Domestic Violence(Pending) issues with customs

[SalishSea 17,818]

On 9/15/2018 at 9:09 PM, lysander said:

I wonder if it helps at all to explain to immigration that domestic violence doesn't mean the same thing across all cultures. For example, I think a lot of times, when men get assaulted by their wives, they think, "Well, she's just being emotionally expressive. She's just trying to get her point across forcefully, and I shouldn't take it as anything more than that."

 

It's like how in Filipino culture, if your wife goes into a jealous rage, you don't take it as a sign that she's abusive; you take it as meaning she loves you, because if she didn't care about you, she wouldn't be so possessive and suspicious to the point of paranoia. It's the same way if your wife scratches the hell out of your face and neck; she wouldn't get angry enough to do that if she didn't have strong feelings toward you. So, at least you know she's not indifferent toward you; she's literally willing to fight for the relationship, even though American culture and law might say that's not the appropriate way.

 

But, because of the influence of the feminists, American immigration authorities will probably say, "This suggests there could be power and control issues" when really that's not necessarily what it's about. It sounds like just a lover's spat that led to reconciliation; but the authorities will say, "That's the cycle of abuse."

Really?  You want to live in the US and pick and choose the laws to follow?  Beating your wife may be acceptable in your culture, but don't bring that to this country and complain when there are consequences.

Edited September 18, 2018 by TBoneTX
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[Boiler 45,467]

Time to man up and live with the consequences of what you did.

[TBoneTX 45,266]

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Edited September 18, 2018 by TBoneTX

[Sandra G. 5,047]

On 9/15/2018 at 10:09 PM, lysander said:

I wonder if it helps at all to explain to immigration that domestic violence doesn't mean the same thing across all cultures. For example, I think a lot of times, when men get assaulted by their wives, they think, "Well, she's just being emotionally expressive. She's just trying to get her point across forcefully, and I shouldn't take it as anything more than that."

 

It's like how in Filipino culture, if your wife goes into a jealous rage, you don't take it as a sign that she's abusive; you take it as meaning she loves you, because if she didn't care about you, she wouldn't be so possessive and suspicious to the point of paranoia. It's the same way if your wife scratches the hell out of your face and neck; she wouldn't get angry enough to do that if she didn't have strong feelings toward you. So, at least you know she's not indifferent toward you; she's literally willing to fight for the relationship, even though American culture and law might say that's not the appropriate way.

 

But, because of the influence of the feminists, American immigration authorities will probably say, "This suggests there could be power and control issues" when really that's not necessarily what it's about. It sounds like just a lover's spat that led to reconciliation; but the authorities will say, "That's the cycle of abuse."

 

We are a civilized Nation,  it doesn't matter your Nationality, abuse here is a crime, . No one single woman/man  should carry cultural values and behaviors at the expenses of their own lives. SPEAK OUT AGAINST domestic violence. Please do not try to justify abuse, there is no absolutely justification for abuse.

 

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