I want this to be over soo soon

[James Michelle 0]

Hang in there Everything will be over soon.

My fiance and I fought too....couldn't help it he was just bad at keeping distance relationship haha. Talking for hours on the phone irritates him and he doesn't really write e-mails nor chat. And he was the kind of person who'd do something when he wants to. Whenever I tried to remind him about finishing paperwork or adding up details and all that, it just made him delay things even more hahaha.... We both were frustrated and so badly wanting the "being away from eachother" to end...but with me, the stress made me wanna rush everything, and with him, the stress made him wanna stay away from the whole obligations (paperwork etc.) because it got too much at some point...plus i was nagging all the time LOL. Anyways, what I am trying to say is....i believe he wants to be with you as much as you want to be with him at this second... but you guys deal with the stress differently. Try to give him some space, calm down and try to be stronger . More patient!!

*hugs*

yeah thanks... well my fiance always told me to not worry cause he will do his best as far as he can. But ofcourse I try to ask him what's the status now about our papers well he didnt tell me that when i ask and aask he feels irritated. i didnt know that my questions give him headache. I was trying to help him eh.

[Nanusia & Lukaszek 0]

Fighting is normal. The stress of the entire process takes a huge amount of patience and understanding.

I agree. No one knows the stress of this process like we all do going through it. I remember when my husband was still in Poland we used to fight a bit on skype. Now we sit and laugh about it, cause its a world of a difference to have each other by our side.

I know it's hard when you fight, but know that as each day passes you are closer to being together, and everything will be ok.

Smile & be positive/optimistic

[James Michelle 0]

Fighting is normal. The stress of the entire process takes a huge amount of patience and understanding.

I agree. No one knows the stress of this process like we all do going through it. I remember when my husband was still in Poland we used to fight a bit on skype. Now we sit and laugh about it, cause its a world of a difference to have each other by our side.

I know it's hard when you fight, but know that as each day passes you are closer to being together, and everything will be ok.

Smile & be positive/optimistic

well i send text message to my fiance now to say sorry and that i love him so much , i think thats make him feel better and makes him so special. opsssssssssspppsss he reply so quick he said that im so so so so so so sorry baby wow thats lots of [/u]so so and he loves me so very very much too and try to sleep now

were just so inlove each other and so painful to not being able to hug and hold him.

[Disco 0]

My fiance and I had so many weird fights. It was almost like they weren't really fights and we knew it but things just come to the surface and bubble over. Then I start to cry and it goes nuts from there. You really can't fight over a phone properly. You can't see facial expressions and so much gets lost on the phone. And of course ending them is really weird. It's like because you can't really resolve what the fight was about, you can't really end the fight either. Glad you guys apologized to each other. That's what we end up doing as well.

I think the ones who don't fight are strange. Even my parents fight and they have been married over 35 years. Your fighting won't stop because you're together. And fighting with someone doesn't mean you don't love them. It means you do love them. Think about how many times you have fought with siblings, parents, friends.

I can also understand the sleep thing. I'm really having a hard time sleeping. Can someone pass me some of that gin with pomelo?

[reach449 2]

You are not alone with your feelings. This is a very hard process emotionally. I always tell my fiancee that when we are finally together after waiting for so long, we will have a very strong relationship that will last forever. Most relationships don't go thru what all of us have to on VJ. So just hang in there and everything will be fine.

Good luck and God Bless.

reach449

[JODO 2]

Hang in there! You are almost close to the finish line!

Good Luck

[omeysgirl 0]

And I thought I was all alone...

[James Michelle 0]

My fiance and I had so many weird fights. It was almost like they weren't really fights and we knew it but things just come to the surface and bubble over. Then I start to cry and it goes nuts from there. You really can't fight over a phone properly. You can't see facial expressions and so much gets lost on the phone. And of course ending them is really weird. It's like because you can't really resolve what the fight was about, you can't really end the fight either. Glad you guys apologized to each other. That's what we end up doing as well.

I think the ones who don't fight are strange. Even my parents fight and they have been married over 35 years. Your fighting won't stop because you're together. And fighting with someone doesn't mean you don't love them. It means you do love them. Think about how many times you have fought with siblings, parents, friends.

I can also understand the sleep thing. I'm really having a hard time sleeping. Can someone pass me some of that gin with pomelo?

yeah after we apologized each other lastnight i went to bed i finally fall asleep.

about the gin with pumelo well i think you cannot buy that in the US hehe only the pinoy buy that cheaper drink

[Dwarf_Ogress 0]

It is all natural during this long and emotional process! The funniest thing is me and Marlon bicker in person rather than when we are apart! Hang in there, you will be with your honey soon!

