Help with K1/AoS and terrible marriage problem please

[LostInUSA 0]

I never expected a red carpet. At all.

Much like a lot of other LDRs, everything is built online so you think everything is rosey and will be amazing. It's only when you live with or spend a long period of time with someone you find out their habits, flaws, and such. Soooo, yeah. I came here based on what I was spoonfed over Skype and other social media platforms. Had this amazing future mapped out. After a few weeks, it all changed.

I'm sorry that happened, @abbynak. If I knew it was going to happen, I wouldn't have come here.

 

To everyone who has commented, thank you. I will look over all of this and see what my options are and where I stand with things. A lot of you have been super helpful and I really appreciate everything you have posted. 💙

[Shiran 1,134]

15 minutes ago, LostInUSA said:

I never expected a red carpet. At all.

Much like a lot of other LDRs, everything is built online so you think everything is rosey and will be amazing. It's only when you live with or spend a long period of time with someone you find out their habits, flaws, and such. Soooo, yeah. I came here based on what I was spoonfed over Skype and other social media platforms. Had this amazing future mapped out. After a few weeks, it all changed.

I'm sorry that happened, @abbynak. If I knew it was going to happen, I wouldn't have come here.

 

To everyone who has commented, thank you. I will look over all of this and see what my options are and where I stand with things. A lot of you have been super helpful and I really appreciate everything you have posted. 💙

Everyone makes mistakes, people with sociopath tendencies can naturally hide very well, especially over long distance. The person clearly lead, and possibly still leads double life. Red carpet? No. Expecting to support a single wage earner for months via AoS process, building life together, etc is all part of the process, even dealing with an occasiional argument and disagreements. But being trapped in a cellar with an abusive manipulative slob is not who work to isolate you but cutting off all external communication, to make you think that cellar IS the entire world is not part of it.

[TM92 527]

1 hour ago, Ash.1101 said:

No I believe in this case it would be cartoons depicting actual children...

@Ash.1101, you are correct; the DOJ even has a guide, https://www.justice.gov/criminal-ceos/citizens-guide-us-federal-law-obscenity:

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Section 1466A of Title 18, United State Code, makes it illegal for any person to knowingly produce, distribute, receive, or possess with intent to transfer or distribute visual representations, such as drawings, cartoons, or paintings that appear to depict minors engaged in sexually explicit conduct and are deemed obscene. This statute offers an alternative 2-pronged test for obscenity with a lower threshold than the Miller test. The matter involving minors can be deemed obscene if it (i) depicts an image that is, or appears to be a minor engaged in graphic bestiality, sadistic or masochistic abuse, or sexual intercourse and (ii) if the image lacks serious literary, artistic, political, or scientific value. A first time offender convicted under this statute faces fines and at least 5 years to a maximum of 20 years in prison.

[Diane and Chris 651]

10 hours ago, Boiler said:

There was nothing VAWA ish in the initial posting.

 Right, but there was a heck of a lot of it throughout the post and many people advising without knowing what they’re talking about!  Some good advice was to go to the embassy and ask for their help. 

[Ontarkie 14,236]

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[nekotakacho 60]

Firstly, you need to report child pornography whenever you know of it happening and occurring. If you do not report it, you could be considered complicit in it. If he gets caught with serious child pornography and you had knowledge, you are just as guilty. You have publicly admitted to having knowledge, you have posted it here on this forum!!

Contact the Center for Missing and Exploited children immediately to start your case against him!

 

https://www.thoughtco.com/how-to-report-child-pornography-970973 

Edited October 31, 2018 by nekotakacho