you both can live together in the Philippines.  

Edited January 6, 2019 by NikLR

[Ontarkie 14,234]

~~Moved to Effects of Major family Changes, from K1 P&P - The OP's wife is already in the US and awaiting her AOS interview.~~

[ThomasNC1988 762]

You already have a baby?? You're in a tight spot. I wouldn't go through with the process with her unless you are sure things will work out.

[geowrian 22,337]

Agreed - do not bring a child into an environment unless both people are sure they want that together. Nothing gets simpler with a child involved, and they're usually the ones impacted the most.

 

The statements about wanting to move out of state with a friend after getting the green card is very fishy. It could be innocent, but my spidey sense is going crazy.

[TBoneTX 45,330]

3 hours ago, Delandman said:

These are all red flags

Without telling her a thing, go to the interview and withdraw the I-864 -- verbally and in writing.

A one-sentence letter is all that's needed.

Have some one-way ticket itineraries in mind for prompt use thereafter.

[CEE53147 559]

The behavior you describe is very troubling. You should move out of the house to avoid domestic violence claim against you. Consult a family law attorney immediately.

[belinda63 3,038]

Sounds like she is looking to have a child as an "anchor" to remain in the US.

[Going through 5,671]

The last thing you want to do is get this woman pregnant right now.  

 

13 hours ago, Delandman said:

She has also made statements that when she gets her green card which our appointment is in 25days she wants to go live with her friend in another state so we can seperate and chill out.

Translation:  She wants to make sure she has a green card in hand before she files for divorce, so her status in the US is more secured.

[Nitas_man 3,100]

13 hours ago, Delandman said:

I married my wife now that is a Filipina a year ago on a K1 Visa. Things have gotten bad to worse and she has changed 180. We are no longer in love and like oil and water. She has made statements that she wants to go home if we don't have a baby now. She has also made statements that when she gets her green card which our appointment is in 25days she wants to go live with her friend in another state so we can seperate and chill out. These are all red flags and concerned now because we are married and if she leaves how would I get a divorce beacause she does not have a green card in hand to come back to the states. The other thing if she does go to the interview in 25 days she gets her green card and splits. What to do....... 

I would schedule an infopass appointment without telling her, summarize what is happening, and withdraw the support affidavit.  Then I would give her space, a lot of space and stay away from her so that she cannot create a situation where you can be accused of DV. 

You can always get a divorce no matter where she lives.  Deal with that later.

[kris&me 572]

get a lawyer and serve her with divorce papers ASAP

go to interview and withdraw support 

buy her a one way ticket back

 

[Cathi 5,757]

Withdraw the I-864 without her knowledge and then send her home after you've done so.

[Delandman 0]

A lot of good points and ideas here. I do not think she is here at all she loves the Philippines and is very tight with her family. She was also a nanny and loves kids just wants one of her own which I am 46 and have two teens. I thought maybe I wanted another one but after fighting so much it would not be a good idea. I rally don’t know what her intentions are. She can’t drive which sucks because I am at work for 24hours at a time I know she is bored and depressed. I don’t know which way to go with all this. I think she is a good person with a good heart but loves kids and wants her freedom. Her distancing herself from my kids have been a real problem and also very jealous of my Ex-wife because I have to pay child support and the ex and I get along. I guess in the Philippines they don’t do child support or get divorced like we do here in the states.

[Boiler 45,564]

I she wants to go back then a ticket would seem the cheapest solution, divorce afterwards.