Injustices and Waking up Dissapointed and Saddened

[Hobidyali 267]

1 minute ago, Amit&Julie said:

Try to understand why the CO's are coming off as so "mean"--to throw off and catch the actual scammers and prevent some other person from being used & abused. It's nothing personal, it's just their job.

Agree, but is it okay to deny or categorize all based on assumption, questions will be asked no doubt but some of the questions and demeaning goes above what should be acceptable.

[Chocobo 196]

40 minutes ago, Hobidyali said:

 I am struggling with Keto and eating this damn salad as we speak 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Keto is not for the faint of heart.  I salute you.  😊

[Hobidyali 267]

2 minutes ago, Chocobo said:

Keto is not for the faint of heart.  I salute you.  😊

Definitely diffucult shaving the remaining pounds, maybe this is why I woke up frustrated, I need a coke and a piece of cake. hahahah. Thanks.

[Ben&Zian 4,398]

4 minutes ago, Chocobo said:

Keto is not for the faint of heart.  I salute you.  😊

 

Buddy of mine and his wife are doing that right now and I can tell you it would benefit me a bit but that does take some will power and I just don't care enough haha.

[pushbrk 13,158]

43 minutes ago, Hobidyali said:

Yes, and I notice most complain about them and do nothing or are too afraid to make a comment, I've seen people say the a poster oh I am soo sorry you were denied, they are so harsh bla bla and turn around and say, it's there job and bla..Ofocurse its their job, thats the whole point to keep us safe, but I have never read such "meaness" from any consule as I read from this one, just saying.

That you haven't read of it, is like me saying I haven't read anything in Chinese.  What you have or haven't read has little if any bearing on what IS.

 

No, the point is not to keep us safe.  They are NOT protecting you.  They are enforcing immigration law, that requires them to make a judgment call as to whether fiance(e) or spouse immigration benefits sought are based on bona fide relationships.  A K-1 visa from Morocco in your circumstances was unlikely.  That you didn't know that BEFORE you filed was the result of a lack of research on your part.

 

Consular Officers do not always get it right.  I cannot make any judgment on your relationship.  I don't know enough about your case.  But, the Consular Officer knew all that was in the file, did their job, and may or may not have made the correct decision.  No matter how you "FEEL" about it, if you are honest with yourself, you KNOW, that YOU don't KNOW either.  Feelings are not knowledge.

 

If you want to be together, the way to do so is to withdraw your I-129f petition, go get married AND spend two or more months living together as man and wife in Morocco.  If you do not, the be prepared for this "dream" not to end well.

Edited September 19, 2018 by pushbrk

[Boiler 46,219]

Not sure there is anywhere where all are denied, always used to be Nigeria was Number 1 and you will see approvals from there.

[kris&me 572]

not sure why you are disappointed your timeline shows you have been approved for everything including citzenship

[Amit&Julie 180]

3 minutes ago, Hobidyali said:

Agree, but is it okay to deny or categorize all based on assumption, questions will be asked no doubt but some of the questions and demeaning goes above what should be acceptable.

There are many aspects of the immigration process that, like it or not, may feel "demeaning" and unacceptable, even after the interview at the consulate. Extremely personal questions. You can spend your energy fighting the current system (good luck), or you can accept the way things currently are and spend your energy strengthening your case and preparing yourself emotionally and mentally. In my experience, the latter produces much better results and benefits you in the long run. The last of my 2 cents on this thread.

[Beth & Achraf 328]

20 minutes ago, Hobidyali said:

Definitely diffucult shaving the remaining pounds, maybe this is why I woke up frustrated, I need a coke and a piece of cake. hahahah. Thanks.

How much time did you spend with him face to face in Morocco?  More then one visit?

 

[Hobidyali 267]

16 minutes ago, Ben&Zian said:

 

Buddy of mine and his wife are doing that right now and I can tell you it would benefit me a bit but that does take some will power and I just don't care enough haha.

It definitely works wonders and if you stick to it you can lose weight, give it a try , after a few days you forget all about cravings, except maybe for today, I read one to many reviews it seems. Lol

[Hobidyali 267]

5 minutes ago, Beth & Achraf said:

How much time did you spend with him face to face in Morocco?  More then one visit?

 

Yes, more than one visit, my post has nothing to do with my case or my fiance, it's a general observation. Thank you.

[Hobidyali 267]

21 minutes ago, pushbrk said:

That you haven't read of it, is like me saying I haven't read anything in Chinese.  What you have or haven't read has little if any bearing on what IS.

 

No, the point is not to keep us safe.  They are NOT protecting you.  They are enforcing immigration law, that requires them to make a judgment call as to whether fiance(e) or spouse immigration benefits sought are based on bona fide relationships.  A K-1 visa from Morocco in your circumstances was unlikely.  That you didn't know that BEFORE you filed was the result of a lack of research on your part.

 

Consular Officers do not always get it right.  I cannot make any judgment on your relationship.  I don't know enough about your case.  But, the Consular Officer knew all that was in the file, did their job, and may or may not have made the correct decision.  No matter how you "FEEL" about it, if you are honest with yourself, you KNOW, that YOU don't KNOW either.  Feelings are not knowledge.

 

If you want to be together, the way to do so is to withdraw your I-129f petition, go get married AND spend two or more months living together as man and wife in Morocco.  If you do not, the be prepared for this "dream" not to end well.

I am well aware of the odds stacked against a k1 out of Morocco, my post had very little to do with my case at all actually, it was just an observation.

[mcdull 474]

I married a guy (US citizen)15+ years younger than I am.

Do I think it happens that younger men just happen to fell in love with older women? yes.

However, I also believe the absolute majority of people sitting in front of a computer, sending unsolicited messages on social media, hoping to fell in love with an older western woman (man) are scammers. NO, THEY DON'T LOVE YOU, THEY LOVE YOUR NATIONALITY

Unfortunately, it happens too often in countries like Morocco and the Philippines.

[Beth & Achraf 328]

9 minutes ago, Hobidyali said:

Yes, more than one visit, my post has nothing to do with my case or my fiance, it's a general observation. Thank you.

Observation?.   Well, good luck on your case, from your "observation" you know what your up against in Morocco for interview.

[Uoas 58]

I think the best approach you can take from this is to understand and be prepared for the interview date. Know the evidence you've submitted to USCIS/NVC and practice going over the interview questions so your SO is familiar and better understands the question.

 

Yes, it can be really nerve-racking reading all these negative reviews/experiences people have had during their interviews at the Casablanca consulate. I also agree with what others have said, that some of these questions (while rude) are meant to trigger/draw out a response from the beneficiary. I think they're trained to use various tactics to weed out the fraudulent cases and protect as many poor souls as they can from being duped and left heart broken. Unfortunately some genuine hearts get broken as well. On the other side, many people go into their interview and it lasts barely 10 minutes and they get approved. I think a lot depends on the evidence provided. 

 

This journey is by no means fair or easy. It's emotionally draining and I think puts a lot of stress on both parties involved. It sucks that this is the way it is, but I also understand why it is this way, due to high amounts of fraud. I think Morocco is still in the top 5 for fraudulent marriages. 

 

Anyways, don't lose hope or let this get your down! Use all the information you have from VJ as an advantage to help you prepare for all the steps that are to come.