What if we can't meet financial requirements?

[athena_ny 1]

I've been in a fairly similar situation, money-wise. po' college student with a crappy part-time job.

My fiance was here on a student visa and graduated in December. I moved back home nine months early in order to work and save up money. (Living with my mom & not having to pay for rent/food!) I chose not to be with him over the summer, in Canada, so that I could work and save up money.

I took a semester off of college and continued to work and save up money.

I went back to college only part-time in order to work and save up money.

I am lucky that my dad is willing and able to co-sponsor us. However, as someone has already pointed out, getting him over here is only half the problem. The whole process only gets more and more expensive as you go along. On top of that, he (probably) won't be able to work for ~ninety days once he gets here. Supporting two people on a single, small income is one challenge that I'm not looking forward to. (And we have several thousand in the bank, combined.)

Okay, enough about me. Not that there's much that hasn't already been said:

get a second job. It really isn't about education. I don't have a university degree yet and I'm making $9.50 an hour doing secretarial work.

have patience. Your situation is only as hopeless as you make it sound. And the more hopeless you get, the more convinced you become that your situation really is hopeless.

Although I am curious -- have you two met in person? (Traveling is expensive.) That's also a requirement for the K-1...

I'm 20 and have no college degree and I make 13 an hour in a publishing office. A situation is only as bad as you make it, and there are always options - at least one or two.

[athena_ny 1]

Are you still living at home with your parents? If you are, I'd seriously consider getting your GED and then think about going to a tech school part time for your associates degree. It's hard enough finding a decent job with a bachelors degree let along trying to get one without even a high school diploma. You have the added advantage of living at home so you don't have to worry much about bills.

Also, think about a second job as others have stated. Wal-mart is ALWAYS hiring. They also have some benefits. I know some people that started off with the Wal-mart here from day 1 and they are doing well for themselves.

You work and go to school and try to get a few hours of sleep in between. Seriously. It's not an easy road to go down, but if this is what you want, you are going to need to make some sacrifices. Once he gets there, where will he stay? Will your parents take you both in, or will you get an apartment? Nothing ruins a relationship faster than having to stay with the parents and apartments in a city like Phoenix are going to run you over $500 plus utilities easily. A check from Taco Bell alone is not going to be enough. Remember, it will take time before he will be able to work.

I think everyone here has given you some good advice. It's up to you to decide how or if you want to take it. Anything that is worth having takes time and hard work to get.

I've been living with my mother and law and sister in law (along with my husband) for the last year. I think the assumption it ruins a relationship isn't a great one to make, considering it's situation and personality specific.

[Serena Klein 0]

possible

for me

That's what I wanted to hear, thank you.