Family approval

[Bluepanda92 33]

We are going to tell his parents before we apply for the visa, if they don't approve then will it effect the visa application, is it possible to go through with the application without telling his parents and putting a note in the application to say that we didn't tell his parents would that get our application denied 

[mushroomspore 3,044]

You both are adults who have made the choice by yourselves to be together. Parental approval means nothing to USCIS as they are not a high school. 😉

 

The consular officer may perhaps ask at the interview if you have met each other's families and what they think of your relationship. But it's not the parents' approval or disapproval that matters to the consular officer. What matters is that the interviewee is being HONEST to the consular officer about whatever is being asked. There are gay couples who get approved even though they have extremely homophobic parents. There are interracial couples who get approved even though they have racist parents. You see my point.

[stacyt 209]

Hi, if you don't mind me asking, how old are two of you?

 

i don't think you need family approval and it shouldn't affect the proccess

[Bluepanda92 33]

1 minute ago, stacyt said:

Hi, if you don't mind me asking, how old are two of you?

 

i don't think you need family approval and it shouldn't affect the proccess

he is 19 and i am 25 

[stacyt 209]

Just now, Bluepanda92 said:

he is 19 and i am 25 

Is he the applicant in the US?

[Bluepanda92 33]

Just now, stacyt said:

Is he the applicant in the US?

yeah, he lives with his parents they know we are together, they wont let us sleep in the same room so i just feel like they wouldnt be ok with the marriage because hes only 19 

[stacyt 209]

Just now, Bluepanda92 said:

yeah, he lives with his parents they know we are together, they wont let us sleep in the same room so i just feel like they wouldnt be ok with the marriage because hes only 19 

yeah could be that...well, while family approval might not directly affect your application, keep in mind he will need to provide an affidavit of support  Form I-864 or I-864EZ  where his income needs to be 115% above poverty guidelines for supporting 2 people which I believe is about $22000/year (might need to check on that). And if he isn't working, or not having sufficient income he would have to have a family member or friend jointly sign the affidavit. That's where it could get tricky if his family doesn't approve of your marriage. Does he have a job?

[debbiedoo 2,339]

parental approval is not necessary.

 

youre married and they wont let you sleep in the same room?  (you posted in the CR1 forum which is a spouse visa) If you are engaged, you need a K1 visa. Regardless, he will need to obtain documents that his parents probably have (though he can go and get them himself as well)

 

Because of his age, I would STRONGLY urge you to wait. He still has a lot of maturing to do, and that can drastically change a person. I know at 40 I am NOT the same person I was at 19. or 25. or even 30. Just my two cents, there lol

 

also a 19 year old may not make the amount of money necessary to qualify.

Edited August 30, 2018 by debbiedoo

[Bluepanda92 33]

1 minute ago, stacyt said:

yeah could be that...well, while family approval might not directly affect your application, keep in mind he will need to provide an affidavit of support  Form I-864 or I-864EZ  where his income needs to be 115% above poverty guidelines for supporting 2 people which I believe is about $22000/year (might need to check on that). And if he isn't working, or not having sufficient income he would have to have a family member or friend jointly sign the affidavit. That's where it could get tricky if his family doesn't approve of your marriage. Does he have a job?

he has a job but earns less than 20k a year, and his sister would be ok with it, even his dad its just his mom is very strict, so we cant tell his dad or he will tell his mom, she might even be ok with it in the end and we worrying over nothing, we just dont want to risk telling them and then they dont approve and they get nasty with me or somthing, which i doubt it cause they are very nice and they like me and they are fine with the relationship they just dont want us sleep in the same room 

[Bluepanda92 33]

2 minutes ago, debbiedoo said:

parental approval is not necessary.

 

youre married and they wont let you sleep in the same room?  (you posted in the CR1 forum which is a spouse visa) If you are engaged, you need a K1 visa. Regardless, he will need to obtain documents that his parents probably have (though he can go and get them himself as well)

 

Because of his age, I would STRONGLY urge you to wait. He still has a lot of maturing to do, and that can drastically change a person. I know at 40 I am NOT the same person I was at 19. or 25. or even 30. Just my two cents, there lol

we are getting married in september and submitting the application at end of september, and yeah i know 19 is young age, but he is honestly the most mature person ive ever met even more mature than me 

[yuna628 9,677]

Is the sleeping in the same room thing because of a religious objection of 'waiting' until marriage?

If you intend to get married will you continue living in their home afterwards? If the mom should object to the marriage and they kick your fiancé out, how will you live?

[Bluepanda92 33]

Just now, yuna628 said:

Is the sleeping in the same room thing because of a religious objection of 'waiting' until marriage?

If you intend to get married will you continue living in their home afterwards? If the mom should object to the marriage and they kick your fiancé out, how will you live?

he said he knows them well enough that they wouldnt throw us out over somthing like this, if the cr1 got approved we would plan to move out anyway 

[debbiedoo 2,339]

2 minutes ago, Bluepanda92 said:

he has a job but earns less than 20k a year, and his sister would be ok with it, even his dad its just his mom is very strict, so we cant tell his dad or he will tell his mom, she might even be ok with it in the end and we worrying over nothing, we just dont want to risk telling them and then they dont approve and they get nasty with me or somthing, which i doubt it cause they are very nice and they like me and they are fine with the relationship they just dont want us sleep in the same room 

to be perfectly blunt, i would not allow a 25 year old to sleep in the same room as my 19 year old either. I also wouldnt co sponsor a visa for them.

 

That said, opinions (of anyone) mean nothing to USCIS or the consulate. He is legally of age, his parents opinions mean nothing to the government. But the money thing you gotta get sorted out or it wont happen.

 

 

[stacyt 209]

1 minute ago, Bluepanda92 said:

he has a job but earns less than 20k a year, and his sister would be ok with it, even his dad its just his mom is very strict, so we cant tell his dad or he will tell his mom, she might even be ok with it in the end and we worrying over nothing, we just dont want to risk telling them and then they dont approve and they get nasty with me or somthing, which i doubt it cause they are very nice and they like me and they are fine with the relationship they just dont want us sleep in the same room 

as long as you have a good way to work around the i-864, you should be ok...another thing to consider, they send notifications (hard copies) to his home address. So if his parents see the letter before he does, they will know about the whole thing in about 10 days from the day you apply.

 

It can get really tricky keeping it a secret, I actually feel they might get nasty if you guys don't tell them about your marriage and do it behind their backs. They will definitely blame everything on you, you're 6 years older and they will think you're in charge of the whole affair. Don't know if that's the way of becoming a family...up to you though

I know it sounds funny but I recommend you watch "90-day fiance" (the TLC show) they have quite a few couples who did everything secretly, seriously good to watch other people's examples and how everything turned out. 

[Roel 7,192]

If you are mature and "adult " enough to get married and involve in immigration process, then you should be mature enough to move out from mommy and daddy's place and have your own life.

 

Without worrying that mommy doesn't let you sleep together - it just sounds so childish its ridiculous.