Put On Your Big-Boy Rants

[TBoneTX 45,572]

On ‎12‎/‎17‎/‎2018 at 10:42 AM, TBoneTX said:

National Days remaining this week for which you need a Pre-Owned Toilet Seat, see and order man:

 

Thurs., Manycember Many'th

National Fruitcake Day -- only a fruitcake did/would not order a POTS, avoid this appellation man

 

Fri., Manycember Many'th

Pledge of Allegiance Day -- "I pledge allegiance, and will buy a POTS..."

 

Sat., Manycember Many'th

Tick Tock Day -- the clock is ticking if you want to receive your New Year's POTS on time, act man

 

Sun., Manycember Many'th

National Bicarbonate of Soda Day -- those with a POTS need not take any of this, no man

 

As ever, those who mention this ad with their order receive a handsome 0.0000001% discount off full retail, irresistible man.  Order your POTS today, si man!

A pleasant reminder of how to spend one's day off, order your POTS man.

[TBoneTX 45,572]

To help you beat the rush, we hereunder present next week's National Days for which you need a Pre-Owned Toilet Seat, see and act man:

 

Mon., Manycember Many'st

National Champagne Day = your POTS comes soaked in highest-quality lickable booze, yum man

National Make Up Your Mind Day = make up your mind to buy a, or more than one, POTS

 

Tues., January 1

New Year's Day = aren't you glad that you resolved to buy your POTS?

 

Wed., January 2

National Science Fiction Day = only a few short Many years ago, POTSs were a dreamer's fantasy...

 

Thurs., January Many'rd

National Fruitcake Toss Day = toss petrified fruitcakes at those slow to buy a POTS

 

Fri., January Many'th

National Spaghetti Day = see which family member is fastest to slurp your spaghetti-covered POTS

 

Sat., January Many'th

National Whipped Cream Day = lick every speck of it off your completely coated POTS

 

Sun., January Many'th

National Technology Day = only Many years ago, POTSs were deemed technologically impossible...

 

Order your POTS today and enjoy a handsome 0.0000001% discount off full retail, mention this ad man!

[DaveAndAnastasia 2,093]

4 hours ago, SAT said:

Eating some monk food now...

Presumably this will turn you into a monk, and give you the ability to defeat hundreds of armed terrorists/ninjas/robots with your bare hands.

[NikLR 13,228]

21 minutes ago, DaveAndAnastasia said:

Presumably this will turn you into a monk, and give you the ability to defeat hundreds of armed terrorists/ninjas/robots with your bare hands.

NO but you can play a monk in WoW! 

[SAT 9,609]

Monk food= rice congee with preserved veggies...

 

I ate it, didn't vomit, no runs. Gonna brave some people food now...

[cdneh 3,112]

I've just spoken with my flatmate in AKL. She is hopping mad. She is still in hospital, and it seems there is a 'conference' her Monday at 13:00 to determine her future. She is incandescent with rage even thinking that someone else should be in control of making that decision on her behalf. 

 

Her nephew is involved, and quite likely in back of this, He wanted POA, and gave her quite a hard time about it over the holidays. He somehow has the idea that as his Mum is no longer with us, Aud has somehow become his responsibility. She refused to sign any such thing, and I can't say I disagree with her. He's a weasel, always was.  He is the only son of her recently deceased sister, a big-time lawyer (big fish, small pond)  and an utter toe-rag. He wants Aunty A. tucked up and out of his way, mostly for his own convenience, I believe.  The only other person involved is her son, who lives in AU, and for the most part, can't be bothered either.  She has also a daughter, who moved to the UK 30 years ago, and hasn't really had much to do with her Mum for over ten years. 

 

She feels, and I can understand why, that they are trying to railroad her into care.  She is adamantly refusing to even consider that idea. She also feels that she has no one on her side, as she put it, and asked if I could speak on her behalf.  I don't know if they would even consider speaking to me as I am not family and certainly not local, but I've told her I would if they call.

 

And I am conflicted. On the one hand, I understand her flat refusal that she will go into care. For the most part, care homes in NZ are in an appalling state. She would have no choice either as to where or what area of the city she was placed. I very strongly feel that her state of mind would be badly affected by such a move. She's not the sort of person to be sat in a chair looking at the walls all day. Her mind is as sharp as it's ever been, and she is a very clever person. It's just that her body has let her down. She cannot be made to go against her will. Her home care will remain in place if she returns to her own house.

