Injustices and Waking up Dissapointed and Saddened

[Jeanne Adil 1,651]

We will see what happens under the new ambassador "Mr Fisher"

but u must understand that for a moroccan to marry a widow or divorced woman (another moroccan) it is unsual

A widow or a divorced woman in Morocco remains Just that / no man wants her regardless of her age, weight or looks

and i know i had a long 6 year haul to get my husband here but if a 23 year old man will not consider marrying a Moroccan widow or divorced woman, why are they considering marrying the same in the US?

and yes ,  some interviews are unfair

recently denied a young pregnant woman who's USC was waiting outside the embassy (sure that she would be approved)

and in 2009 they denied (husband was from Colorado) a woman who married and had a child/ CO the baby could go but not the wife

Adil and I jumped thru hoops and did all immigration asked of us to prove our relationship (married now almost 9 years)

do what immigrations asks of you/ keep your relationship a good one

prove to immigration you are one of the ones with an honest love

They do doubt / they try to make you quit and many do

BTW when i was on JUST A PENPAIL SITE not dating I had about 200 Moroccan young men say they loved me / i see a couple of them on here married to other women!!!!!!!!! frauds yes

[Hobidyali 267]

14 minutes ago, RJandHamid said:

I don't think that asking difficult and sometimes personal questions is necessarily 'cruel'. And the questions are not asked for no reason. The reason behind the questions is to try to determine the validity of the relationship. 

Ok , thank you.

[Boiler 46,219]

Important for is to remember that Immigration is a 2 way street, certainly was not our Pan A for me to be the one to move, circumstances changed.

[Hobidyali 267]

4 minutes ago, Jaquelly said:

 

Fat people need love, too.

Seriously though, there are some of us that are not cool with people using sweeping generalizations against a country and their residents. It's nice that you're open to all opinions, but painting with a broad brush is a super bad idea.

I am not exactly thin myself, this is just an example. I am not one to generalize hence the dissapointment with this whole process. I guess I should've just kept my thoughts to myself, this took a definite way bad turn it looks like. I in no way meant to offend anyone, hey I am no one to say, I am struggling with Keto and eating this damn salad as we speak 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[Jaquelly 1,647]

Just now, Hobidyali said:

I am not exactly thin myself, this is just an example. I am not one to generalize hence the dissapointment with this whole process. I guess I should've just kept my thoughts to myself, this took a definite way bad turn it looks like. I in no way meant to offend anyone, hey I am no one to say, I am struggling with Keto and eating this damn salad as we speak 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Oh gosh no, I don't think people are offended. This is actually incredibly tame in comparison to some posts around here. We just like to talk a lot and give our experiences and opinions since I think the majority of us lurk around and seek good conversation.

 

I do think it is rude of them to assume that no one wants a fat woman. Ha.

[Hobidyali 267]

1 minute ago, Jaquelly said:

Oh gosh no, I don't think people are offended. This is actually incredibly tame in comparison to some posts around here. We just like to talk a lot and give our experiences and opinions since I think the majority of us lurk around and seek good conversation.

 

I do think it is rude of them to assume that no one wants a fat woman. Ha.

Yes, and I notice most complain about them and do nothing or are too afraid to make a comment, I've seen people say the a poster oh I am soo sorry you were denied, they are so harsh bla bla and turn around and say, it's there job and bla..Ofocurse its their job, thats the whole point to keep us safe, but I have never read such "meaness" from any consule as I read from this one, just saying.

[NYCruiser 423]

Everyone seems to us the USA as a punching bag. A friend of ours is from an African country (Uganda). He went to the Chinese embassy in a Western Country for a Visitor's Visa. The intake clerk immediately looked at him and said 'oh he will need an interview'. At the intake window, they asked for way more information from him then the other westerners were being asked for..eg bank statements, allowance of over $100 a day in China, hotel confirmations, letter from employer, etc etc...

