VAWA, Part 12

[FridayGirl@69 318]

12 minutes ago, Milestone2017 said:

This journey has transformed me and appreciated all the sacrifices that we have gone through. Through all the challenges, I have always been reminded that it's not only about surviving the violence. It's also about the strength of character. There's always a rainbow at the end of the tunnel. Always listen to your guts. If something is not right, walk away. Sometimes the red flags are obvious but we try to ignore. To God Be the Glory! Bless us all!

I am so much grateful I chanced upon this forum. My vow is to help in anyway I can. And if my journey can help to share, just let me know. My timeline below. Detailed journey coming soon. Thanks.

June2016 Got married
Sept 2016 Filed 130 485 131 765
Dec2016 1st combo card received
Jan2017 notice to AOS interview on Feb2017. Ex spouse tore the letter. DV gotten worse.
Jan2017 fled marital home with my child, straight to DV shelter.
Feb2017 AOS interview, showed up alone. Requested the IO to hold 485. Given 84days to file.
Mar2017 filed 360
April 2017 1st Prima Facie
Sep2017 2nd combo card renewal c9 to VSC
Oct 2017 2nd Prima Facie 180days
Oct2017 received 2nd combo card
April 2018 3rd PF 60days
May 2018 Traveled outside US with AP (6weeks)
June 2018 4th PF 180days
July2018 asked Congressman for help to inquire status of 360 (taking 16mos already)
July2018 3rd combo card renewal c9 to VSC
Aug2018 received 3rd combo card
Aug2018 360 Approved! NO RFE . Praise God!
Jan2019 traveled with AP (2weeks)
Feb 7 notice of AOS Interview on Feb 26, 2019 (6mos from 360 approval)

On this very special day, I am praying for the great weather, for the officer who will handle the interview, for the traffic, for my energy and stamina. Shed buckets of tears. Heart broken, penniless, jobless, homeless, a child to take care of, traumatized by DV, and going thru divorce filed by ex thinking I could be deported if I became unmarried. Plus the continuous bullying by calling our friends to stop communicating with me. But I have rose above my circumstances victoriously. I have prepared myself so much for this day to come. Mind , body, soul. Thanks for your support and prayers.

Congratulations! 🎉 🇺🇸💫

It is extremely hard but we can do it!

[Jengaeco 4]

32 minutes ago, Milestone2017 said:

This journey has transformed me and appreciated all the sacrifices that we have gone through. Through all the challenges, I have always been reminded that it's not only about surviving the violence. It's also about the strength of character. There's always a rainbow at the end of the tunnel. Always listen to your guts. If something is not right, walk away. Sometimes the red flags are obvious but we try to ignore. To God Be the Glory! Bless us all!

I am so much grateful I chanced upon this forum. My vow is to help in anyway I can. And if my journey can help to share, just let me know. My timeline below. Detailed journey coming soon. Thanks.

June2016 Got married
Sept 2016 Filed 130 485 131 765
Dec2016 1st combo card received
Jan2017 notice to AOS interview on Feb2017. Ex spouse tore the letter. DV gotten worse.
Jan2017 fled marital home with my child, straight to DV shelter.
Feb2017 AOS interview, showed up alone. Requested the IO to hold 485. Given 84days to file.
Mar2017 filed 360
April 2017 1st Prima Facie
Sep2017 2nd combo card renewal c9 to VSC
Oct 2017 2nd Prima Facie 180days
Oct2017 received 2nd combo card
April 2018 3rd PF 60days
May 2018 Traveled outside US with AP (6weeks)
June 2018 4th PF 180days
July2018 asked Congressman for help to inquire status of 360 (taking 16mos already)
July2018 3rd combo card renewal c9 to VSC
Aug2018 received 3rd combo card
Aug2018 360 Approved! NO RFE . Praise God!
Jan2019 traveled with AP (2weeks)
Feb 7 notice of AOS Interview on Feb 26, 2019 (6mos from 360 approval)

On this very special day, I am praying for the great weather, for the officer who will handle the interview, for the traffic, for my energy and stamina. Shed buckets of tears. Heart broken, penniless, jobless, homeless, a child to take care of, traumatized by DV, and going thru divorce filed by ex thinking I could be deported if I became unmarried. Plus the continuous bullying by calling our friends to stop communicating with me. But I have rose above my circumstances victoriously. I have prepared myself so much for this day to come. Mind , body, soul. Thanks for your support and prayers.

Congratulations!!!! 

[xoxox 72]

5 hours ago, Mnmnm said:

Thank you so much for your help 

uscis denied 485 because I can’t get my AP stamp from CBP and CBP is not gonna back date and stamp it. The abandonment was for the old 485. I wonder if I file a new one is it gonna affect it. 