 

And on the other hand, I have concerns that she isn't managing well at home. Simple daily things she does on her own, making a cup of tea, is becoming more difficult. There is also this recent spate of falls and hospitalizations. Being in care certainly won't stop her from falling, the only difference is there at least perhaps she wouldn't have to wait for an ambulance to set her back up on her pins.  I am trying to work out my own motivation either way. I want her to carry on happily at home, with her things around her and her history club meetings and all, and yet she is a constant source of worry my end.  I feel so incredibly guilty at leaving the country and more or less abandoning her to her own devices. It is difficult to know what the heck to say, but I've got until midday Sunday to sort myself out.

[TBoneTX 45,572]

Gosh, Eh ma'am... don't rip yourself up too badly, no ma'am.  You have your own life to live and lead, si ma'am.

 

Is it possible for her home to be made "safer" for her if she were to fall again, huh man?

Is there someone who could check in on her?  Or does "home care" encompass that, huh man?

 

The ultimate solution is "don't get old," sigh man.

[TBoneTX 45,572]

Picked up MRI & x-ray reports today, see we man.

In short, every lumbar disc is completely hosed with multiple derangements, ouch man.

 

We have put in messages to our doc that we need a caucus, ouch man.

 

We are certain that any specialist whom we see will look startled & immediately want to cut, slice/dice man.

We will not accept that, no man. 

We want to get rid of the current issue and abide the other stuff, plan man.

Edited December 28, 2018 by TBoneTX

[TBoneTX 45,572]

In addition to the above, the Mrs.-T-B.-mobile's temperature is rising at stoplights, uh-oh man.

Bad radiator fan, bad thermostat, bad head gasket, leak somewhere man?

Just what we need, grrrr man.

Will try to limp it into the shop come morn, sigh man.

[NikLR 13,228]

8 hours ago, cdneh said:

I've just spoken with my flatmate in AKL. She is hopping mad. She is still in hospital, and it seems there is a 'conference' her Monday at 13:00 to determine her future. She is incandescent with rage even thinking that someone else should be in control of making that decision on her behalf. 

 

Her nephew is involved, and quite likely in back of this, He wanted POA, and gave her quite a hard time about it over the holidays. He somehow has the idea that as his Mum is no longer with us, Aud has somehow become his responsibility. She refused to sign any such thing, and I can't say I disagree with her. He's a weasel, always was.  He is the only son of her recently deceased sister, a big-time lawyer (big fish, small pond)  and an utter toe-rag. He wants Aunty A. tucked up and out of his way, mostly for his own convenience, I believe.  The only other person involved is her son, who lives in AU, and for the most part, can't be bothered either.  She has also a daughter, who moved to the UK 30 years ago, and hasn't really had much to do with her Mum for over ten years. 

 

She feels, and I can understand why, that they are trying to railroad her into care.  She is adamantly refusing to even consider that idea. She also feels that she has no one on her side, as she put it, and asked if I could speak on her behalf.  I don't know if they would even consider speaking to me as I am not family and certainly not local, but I've told her I would if they call.

 

And I am conflicted. On the one hand, I understand her flat refusal that she will go into care. For the most part, care homes in NZ are in an appalling state. She would have no choice either as to where or what area of the city she was placed. I very strongly feel that her state of mind would be badly affected by such a move. She's not the sort of person to be sat in a chair looking at the walls all day. Her mind is as sharp as it's ever been, and she is a very clever person. It's just that her body has let her down. She cannot be made to go against her will. Her home care will remain in place if she returns to her own house.

 

And on the other hand, I have concerns that she isn't managing well at home. Simple daily things she does on her own, making a cup of tea, is becoming more difficult. There is also this recent spate of falls and hospitalizations. Being in care certainly won't stop her from falling, the only difference is there at least perhaps she wouldn't have to wait for an ambulance to set her back up on her pins.  I am trying to work out my own motivation either way. I want her to carry on happily at home, with her things around her and her history club meetings and all, and yet she is a constant source of worry my end.  I feel so incredibly guilty at leaving the country and more or less abandoning her to her own devices. It is difficult to know what the heck to say, but I've got until midday Sunday to sort myself out.

Personally i think being around your own things is the way to go.  My grandma died peacefully at home, at 92.  She refused to go into care as well.  I think when there is little comfort in your life, you need the things that make you feel like you have some control.  