 

This to say: It is determined BY Nationality AND locatity...nothing about race or religion etc

[Jeanne Adil 1,651]

14 minutes ago, Hobidyali said:

I am not exactly thin myself, this is just an example. I am not one to generalize hence the dissapointment with this whole process. I guess I should've just kept my thoughts to myself, this took a definite way bad turn it looks like. I in no way meant to offend anyone, hey I am no one to say, I am struggling with Keto and eating this damn salad as we speak 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

you r not offending anyone here

and never think u have to keep your thoughts like this to yourself

if people have never gone thru the CASA embassy,  they really have no idea of what we go thru

and if men didn't want fat women,  there would be a lot of southern women with no husband as these girls like their starches

just keep the faith and do the work

 

every day i went to the mailbox and opened my email hoping for good news / it is hard / it is worth it

 

and i didn't meet on a dating site / his aunt introduced us when i volunteered my time working with handicapped in Morocco

he didn't say much and was gone the next day

when i got to Paris there was an ice storm and i was stranded with no franks and he and his brother were there and bought me a sandwich and a drink

believe it or not i had the most trouble proving how we met as it wasn't on a dating  site

Edited September 19, 2018 by adil-rafa

[Amit&Julie 180]

30 minutes ago, Hobidyali said:

Yes, based on reviews I've read, I don't like most just worry about my life, I see how others are treated , on this portal and others and I feel for them, this process is daunting emotionally and if on a faulty foundation can crumble fast, I hate to see how others before me have been treated, interviewed or not really has nothing t do with the fact that  people should not be grouped and judged by others actions.

What about the older women who have indeed been scammed by young Moroccan men? The vulnerable women who think that they really have found true love in a handsome, charming young man, who go through heck and back and spend thousands of dollars to visit and get the guy to the US, only to be abandoned as soon as he gets his green card? It happens, and we've seen it here on VJ as well.

 

Try for a moment to feel compassion for those on the other side of this story. 

 

Immigration is not perfect, nor is it a right. 

Edited September 19, 2018 by Amit&Julie

[Hobidyali 267]

6 minutes ago, adil-rafa said:

you r not offending anyone here

and never think u have to keep your thoughts like this to yourself

if people have never gone thru the CASA embassy,  they really have no idea of what we go thru

and if men didn't want fat women,  there would be a lot of southern women with no husband as these girls like their starches

just keep the faith and do the work

hhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh well , don't we all love our starches

 

 

Either way, I see myself sending off a few letters in the next coming weeks  with the hopes that someone either looks at it and something stick or even looks at it but crumples it apart, I am trying. This is either way too much or maybe I am just blinded by humanity is good, or maybe I am just a fool who knows and it's all in my head and I am wrong, who really knows anymore. 

[Hobidyali 267]

3 minutes ago, Amit&Julie said:

What about the older women who have indeed been scammed by young Moroccan men? The vulnerable women who think that they really have found true love in a handsome, charming young man, who go through heck and back and spend thousands of dollars to visit and get the guy to the US, only to be abandoned as soon as he gets his green card? It happens, and we've seen it here on VJ as well.

 

Try for a moment to feel compassion for those on the other side of this story. 

 

Immigration is not perfect, nor is it a right. 

I am not judging anyone, I am not sure where this is coming from but I do thank you for your input.

[pushbrk 13,158]

Perhaps learn the difference between fair and equal.  They are not synonyms.  The Google the exact words "Are Older Women Marrying Younger Men Discriminated Against?"

[Hobidyali 267]

1 minute ago, pushbrk said:

Perhaps learn the difference between fair and equal.  They are not synonyms.  The Google the exact words "Are Older Women Marrying Younger Men Discriminated Against?"

Yes, I know the difference between the two, thank you.

[pushbrk 13,158]

8 minutes ago, Hobidyali said:

Yes, I know the difference between the two, thank you.

Good.  You'll find a detailed explanation by googling as indicated.

[Amit&Julie 180]

11 minutes ago, Hobidyali said:

I am not judging anyone, I am not sure where this is coming from but I do thank you for your input.

Try to understand why the CO's are coming off as so "mean"--to throw off and catch the actual scammers and prevent some other person from being used & abused. It's nothing personal, it's just their job.