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[Maria711 2]

15 minutes ago, missileman said:

You have absolutely NO reason to be sorry.  I sincerely apologize if I sounded harsh....I hope you for you the very best outcome in this difficult time.....I hope you can take charge of you and your child's futures......you can...you must......

Thank you. Tearing up right now.

[Maria711 2]

1 minute ago, NuestraUnion said:

*** Moved to "Effects of Major Family Changes on Immigration Benefits" ***

 

OP,

 

Best of luck to you and look out for you and your son's safety, peace of mind, and happiness above all else.

Thank you. I needed that. Hoping my situation will change soon.

[Villanelle 4,122]

Change doesnt happen on its own. You have to make changes. Create the life you want- one that makes you happy.

 

He has no job, no money and most importantly NO INTENTIONS of getting you any kind of status. Seriously- think about that for a second- he has no intentions of getting you legal status. He is forcing you to remain an illegal immigrant. That is not love. Its cruel, its not how you treat someone you love or care about. 

 

side note @debbiedoo everytime you post I like you more and more. Sorry if that sounds creepy. I just think you are awesome. Probably cause I agree with everything you say- birds of a feather flock together- and you are my kinda flock

 

 

[usmsbow 801]

2 hours ago, Maria711 said:

Met someone and we dated and fell in love. Broke up twice but got back together because he pursued and he decided he couldn't live without me so we got married in August. 

 

Just a piece of advice going forward: put your wants and needs first, not someone else's. It isn't being selfish or self-centered, I promise. 

 

Anyway, best of luck to you. Like everyone else, I think you should fly home as soon as you can. 

 

 

[debbiedoo 2,339]

37 minutes ago, Damara said:

Change doesnt happen on its own. You have to make changes. Create the life you want- one that makes you happy.

 

He has no job, no money and most importantly NO INTENTIONS of getting you any kind of status. Seriously- think about that for a second- he has no intentions of getting you legal status. He is forcing you to remain an illegal immigrant. That is not love. Its cruel, its not how you treat someone you love or care about. 

 

side note @debbiedoo everytime you post I like you more and more. Sorry if that sounds creepy. I just think you are awesome. Probably cause I agree with everything you say- birds of a feather flock together- and you are my kinda flock

 

 

a totally non creepy DITTO!

 

lolol

[CJlove 147]

Maria, as a mother, my only advice is that- once you get back home and hold your child, you will feel better. I’m sure your child misses you too. Wish you the best... 🤞👏👏👏

[Cyberfx1024 7,980]

1 hour ago, Damara said:

Change doesnt happen on its own. You have to make changes. Create the life you want- one that makes you happy.

 

He has no job, no money and most importantly NO INTENTIONS of getting you any kind of status. Seriously- think about that for a second- he has no intentions of getting you legal status. He is forcing you to remain an illegal immigrant. That is not love. Its cruel, its not how you treat someone you love or care about. 

 

side note @debbiedoo everytime you post I like you more and more. Sorry if that sounds creepy. I just think you are awesome. Probably cause I agree with everything you say- birds of a feather flock together- and you are my kinda flock

 

 

I agree on all these points. It sounds like the OP's husband just wants her to stay illegal even though it is detrimental to her. This could be for a variety of reasons I will not name them here. 

 

OP, it sounds like you need to reevaluate everything right now and go forward based off the decision you make then. 

 

@Damara I have to agree with in this as well. @debbiedoo seems like a very rational person and I am happy she is around.

[debbiedoo 2,339]

46 minutes ago, Cyberfx1024 said:

I agree on all these points. It sounds like the OP's husband just wants her to stay illegal even though it is detrimental to her. This could be for a variety of reasons I will not name them here. 

 

OP, it sounds like you need to reevaluate everything right now and go forward based off the decision you make then. 

 

@Damara I have to agree with in this as well. @debbiedoo seems like a very rational person and I am happy she is around.

the whole 2 people on this site who like me. it really must be the christmas season 😂

[Crazy Cat 41,919]

15 minutes ago, debbiedoo said:

the whole 2 people on this site who like me. it really must be the christmas season 😂

Actually, three  😀

[kris&me 572]

many people don't leave as "I really love him"

some stay 20 or more years thru thick and thin 

later to give up

now,  at ages 40 and 50,  they look back and think 

God   i looked good at 20 and 30  and I wasted all that time on someone NOT WORTH IT

BTW

u can call 911 and ask for help as u only have $20

there are plenty of church orginizations the police know about

they can give u # of social services

there is help out there 

u just have to search that area for it

if any abuse past or present there are shelters 

[Visitor User 253]

Sorry about your relationship and break up. It happens. You will get over it with time but you came here in a Visa that wasn’t for the intent of marriage anyway so you really you did not lose anything. You will find another guy in your home country. How are you exactly stuck?

Edited December 8, 2018 by Visitor User

[Boiler 45,579]

Hopefully the Consulate can help.

[theresaL 408]

I read your previous posts from June and July and I'm a little confused. In July you said you were pregnant and had just gotten married to your fiance, but in this thread you state you got married in August. Also, you said your husband spent your "immigration" money. This doesn't sound like you  came here just to visit your aunt, but to husband shop.

 

I'm sorry that it hasn't worked out the way you envisioned it would, but you can always go back to your country. Maybe you could ask family to help you with the cost of the plane ticket? I'm sure your aunt would be willing to help you out of a bad situation. You are currently accruing overstay of your B visa and since you haven't filed AOS you are out of status with no legal standing. I don't think VAWA applies to you because you have no status. Someone correct me if I'm wrong. Your best choice is to go back to your country, file divorce and start again.

[NikLR 13,227]

31 minutes ago, theresaL said:

 I don't think VAWA applies to you because you have no status. Someone correct me if I'm wrong. Your best choice is to go back to your country, file divorce and start again.

Vawa applies to a spouse who is being abused regardless if anything has yet to be filed.  Often it is a way for a person to get status when their controlling and abusive spouse has refused to file anything. 

Keeping someone from having a legal status on purpose is controlling and manipulative.  

[Visitor User 253]

25 minutes ago, NikLR said:

Vawa applies to a spouse who is being abused regardless if anything has yet to be filed.  Often it is a way for a person to get status when their controlling and abusive spouse has refused to file anything. 

Keeping someone from having a legal status on purpose is controlling and manipulative.  

I guess it does not  hurt to hire a lawyer and see if she can self file?