Unfortunately yes , Because they will denied again for the same reason when you file new 485. As I mentioned before The Only thing you have to do is Waiver and filling new 485 or Reopen the pervious Case .

Good lawyer will guide you for the right direction  .

 

 

 

Edited February 18, 2019 by xoxox

[xoxox 72]

1 hour ago, Milestone2017 said:

This journey has transformed me and appreciated all the sacrifices that we have gone through. Through all the challenges, I have always been reminded that it's not only about surviving the violence. It's also about the strength of character. There's always a rainbow at the end of the tunnel. Always listen to your guts. If something is not right, walk away. Sometimes the red flags are obvious but we try to ignore. To God Be the Glory! Bless us all!

I am so much grateful I chanced upon this forum. My vow is to help in anyway I can. And if my journey can help to share, just let me know. My timeline below. Detailed journey coming soon. Thanks.

June2016 Got married
Sept 2016 Filed 130 485 131 765
Dec2016 1st combo card received
Jan2017 notice to AOS interview on Feb2017. Ex spouse tore the letter. DV gotten worse.
Jan2017 fled marital home with my child, straight to DV shelter.
Feb2017 AOS interview, showed up alone. Requested the IO to hold 485. Given 84days to file.
Mar2017 filed 360
April 2017 1st Prima Facie
Sep2017 2nd combo card renewal c9 to VSC
Oct 2017 2nd Prima Facie 180days
Oct2017 received 2nd combo card
April 2018 3rd PF 60days
May 2018 Traveled outside US with AP (6weeks)
June 2018 4th PF 180days
July2018 asked Congressman for help to inquire status of 360 (taking 16mos already)
July2018 3rd combo card renewal c9 to VSC
Aug2018 received 3rd combo card
Aug2018 360 Approved! NO RFE . Praise God!
Jan2019 traveled with AP (2weeks)
Feb 7 notice of AOS Interview on Feb 26, 2019 (6mos from 360 approval)

On this very special day, I am praying for the great weather, for the officer who will handle the interview, for the traffic, for my energy and stamina. Shed buckets of tears. Heart broken, penniless, jobless, homeless, a child to take care of, traumatized by DV, and going thru divorce filed by ex thinking I could be deported if I became unmarried. Plus the continuous bullying by calling our friends to stop communicating with me. But I have rose above my circumstances victoriously. I have prepared myself so much for this day to come. Mind , body, soul. Thanks for your support and prayers.

Congratulations .

Best luck for you .

Did you Received your NOA for interview by NBC or local office issued ?

 

[WhomJahBless 12]

Hello Everyone, Long-ish post incoming. 

 

This is kind of hard for me to write because I am male and there is that masculine part of me that doesn't want to admit that I was abused but there is also the part of me that knows that I need to get help. 

I came to the US as an F1 student and I met my wife while I was in college and immediately we hit it off. We were literally together whenever we weren't in class. It sounds cliche but we fell madly in love. We dated for two years and decided to get married. Up until this point, it was like a dream, I had found the love of my life. We barely argued or had any issues. If we did they were easily fixed by sitting down and telling each other how we felt, with some makeup sex thrown in for good measure. A few months before we got married we moved in together and this is where my dream turned into a nightmare. We started arguing a lot, over little things. Most of the arguments were started by her. She started getting annoyed with me, and became increasingly irritable and nasty towards me, calling me out my name and verbally abusing me. Eventually, it cumulated one night when we began to drink for celebrating the graduation of a mutual friend. She got drunk and in her rage attempted to attack me with a knife. My friend was able to take the knife away from her while I hid in a room and called her friend to take her to her home for the night so that she would calm down. While this happened she realized I was in the room and broke the door down. The police were called by the security guard but I did not press charges, and I begged the owner of the door not to press charges either. (I was subleasing) and took over the cost of the door. She was arrested for disorderly conduct and given anger management classes. She apologized and we talked about the underlying feelings she had towards me and our living situation; I took it as growing pains and we ended up staying together. Another incident she smashed my finger in the door and sprained it. I ended up going to the ER and got a splint and some meds for the pain. At this point I did not consider it abuse but just that she had a hot temper, after all, I've been known about her temper since I met her. Long story short, we worked through the summer and got married and moved in together. For a while in between there things were good; until she started using the immigrant card on me and manipulating me into doing things for her. She threatened to call the police on me, refused to finish the AOS application with me and continued to antagonize me, treating me like I was the scum of the earth. It still hurts immensely knowing that someone I loved so much could switch so effortlessly and do this to me. Late last year I left and went to live with family in a different state. I started getting counseling from an online company called BetterHelp that specializes in online therapy since I have no money and no transportation. 