[msu17 0]

I definitly take my stress out on my SO. We dont really fight so much as take it out on each other... And fighting without seeing each other is AWEFUL since you can't see each others faces and misinterpret SO much. Just focus on June, it will be here before you know it and then this will all seem like a bad dream!

[MM_MS 0]

I think the ones who don't fight are strange. Even my parents fight and they have been married over 35 years. Your fighting won't stop because you're together. And fighting with someone doesn't mean you don't love them. It means you do love them. Think about how many times you have fought with siblings, parents, friends.

With all due respect, I'm confused by what you've written. People who don't fight are strange ?????

People have disagreements, even argue, but I wouldn't equate that with "fighting." My defn of a fight: yelling, screaming, saying hurtful things, tears ... and everyone involved feels like ####### in the end.

My parents were married 53 years and didn't fight (like that). They disagreed and they argued, but they didn't say angry, hurtful things to each other despite the frustration and ire they felt at the moment.

MS and I don't 'fight' like that either. I wouldn't be in a relationship where I say awful things to him and he to me. No friggin' way. MS and I get frustrated(!!) and we don't hesitate to argue a point back and forth. But both of us have our eye on something bigger: the relationship. We've talked often about a number of sensitive subjects. We don't always agree - far from it. But we know what matters to the other person and try to hold that in account when reaching a decision.

What has struck me about the K-1 process so far is that MS and I have talked about a range of topics and seldom discuss the visa. CSC makes that really easy. Anything this week? Nope. K. We talk about everything else - what's going on at work this week? Did you go cycling this weekend? I colored my hair purple. WHAT? Just kidding. He teases me mercilessly and makes me laugh. We like each other and that has probably been our saving grace!

So, he and I don't fight. We get frustrated, annoyed, impatient, and po'd ... but we think too much of each other to attack. Neither one of us would put up with that. Goes to show how different people's experiences are. "I think the ones who don't fight are strange."

[Bobbie 1]

I think the ones who don't fight are strange. Even my parents fight and they have been married over 35 years. Your fighting won't stop because you're together. And fighting with someone doesn't mean you don't love them. It means you do love them. Think about how many times you have fought with siblings, parents, friends.

With all due respect, I'm confused by what you've written. People who don't fight are strange ?????

People have disagreements, even argue, but I wouldn't equate that with "fighting." My defn of a fight: yelling, screaming, saying hurtful things, tears ... and everyone involved feels like ####### in the end.

My parents were married 53 years and didn't fight (like that). They disagreed and they argued, but they didn't say angry, hurtful things to each other despite the frustration and ire they felt at the moment.

MS and I don't 'fight' like that either. I wouldn't be in a relationship where I say awful things to him and he to me. No friggin' way. MS and I get frustrated(!!) and we don't hesitate to argue a point back and forth. But both of us have our eye on something bigger: the relationship. We've talked often about a number of sensitive subjects. We don't always agree - far from it. But we know what matters to the other person and try to hold that in account when reaching a decision.

What has struck me about the K-1 process so far is that MS and I have talked about a range of topics and seldom discuss the visa. CSC makes that really easy. Anything this week? Nope. K. We talk about everything else - what's going on at work this week? Did you go cycling this weekend? I colored my hair purple. WHAT? Just kidding. He teases me mercilessly and makes me laugh. We like each other and that has probably been our saving grace!

So, he and I don't fight. We get frustrated, annoyed, impatient, and po'd ... but we think too much of each other to attack. Neither one of us would put up with that. Goes to show how different people's experiences are. "I think the ones who don't fight are strange."

I think maybe it is semantics, fight, disagree. But, I do agree with you. I know this is the love of my life, and I want to be with him forever, so I have taken special care to never let hurtful words (cut you to the core words) slip over my lips, and he has done the same. Whe we are very very frustrated and you can see that you could have a blow out, we back off and say...ok baby, it is time for me to do something else, or take a break or whatever, talk to you later...and we both know that in a week or so we will finish the conversation and that's that. We have really decided to be committed and to not allow ourselves get to a place where we bicker or nag or whatever. Not that it doesnt happen now and then, but we back off right away when we see it happening. We had a long conversation in the beginning, neither of us wanted the relationship we had in the past, so...we commit to doing things differently. We dont talk about the visa much either, and as I have said in my other posts, he and I actually have a business together, so we are together on the email/messenger alot, too much LOL...so for us....we need breaks (days) apart.

