Wife committed adultery, what are the chances of my I 751 waiver to be approved?

[Char2424 4]

5 hours ago, NoProblem said:

Mother of two who brought OP to the US, made all the effort all of sudden start to sleep with other folks and somehow is this evil monster.  We should advise folks to somehow work the relationship and salvage it the best they can.  Most times we have a one sided story and we are quick to advise folks to divorce etc and file for ROC.  I personally really dont like to see relationships broken.

Believe me, I tried to salvage the relationship. But you need 2 for this. I dont want to say she is evil (I still.love her)...everyone else would say different. 

Anyhow, right now its not a matter of salvaging things. We did counseling... I tried for months... its beyond that at this point. 

[Char2424 4]

7 hours ago, Paul & Mallory said:

OP said his wife met this person while in rehab/an inpatient facility, so I took it to mean said person is/was still there after wife left. Some of those places may not have means to communicate outside the facility other than letters.

 

OP - this is a sad story to hear. I always hate hearing about beneficiaries who come here with legitimate intentions, and sacrifice everything they do just to have it fall apart. Best of luck to you.

Yes that's where they met :(. SShe got some phone calls from people she met there. But then also a lot of letters from said person... later from jail 

[Char2424 4]

6 hours ago, KozmicBlues said:

I'm really sorry you are dealing with that! Sounds like you are a good person just based on what you've written here, especially caring so much about the stepchildren. Just curious...are the stepchildren your reason for wanting to stay in the US even if the marriage doesn't work out? It always makes me wonder why people who came to the US for a spouse get divorced still want to stay (which is totally their right to do). If I were in that situation I would want to go back to my home country to be around my friends and family, not stick around a place that reminded me of a dissolved marriage. But I'm the USC, so maybe that's just the subconscious privilege speaking. 😁

 

Anyway, in all seriousness - I think you should do what's best for YOU. If staying in the marriage any longer will be detrimental to your own personal life and well-being and there is absolutely no way to reconcile, then you should divorce. Follow the advice about a waiver and be honest and transparent about what happened. Either way, I hope it all works out for you!

The kids are not the only reason I'd want to stay. But now that they have been in my life for 4 something years they definitely are the top reason. 

Now if my wife wouldn't have had kids, I probably still wouldve wanted to stay. Been here for about 10 years now. It's all I know. All my friends are here and I built my life here. 

 

Yes currently trying to figure out what's going to be best for ME... and I'll work around that. 

It's still nerve wrecking tho, on top of the heartbreak. When it rains, it pours right? 

[Jeanne Adil 1,651]

7 hours ago, Jaquelly said:

I guess you've never known someone in rehab or prison.

No i did part of my PT intership in one