 

I recently found out about VAWA and have been lurking this forum for quite some time, reading about VAWA and everyone's success stories. I have begun to meet with a pro-bono attorney that has done VAWA cases specifically. We are currently preparing for the I-360, I-485, I-765 & I-912 to file concurrently. I have a few questions for this board that I hope you guys will be able to help me with. 

 

• I have noticed a lack of male applicants for VAWA and have heard through the grapevine that it is much harder for male applicants than female. Would anyone know this to be true?
• I've seen that it is recommended for a psychological evaluation to send in with the I-360 to prove that you have been mentally/emotionally abused. I have no money for this right now, are there any options? Perhaps the messages between me and my therapist on BetterHelp?
• I plan on sending screenshots texts that she has sent me that were abusive, does anyone have any experience using this method?
• As stated above, I did not press charges against my wife, but she was ultimately charged by the state and did community service and anger management, I did not tell the officers of her breaking the door to attack me, just that she broke it in a drunken stupor; will me not saying anything hurt my chances? or would I be able to explain this to the IO?
• We are not divorced yet, I plan on doing it as soon as I get some money. Would this hurt my case?
• I have only two people that knew about the abuse, my best friends. They have agreed to do affidavits on my behalf, will that be enough?
• Does anyone have any free/cheap places to get psychological evaluations? I like my therapist on BetterHelp but she is unable to write affidavits on my behalf.
• I did not expect to be in this situation, and now because of it I am out of status (I graduated last semester) and I assume accumulating unlawful presence. How does this affect my application/situation?

If you've read this far thank you! I'm looking for any and all help & information that I can receive right now. Please refrain from the, "Why did you stay?" questions as I've heard enough of them by now. I'm looking to get this done as smoothly and effectively as possible.

 

Once again thank you and God Speed!

 

[ahmad- 56]

Hello Guys,  my attorney sent in my EAD Renewal (based on pending vawa - adjustment of status), my renewal payment was cashed in with in a week after they received my package. The check was cashed at 1/4/19. Can some one tell me how long it takes to get a RECEIPT after the payment has been cashed? I did not receive any receipt yet. 

[FridayGirl@69 318]

7 minutes ago, ahmad- said:

Hello Guys,  my attorney sent in my EAD Renewal (based on pending vawa - adjustment of status), my renewal payment was cashed in with in a week after they received my package. The check was cashed at 1/4/19. Can some one tell me how long it takes to get a RECEIPT after the payment has been cashed? I did not receive any receipt yet. 

Generally to get NOA’s receipt are 7-16 up to 30 days, average time is 10-12 days

[TBoneTX 45,649]

8 hours ago, WhomJahBless said:

there is that masculine part of me that doesn't want to admit that I was abused

There's no shame in this.  It has happened to a lot of us.

There's no better feeling than to be free of it.

 

Conferring equal peace is the realization that, in the future, "whether it's a first date or a committed relationship, even one act of violence in anger directed against me means that this relationship is immediately and permanently over."

 

Folks will be along to help with your specific situation.  Keep the faith.

[FridayGirl@69 318]

14 hours ago, WhomJahBless said:

Hello Everyone, Long-ish post incoming. 

 

This is kind of hard for me to write because I am male and there is that masculine part of me that doesn't want to admit that I was abused but there is also the part of me that knows that I need to get help. 

I came to the US as an F1 student and I met my wife while I was in college and immediately we hit it off. We were literally together whenever we weren't in class. It sounds cliche but we fell madly in love. We dated for two years and decided to get married. Up until this point, it was like a dream, I had found the love of my life. We barely argued or had any issues. If we did they were easily fixed by sitting down and telling each other how we felt, with some makeup sex thrown in for good measure. A few months before we got married we moved in together and this is where my dream turned into a nightmare. We started arguing a lot, over little things. Most of the arguments were started by her. She started getting annoyed with me, and became increasingly irritable and nasty towards me, calling me out my name and verbally abusing me. Eventually, it cumulated one night when we began to drink for celebrating the graduation of a mutual friend. She got drunk and in her rage attempted to attack me with a knife. My friend was able to take the knife away from her while I hid in a room and called her friend to take her to her home for the night so that she would calm down. While this happened she realized I was in the room and broke the door down. The police were called by the security guard but I did not press charges, and I begged the owner of the door not to press charges either. (I was subleasing) and took over the cost of the door. She was arrested for disorderly conduct and given anger management classes. She apologized and we talked about the underlying feelings she had towards me and our living situation; I took it as growing pains and we ended up staying together. Another incident she smashed my finger in the door and sprained it. I ended up going to the ER and got a splint and some meds for the pain. At this point I did not consider it abuse but just that she had a hot temper, after all, I've been known about her temper since I met her. Long story short, we worked through the summer and got married and moved in together. For a while in between there things were good; until she started using the immigrant card on me and manipulating me into doing things for her. She threatened to call the police on me, refused to finish the AOS application with me and continued to antagonize me, treating me like I was the scum of the earth. It still hurts immensely knowing that someone I loved so much could switch so effortlessly and do this to me. Late last year I left and went to live with family in a different state. I started getting counseling from an online company called BetterHelp that specializes in online therapy since I have no money and no transportation. 