I think working to keep your Sunday manners on for as long as you can, goes a long long way.

Bobbie

[James Michelle 0]

I think the ones who don't fight are strange. Even my parents fight and they have been married over 35 years. Your fighting won't stop because you're together. And fighting with someone doesn't mean you don't love them. It means you do love them. Think about how many times you have fought with siblings, parents, friends.

With all due respect, I'm confused by what you've written. People who don't fight are strange ?????

People have disagreements, even argue, but I wouldn't equate that with "fighting." My defn of a fight: yelling, screaming, saying hurtful things, tears ... and everyone involved feels like ####### in the end.

My parents were married 53 years and didn't fight (like that). They disagreed and they argued, but they didn't say angry, hurtful things to each other despite the frustration and ire they felt at the moment.

MS and I don't 'fight' like that either. I wouldn't be in a relationship where I say awful things to him and he to me. No friggin' way. MS and I get frustrated(!!) and we don't hesitate to argue a point back and forth. But both of us have our eye on something bigger: the relationship. We've talked often about a number of sensitive subjects. We don't always agree - far from it. But we know what matters to the other person and try to hold that in account when reaching a decision.

What has struck me about the K-1 process so far is that MS and I have talked about a range of topics and seldom discuss the visa. CSC makes that really easy. Anything this week? Nope. K. We talk about everything else - what's going on at work this week? Did you go cycling this weekend? I colored my hair purple. WHAT? Just kidding. He teases me mercilessly and makes me laugh. We like each other and that has probably been our saving grace!

So, he and I don't fight. We get frustrated, annoyed, impatient, and po'd ... but we think too much of each other to attack. Neither one of us would put up with that. Goes to show how different people's experiences are. "I think the ones who don't fight are strange."

my fiance and i were not yell each other, when we fight im just sitting infront of my pc then just reading what he wrote, but we say hurtful words though that's what happnd lastnight.

[MM_MS 0]

I think the ones who don't fight are strange. Even my parents fight and they have been married over 35 years. Your fighting won't stop because you're together. And fighting with someone doesn't mean you don't love them. It means you do love them. Think about how many times you have fought with siblings, parents, friends.

With all due respect, I'm confused by what you've written. People who don't fight are strange ?????

People have disagreements, even argue, but I wouldn't equate that with "fighting." My defn of a fight: yelling, screaming, saying hurtful things, tears ... and everyone involved feels like ####### in the end.

My parents were married 53 years and didn't fight (like that). They disagreed and they argued, but they didn't say angry, hurtful things to each other despite the frustration and ire they felt at the moment.

MS and I don't 'fight' like that either. I wouldn't be in a relationship where I say awful things to him and he to me. No friggin' way. MS and I get frustrated(!!) and we don't hesitate to argue a point back and forth. But both of us have our eye on something bigger: the relationship. We've talked often about a number of sensitive subjects. We don't always agree - far from it. But we know what matters to the other person and try to hold that in account when reaching a decision.

What has struck me about the K-1 process so far is that MS and I have talked about a range of topics and seldom discuss the visa. CSC makes that really easy. Anything this week? Nope. K. We talk about everything else - what's going on at work this week? Did you go cycling this weekend? I colored my hair purple. WHAT? Just kidding. He teases me mercilessly and makes me laugh. We like each other and that has probably been our saving grace!

So, he and I don't fight. We get frustrated, annoyed, impatient, and po'd ... but we think too much of each other to attack. Neither one of us would put up with that. Goes to show how different people's experiences are. "I think the ones who don't fight are strange."

my fiance and i were not yell each other, when we fight im just sitting infront of my pc then just reading what he wrote, but we say hurtful words though that's what happnd lastnight.

I'm really sorry to hear this!! I wish you both the best(!).

[alparker 0]

A bottle of Tanduay will help you sleep.

well i was outside thinking to buy a gin with pumelo but didnt happen...theres no tindahan that open this late!!

Stock up when they are open.

yeah right... but i never drink but think to drink milk though

hey mich.......

so i read ur message about you and James......Oh come on girl u can do that...the only thing i want to share is to have respect to each other and helping each other will do much!!! Hope u overcome soon girl........Miss our chat!!!

lyn