Did you tell your employers?

[jessicashmessica 10]

Good day, all. To distract us all from the ####### situation we’re all in, I thought I’d start a little thread about something I’ve wondered about and have not seen on VJ.

 

For those of you who are leaving your countries to be with your spouse/SO at some unknown point, did you tell your workplace that you are leaving the country (and obviously the job, too) at some point? 

 

I will start. I got this job in November 2016, a week after getting married. We submitted when my US husband graduated—that is, July 2018. As far as my job knows, my husband will be moving here (a lie, and yes I feel badly about it), not the other way around (the truth is I will be moving to glorious America whenever this blessed visa arrives). 

 

How about you? Did you tell your workplace? Will you? 

[Ben&Zian 4,398]

Obviously as some point people have to tell their employer they are resigning/quitting. Generally people don't until they have visa in hand (or shouldn't anyways just to be safe). For my husband he gave a notice 2 weeks before his interview (his decision) and then worked his last two weeks training up his replacement for them. Don't have to tell them why or what ever though.

Edited October 10, 2018 by Ben&Zian

[Perfect two 💑 1,147]

8 minutes ago, jessicashmessica said:

Good day, all. To distract us all from the ####### situation we’re all in, I thought I’d start a little thread about something I’ve wondered about and have not seen on VJ.

 

For those of you who are leaving your countries to be with your spouse/SO at some unknown point, did you tell your workplace that you are leaving the country (and obviously the job, too) at some point? 

 

I will start. I got this job in November 2016, a week after getting married. We submitted when my US husband graduated—that is, July 2018. As far as my job knows, my husband will be moving here (a lie, and yes I feel badly about it), not the other way around (the truth is I will be moving to glorious America whenever this blessed visa arrives). 

 

How about you? Did you tell your workplace? Will you? 

At my workplace, we have strong relationship at work and after work. So, when I first start relationship with my fiance (now he is my husband). I told my manager and my colleague about the relationship and my intention to immigrate there. So, they always being up to date about what happened. My manager even kindly write a recommendation letter for me, so that I can use that to find a job here. It is fine if you didn't tell them. It is not compulsory to tell about that. Just tell them when you have visa on hand and when you want to quit the job. 

[tamcloud 92]

It really would depend on the person's work situation. My wife told her employers early on, but they didn't believe her. We'd intended to start the process the year before, but they offered her increased responsibilities which would enhance her career and we delayed for a bit. After all, though pricey, a trip to Bermuda was only 2 hours travel from NYC, where I lived at the time. They figured the same would happen again. Now, I'd met her job mates and boss on various of my trips (plus I lived there for a bit), and they knew of our long-distance relationship, from both before and after she'd lived in the U.S. (she was here several years gaining degrees). Additionally, some of them (being a bit homophobic) didn't really see validity in our relationship...despite the fact we'd been together about 18 years when we did file. Even after she moved and we married, they offered her a project to work remotely (which she took), then another full-time position on the staff (which she didn't take), assuming she (maybe even we) would just move back.

 

That was a bit wordy, but I was caught up in now amusing memories.

 

For most, I'd recommend giving proper notice when the visa is in hand. For some, it could jeopardize their position and I totally would agree that they keep it closely held until necessary.

Edited October 10, 2018 by tamcloud

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[JFH 12,190]

My workplace knew all about it. Colleagues would ask me how our case was progressing, what the next step was, etc. The senior management sent me flowers and champagne when our I-130 was approved. I had my interview on December 6 and my last day of work was December 9. They knew where I was going on December 6 and there were emails going all day "wonder if she's had her interview yet?" and "wonder when we will get the news" and I called my good friend at work when I came out of the embassy to say my visa had been approved and sent an email to the whole department "SHE DID IT!!!!!!". Thus followed a whole load of congratulatory messages. My leaving party was 3 nights in Amsterdam and we had a great time. 

[TBoneTX 45,223]

Mrs. T-B.-to-be (who, incidentally, made POE here 10 years ago as of October 9) had a different situation.

We were fighting the ####### Guayaquil consulate for many months, so she had to fill her time.

She started her own business, selling & installing high-reception telephone antennas, on her own schedule.

She got to see parts of Ecuador that she wouldn't have seen otherwise.

This included 2-hour horseback rides up mountains, and fording streams on customers' handmade boats.

Once, a customer walked 6 hours through the jungle to buy an antenna from her (true story).

 

She didn't come to the U.S. for a few weeks after she got her visa, because of commitments to customers.

Now, she's my final wife, at least for now.

Her presence here proves that she wasn't eaten by one of those industrial-sized boa constrictors in the Ecu jungles.

[jessicashmessica 10]

4 hours ago, JFH said:

My workplace knew all about it. Colleagues would ask me how our case was progressing, what the next step was, etc. The senior management sent me flowers and champagne when our I-130 was approved. I had my interview on December 6 and my last day of work was December 9. They knew where I was going on December 6 and there were emails going all day "wonder if she's had her interview yet?" and "wonder when we will get the news" and I called my good friend at work when I came out of the embassy to say my visa had been approved and sent an email to the whole department "SHE DID IT!!!!!!". Thus followed a whole load of congratulatory messages. My leaving party was 3 nights in Amsterdam and we had a great time. 

Wow that’s amazing. That’s nothing like my coworkers would be. 

35 minutes ago, TBoneTX said:

Mrs. T-B.-to-be (who, incidentally, made POE here 10 years ago as of October 9) had a different situation.

We were fighting the ####### Guayaquil consulate for many months, so she had to fill her time.

She started her own business, selling & installing high-reception telephone antennas, on her own schedule.

She got to see parts of Ecuador that she wouldn't have seen otherwise.

This included 2-hour horseback rides up mountains, and fording streams on customers' handmade boats.

Once, a customer walked 6 hours through the jungle to buy an antenna from her (true story).

 

She didn't come to the U.S. for a few weeks after she got her visa, because of commitments to customers.

Now, she's my final wife, at least for now.

Her presence here proves that she wasn't eaten by one of those industrial-sized boa constrictors in the Ecu jungles.

LOL!