Is there anyway to have home care make her home more appropriate for her? Like a bed on the main level or moving clutter? 

[trudi 1,317]

9 hours ago, cdneh said:

I've just spoken with my flatmate in AKL. She is hopping mad. She is still in hospital, and it seems there is a 'conference' her Monday at 13:00 to determine her future. She is incandescent with rage even thinking that someone else should be in control of making that decision on her behalf. 

 

Her nephew is involved, and quite likely in back of this, He wanted POA, and gave her quite a hard time about it over the holidays. He somehow has the idea that as his Mum is no longer with us, Aud has somehow become his responsibility. She refused to sign any such thing, and I can't say I disagree with her. He's a weasel, always was.  He is the only son of her recently deceased sister, a big-time lawyer (big fish, small pond)  and an utter toe-rag. He wants Aunty A. tucked up and out of his way, mostly for his own convenience, I believe.  The only other person involved is her son, who lives in AU, and for the most part, can't be bothered either.  She has also a daughter, who moved to the UK 30 years ago, and hasn't really had much to do with her Mum for over ten years. 

 

She feels, and I can understand why, that they are trying to railroad her into care.  She is adamantly refusing to even consider that idea. She also feels that she has no one on her side, as she put it, and asked if I could speak on her behalf.  I don't know if they would even consider speaking to me as I am not family and certainly not local, but I've told her I would if they call.

 

And I am conflicted. On the one hand, I understand her flat refusal that she will go into care. For the most part, care homes in NZ are in an appalling state. She would have no choice either as to where or what area of the city she was placed. I very strongly feel that her state of mind would be badly affected by such a move. She's not the sort of person to be sat in a chair looking at the walls all day. Her mind is as sharp as it's ever been, and she is a very clever person. It's just that her body has let her down. She cannot be made to go against her will. Her home care will remain in place if she returns to her own house.

 

And on the other hand, I have concerns that she isn't managing well at home. Simple daily things she does on her own, making a cup of tea, is becoming more difficult. There is also this recent spate of falls and hospitalizations. Being in care certainly won't stop her from falling, the only difference is there at least perhaps she wouldn't have to wait for an ambulance to set her back up on her pins.  I am trying to work out my own motivation either way. I want her to carry on happily at home, with her things around her and her history club meetings and all, and yet she is a constant source of worry my end.  I feel so incredibly guilty at leaving the country and more or less abandoning her to her own devices. It is difficult to know what the heck to say, but I've got until midday Sunday to sort myself out.

Oh wow that's a hard place to be

I'm off the opinion that if she can get the support she needs then home is the place to be but if that level of home support isn't there then hard decisions have to be made.

It is in no way your fault, you have nothing to be feeling guilty about and I bet she'd be mad at you if she knew...

Keeping you both in my thoughts (hug)

[SAT 9,609]

Sorry to hear about your friend's dilemma Magoo...

[SAT 9,609]

 

 

omg....last night....the gas pain....

[Russ&Caro 1,549]

Tough situation cdneh. My family went through these same issues with our aging parents several years ago prior to both of them passing away. Best of luck to you in your reflections on what to do.

[Russ&Caro 1,549]

Adding to Steve's flu report...

 

Yesterday I knew I wasn't feeling well but went into work for 4 hours before returning home. Slight fever, aches and pains, cough. I thought I'd do some work from home in the afternoon but my body went into complete shutdown. Couldn't sleep either, just lying on the couch/bed in pain. I had took the Mucinex cough syrup that supposedly deals with multiple symptoms but wasn't so good on the multiple part.

 

Finally I took an ibuprofen at 7 pm and I have no idea why that idea hadn't occurred to me earlier. Chills and aches and pains vanished in almost an instant. It truly is a miracle drug for me. Always has been. Headache, joint pain, you name it... ibuprofen knocks it out.

 

It might be just a 24 hour bug 'cause I'm feeling a lot better this morning, although I did take another ibuprofen at 3 AM so maybe it's still masking the true symptoms.

 

Meanwhile all of New Mexico is blanketed with new snow which is a neat trick considering the size of the state. Verizon and Century Link were down in the state for almost 24 hours. I heard the Century Link outage was nationwide. It'll be interesting to read the post mortem on that.

 

Happy Friday to everyone!