How do you feel about leaving your family, friends and career behind?

[BB&SVW 29]

17 hours ago, Filipina_2018 said:

Omg. This is exactly what I am thinking and feeling. It is a bitter sweet moment of being happy with our special someone yet leaving our friends, family and career behind. Sometimes I do over think and have panick attacks. Then I try to calm myself up. 

 

@BB&SVW This is the right time for us. Don't worry. Your kids are big already. They can handle themselves. You can go back to visit them again here in Phils or yet apply them for their visa when you're already in the States. I know exactly what you are feeling. I don't have kids yet but I have a mom. She's a single mother. It'll definitely break my heart to leave her.. 

Power through, power through, power through! 

 

I hope everything goes well for both of us! It's nice to know people actually feel the same way as I do. Whenever I read forums, etc people seems to be super excited and happy about their wedding/engagement. It's a relief to know I am not alone. 

[BB&SVW 29]

16 hours ago, pb5446 said:

I've had many panic attacks thinking about this topic from my fiance's point-of-view: What if she doesn't like the US? How is she going to make friends here? How is she going to handle being so far away from family? What if she feels trapped or if she feels like she made a huge mistake and is afraid to tell me???

 

It's actually one of the reasons I insisted on a K1 instead of a CR1. She has never been to the US before and I wanted her to be able to have 90 days to make an educated decision instead of forcing her into a living situation she might not like. (Knowing what I know now... huge mistake. We should have gotten married and went with the CR1.)

 

Luckily, my fiance has been able to locate some friends and family that live in the US, and two who actually live in my state. It was a huge relief for me. Regardless, she tells me to stop worrying so much because she's lived away from family for over a decade now and she currently has zero friends in Hong Kong, so having just one friend in the US will actually be an improvement. (She thinks that's funny, lol)

 

We have a plan to keep her from climbing the walls while she can't work: I sell stuff on eBay as a side gig and she's going to help me with that. Between sourcing, taking photos, listing, and shipping; it's actually a lot of work. I currently have a huge pile of stuff (known as a "Death Pile" in the flipping biz) that will make me money, but I just don't have time to list it. 

 

I also can't wait to take her to estate sales, looking for items to flip. What a better introduction to a new city than to explore a bunch of different neighborhoods, go into people's houses and sort through all the ####### they've accumulated over the years. Welcome to the USA!!  It will be so fun doing that together... I can't freaking wait. 

 

Anyway, I'm pretty sick of worrying about hypotheticals and I just wish she was here so we can deal with stuff together as it comes. I'm sure most of you feel the same way too and I hope you all get your approvals soon and your transitions to the US go smoothly! Just know that there will be bad days, and stuff like homesickness and culture shock are normal and bound to happen sooner or later. Good luck!

It's interesting! I have spent about a total of 2 years during our 4 year relationship living in the US. In fact I bring less luggage coming back to my home country than going to the US. I have pretty much moved most of my stuff. But there's still comfort in knowing I will be back home with friends and family and we will all be speaking the same language and understanding the same jokes! LOL This time next year, it will be a different situation. It's like a brand new life and I am thinking to myself, gosh I should have done this earlier in my life when I got nothing to lose. With a career, some property etc... it just is a little complicated! Good luck to all of us.