 

I recently found out about VAWA and have been lurking this forum for quite some time, reading about VAWA and everyone's success stories. I have begun to meet with a pro-bono attorney that has done VAWA cases specifically. We are currently preparing for the I-360, I-485, I-765 & I-912 to file concurrently. I have a few questions for this board that I hope you guys will be able to help me with. 

 

• I have noticed a lack of male applicants for VAWA and have heard through the grapevine that it is much harder for male applicants than female. Would anyone know this to be true?
• I've seen that it is recommended for a psychological evaluation to send in with the I-360 to prove that you have been mentally/emotionally abused. I have no money for this right now, are there any options? Perhaps the messages between me and my therapist on BetterHelp?
• I plan on sending screenshots texts that she has sent me that were abusive, does anyone have any experience using this method?
• As stated above, I did not press charges against my wife, but she was ultimately charged by the state and did community service and anger management, I did not tell the officers of her breaking the door to attack me, just that she broke it in a drunken stupor; will me not saying anything hurt my chances? or would I be able to explain this to the IO?
• We are not divorced yet, I plan on doing it as soon as I get some money. Would this hurt my case?
• I have only two people that knew about the abuse, my best friends. They have agreed to do affidavits on my behalf, will that be enough?
• Does anyone have any free/cheap places to get psychological evaluations? I like my therapist on BetterHelp but she is unable to write affidavits on my behalf.
• I did not expect to be in this situation, and now because of it I am out of status (I graduated last semester) and I assume accumulating unlawful presence. How does this affect my application/situation?

If you've read this far thank you! I'm looking for any and all help & information that I can receive right now. Please refrain from the, "Why did you stay?" questions as I've heard enough of them by now. I'm looking to get this done as smoothly and effectively as possible.

 

Once again thank you and God Speed!

 

I am sorry to read your story, you are not alone and it is important to recognize what it happening to you before it consumes you. Be Strong!

Go to Catholic Charties, they offered low cost therapy or a Jewish Community Center, they help too ( I go here in Illinois to Josselyn Center)

Get copies of the anger management very helpful, birth certificates (both of yours), Bank, utilities,mortgage, rental agreements etc... good luck!

don't let your status expire, it will be better for you.

[Milestone2017 53]

17 hours ago, xoxox said:

Congratulations .

Best luck for you .

Did you Received your NOA for interview by NBC or local office issued ?

 

Thank you! From local office. 

[Milestone2017 53]

18 hours ago, Jengaeco said:

Congratulations!!!! 

Thanks! 

[xoxox 72]

1 minute ago, Milestone2017 said:

Thank you! From local office. 

Thank you so much for your respond .

 

Did you received G 56 form or i 797 form for your interview  ?

[FridayGirl@69 318]

17 hours ago, xoxox said:

Congratulations .

Best luck for you .

Did you Received your NOA for interview by NBC or local office issued ?

 

Again Congratulations 🍾 Could you please let us know for those that we are still waiting I485 to get adjudicated...

How long from I360 approval to get a notice either of transfer to Visa Center Local Office? Thanks in advanced.

let us know how does it go on the interview, we will be sending positive waves and prayers to you! 

[xoxox 72]

16 minutes ago, FridayGirl@69 said:

Again Congratulations 🍾 Could you please let us know for those that we are still waiting I485 to get adjudicated...

How long from I360 approval to get a notice either of transfer to Visa Center Local Office? Thanks in advanced.

let us know how does it go on the interview, we will be sending positive waves and prayers to you! 

I think you get confused : )

You wanted to ask this question to @Milestone2017 .

[FridayGirl@69 318]

17 minutes ago, xoxox said:

I think you get confused : )

You wanted to ask this question to @Milestone2017 .

Correct! Sorry! Good Luck to you too!!  Did you go to lawyer already?