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Hola, Bon Jour Family..

I have a Monday question for everyone online. How have your significant other's friends at home or in the US reacted to your relationship? What were some of the comments you recieved? I know there are some guys on here and I would especially like to hear what you think about the comments or advice you received before coming here..

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When I asked my husband the question his response was "You are fortunate". By being in America it helps the family back home. As for him being married to an American women, his family and friends were happy. They were excited about the fact that he was moving to America, and very happy that the person he choose to marry was 'nice and not mean'.

at least that's his side of the story ...... just kidding!

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One more thing ... as for advice. He said he was just told to always pray and love your wife. (yeah right)

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One more thing ... as for advice. He said he was just told to always pray and love your wife. (yeah right)

Am fortunate to be married to a fellow Nigerian as well, we come from the same tribe and we knew each other briefly in Nigeria as well. Am a UKC and she is a USC, not much difference as we both understand where we come from and my parents love her to bits same way her family loves me as well.

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Interesting question! For starters my friends have been very supportive. They ask about my fiance and even talk to him on the phone sometimes. His friends have had a mixed reaction (Maybe mine too, but I haven't noticed anything!). Some of them are genuinely happy for us. I've meet quite a few of his friends, and eventhough I'm back home in the US they ask about me and ask to speak to me if they are near by when we're talking on the phone. Some of his so-called friends have stopped talking to him and they're gossiping behind his back about us- typical stuff. I guess its a pretty universal reaction- the people who really love you will support you and those that don't won't.

Hola, Bon Jour Family..

I have a Monday question for everyone online. How have your significant other's friends at home or in the US reacted to your relationship? What were some of the comments you recieved? I know there are some guys on here and I would especially like to hear what you think about the comments or advice you received before coming here..

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My SO and I met through my cousin so I know at least one of his friends likes me .

As for his other friends I have had the chance to talk to them frequently over the phone and we send text messages to one another. Some times he will ask me to call so that I can talk to a friend of his who has "heard so much" about me.

In my case I think his friends are surprised when they talk to me because they are expecting a Ghanaian voice on the phone and instead they get a "Howdy! How ya doin'?" on the other end I think he tells them that I am a Ghanaian living in America and so my accent throws them off sometimes. I know that when I spoke to his younger brother he was surprised at my accent.

My friends here LOVE him. He has had the chance to interact with him over e-mail or through text messages and some have talked to him and at times I have to wrestle to phone away from whoever might have it so that I can say a quick hello. That puts a smile on my face.

As for comments, his friends tell him that he "is lucky". Some are surprised at the frequency of our phone conversations and others at how long we have actually been together long distance (going on 1 year). Of course there are naysayers ( how do you know he/she is being faithful, blah blah blah) but we ignore them. If we can't believe we will make it then why should anyone else?

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Thanks for all the responses on the subject. In my personal case, the family is a lot easier to filter than the friends. Friends in Europe tell my husband how great it is there and that one doesn't have to work that hard there to survive. Yes I know one doesn't receive tons of free stuff here, but competing with the Europe vs US thing is a drag!

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Thanks for all the responses on the subject. In my personal case, the family is a lot easier to filter than the friends. Friends in Europe tell my husband how great it is there and that one doesn't have to work that hard there to survive. Yes I know one doesn't receive tons of free stuff here, but competing with the Europe vs US thing is a drag!

Ironically, I have also heard my husband make a few statements about how life in Europe is easier. Apparently the European goverment does a whole lot more than our goverment.

[randolady 1]

From what Ombeni tells me, all of his friends and family are very supportive of our relationship, and they think I'm fabulous. They're impressed with the fact that I have "breasts like an African" and can speak Swahili decently well. I told his dad that I was sorry I was going to steal his son away to America, and he said that he knew that Ombeni would be happy with me, so he didn't mind. That was really sweet of him.

My friends here are all really supportive of what I'm doing... my family is hit and miss.

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My fiance's family loves me very much. His mom was very surprised I wanted to be in the kitchen and wash dishes which they never allowed me to do. But his family treated me like one of the family. His friends were oh so sweet. They all loved me as well. His friends came by the house daily to make sure I was doing okay and so did his cousins and aunts and uncles. You talk about hospitality I trully have to say the Nigerian people go above and beyond when it comes to family and friends and foreigners. So in all I feel I am accepted by all of his friends and family.

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From what Ombeni tells me, all of his friends and family are very supportive of our relationship, and they think I'm fabulous. They're impressed with the fact that I have "breasts like an African" and can speak Swahili decently well. I told his dad that I was sorry I was going to steal his son away to America, and he said that he knew that Ombeni would be happy with me, so he didn't mind. That was really sweet of him.

My friends here are all really supportive of what I'm doing... my family is hit and miss.

Wow! Did you say, "breasts like an African?!" I'm still lauging at that. Tewodrose's mom told me that she was happy that he was marrying a wonderful lady who and to thank my parents for raising, "a good habesha-looking woman." Habesha is what Ethiopians call themselves. I guess our new families want to make us feel like we're part of the family/culture by mentioning things we have in common instead of focusing on the differences. It's sweet.

-Dodie

[Zee Bee 61]

Background: My fiance did not tell his parents that we were applying for the K1 visa yet because he does not want to deal with their constant questioning of where we are with the petition.

So earlier this week he was talking to his mom and she was asking him about his plans, ie, whether I was going to move to Ghana or him to the US. He gave some lame answer about time and work and some other stuff and she said that if he was not sure about what he was doing and was not going to make a decision quickly about our future together then he should not come crying to her when some other guy comes to take me away. She wanted to know what he was waiting for.

That made my day

[randolady 1]

Wow! Did you say, "breasts like an African?!" I'm still lauging at that. Tewodrose's mom told me that she was happy that he was marrying a wonderful lady who and to thank my parents for raising, "a good habesha-looking woman." Habesha is what Ethiopians call themselves. I guess our new families want to make us feel like we're part of the family/culture by mentioning things we have in common instead of focusing on the differences. It's sweet.

-Dodie

haha yeah, after Ombeni introduced me to some of his friends in the street, we started to walk away and they shouted "Ana maziwa kama mwafrika!" (she has breasts like an African). I turned around and laughed at them, and they were then mortified that I understood what they said.

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-Dodie

haha yeah, after Ombeni introduced me to some of his friends in the street, we started to walk away and they shouted "Ana maziwa kama mwafrika!" (she has breasts like an African). I turned around and laughed at them, and they were then mortified that I understood what they said.

Look at the quote beneath "breasts like an African". LOL Touch me you bastards!

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Look at the quote beneath "breasts like an African". LOL Touch me you bastards!

heyyy give me a break, I haven't seen Ombeni in 3 months!