Have you discussed with your SO...

[canadalaura 0]

Yeah, we shared this info... even talked about past experiences a bit. Numbers wise I have him beat. It doesn't make me jealous thinking of people he's slept with - the only thing I really don't like to hear about is stuff about his ex-girlfriend.

Really I have nothing to be jealous of - we have eachother now!

[rebeccajo 14]

Uh, no, i don't think we did an actual head count.........

*looking for plastic wood to fill bedpost notches*

[iteq 0]

People - you are killing me here.

All of you girls that said "he told me and I didn't care" of full of #######! I'm sorry but I just have to call ya'll out. Nobody is that cool.

call me out then.

I don't care who he was with before, he's with me now.

and fyi.. i've been with more ppl than he has

LOL

If you really didn't care then you wouldn't ask

Was he cool with the fact that you have been with more people?

Of course I was cool with that why on earth wouldnt I be?

[Kajikit 65]

Why should I be jealous of somebody he hasn't seen in over a decade? Or even the girl he was engaged to before me who chickened out of their long-distance relationship when things got serious... I would only care if he had a history of hurting women, or if he was a philanderer with a girl in every port. He didn't hurt these women - for various reasons, they hurt HIM.

I knew about the (few) recent women but I didn't really want to know about the ones in the distant past. He's almost ten years older than me, so of course he had partners long before me - he was sexually active while I was still in primary school! He insisted on telling me far more than I wanted to know about them, but we don't talk about it any more - he felt I should know before I committed to him.

[Laveau 67]

Yes, we discussed this before we even met in person. When all you have is "chat" for so long you kinda end up talking about everything since it's all you have.

[Welshcookie 17]

Well I knew him pretty well for a long time before we became a couple...lets just say I asked for a full sexual health exam before I slept with him....

And.....previous sexual partners don't bother me...as long as I knew he wasn't passing any thing onto me the rest is irrelevent..

[almaty 19]

good idea....welch cake..a friend of mine got the bullhead clap 3 x when younger..and probably from the same woman .

[eau_xplain 2]

Yes we have and it really doesn't matter.

[Canuck Carrie 1]

Don't ask, don't tell.

[Melo 1]

People - you are killing me here.

All of you girls that said "he told me and I didn't care" of full of #######! I'm sorry but I just have to call ya'll out. Nobody is that cool.

I don't care how many or who they were before I ever met him... after all I too had a life before him... though I would not be so cool if they are anywhere near him now...

[gwenneh 7]

Absolutely. And let me tell you...I worked in the *ahem* adult entertainment industry* to put myself through college-if he ever wanted to know, there's plenty of evidence for him to see.

Neither of us particularly cares what happened in the other's past. It's the present and the future that matters. I do get the occasional twinge of jealousy when we discuss one of his exes, but since both of us agree that the other is by far and away the best we've ever had, I can easily ignore them when they come up.

[radacos 0]

Sure, we talked about it! Reminiscing can sometimes be kinda hot. And while I do get jealous sometimes, I am rarely ever jealous of the past -- I mean, those relationships ended *for a reason* and those flings were, well, just flings! Why would I be jealous of women he knew before me, women that he actively decided he wouldn't spend the rest of his life with?

[Marilyn. 340]

it was a non issue for us because both of us had never slept with anyone before each other....

I hadn't even really kissed a guy before I met him

He only had kissed one or two girls before me ... and it does bother me a little that I wasn't the first girl he kissed but I am the only one he is kissing now, so what does it matter

Edited March 23, 2006 by MarilynP

[canadalaura 0]

This thread makes me feel like a ho

[joej 0]

This thread makes me feel like a ho

Me too.