Waver of medical mental issues veteran

[HoosierEh 21]

15 hours ago, Roel said:

 

Personally if I had 4 previous failed marriages with foreigners I'd look for someone in my own country..  

 Hi,

 

As a wife of a Vietnam veteran it is upon me to enlighten you that multiple marriages for veterans, especially those who suffer with mental illness and physical circumstances, to have multiple failed marriages. I am lucky wife number 5 to mine, one of my husband's wives were also 101st Airborne and died in combat but hey what trauma could that cause someone in a time of war.

 

Our veterans face issues with money management, health, post combat stress and re-entry into society even long after their services has ended. You are right he did ask for your help, it was so nice of you to make someone who probably feels bad even worse.

 

Classy.

 

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[Roel 7,192]

3 hours ago, HoosierEh said:

 Hi,

 

As a wife of a Vietnam veteran it is upon me to enlighten you that multiple marriages for veterans, especially those who suffer with mental illness and physical circumstances, to have multiple failed marriages. I am lucky wife number 5 to mine, one of my husband's wives were also 101st Airborne and died in combat but hey what trauma could that cause someone in a time of war.

 

Our veterans face issues with money management, health, post combat stress and re-entry into society even long after their services has ended. You are right he did ask for your help, it was so nice of you to make someone who probably feels bad even worse.

 

Classy.

 

Overreacting much? I don't care he's a veteran because it's irrelevant in this case. I don't even ask about his mental issues in my posts also because its irrelevant to my answers. 

 

I just suggested if all his foreign marriages failed then maybe it will be cheaper and easier find someone closer. especially since he might have really hard time getting approved NOT because of his mental health but because of large number of women he already sponsored. Ever heard that the definition of insanity is doing one thing over and over and expect different outcome? Then maybe he should break the patterns on sponsoring women on k1 and try something different. 

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[HoosierEh 21]

16 hours ago, AJoy & Don said:

Appreciate any help with this. 

Nick

 

 

Hi Nick,

 

While writing a waiver or having to explain yourself to USCIS or any other branch of US immigration there are some really great numbers and articles that the Department of Veterans Affairs has released with research on the social and familial effect after service; they also include multiple marriages, delays in seeking assistance and stigma when isolated or alienated from others.

 

Using sites such as US Government, US institutions working with the US Government and of course the Veterans Affairs research will help you better back up your personal claims with evidence that you are not alone and you are not the only one going through this.

 

My husband says he never expected to live this long, he never planned for it, had he known he would have. I am not judging you and if you need anymore assistance for a place to look for some good evidence in you waiver or writing for help please feel free to message me privately. It would be my honour.

 

Warmly

J

 

 

[Randyandyuni 2,682]

3 hours ago, HoosierEh said:

 Hi,

 

As a wife of a Vietnam veteran it is upon me to enlighten you that multiple marriages for veterans, especially those who suffer with mental illness and physical circumstances, to have multiple failed marriages. I am lucky wife number 5 to mine, one of my husband's wives were also 101st Airborne and died in combat but hey what trauma could that cause someone in a time of war.

 

Our veterans face issues with money management, health, post combat stress and re-entry into society even long after their services has ended. You are right he did ask for your help, it was so nice of you to make someone who probably feels bad even worse.

 

Classy.

 

As a veteran I will defend Roel, who I believe is the spouse of an Active Duty military,

 

What she says is true, while her delivery might not be in the spirit you would like to see, perhaps after 4 failed marriages and 2 failed attempts at bringing a spouse over it might be prudent to stop and reassess what ones goals are, ensure whatever demons are tormenting you are addressed, seek a better understanding of who you are marrying before committing to it fully. As he gets the help he so much needs he will be better equipped to deal with the stress of life and the bonding of two lives

 

I do not think it was her intent to add to his burdens but rather prevent him from adding to his own burdens, you might not like her advice but I think it was given and heartfelt.

 

OP, I hope you get the help you need and obtain relief from your pain. Take the time to think this through and be sure of your motivations for marriage, your result will be better, your marriage will be stronger and you and your partner will be happier

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[Russ&Caro 1,549]

1 hour ago, Roel said:

Overreacting much? I don't care he's a veteran because it's irrelevant in this case. I don't even ask about his mental issues in my posts also because its irrelevant to my answers. 

 

I just suggested if all his foreign marriages failed then maybe it will be cheaper and easier find someone closer. especially since he might have really hard time getting approved NOT because of his mental health but because of large number of women he already sponsored. Ever heard that the definition of insanity is doing one thing over and over and expect different outcome? Then maybe he should break the patterns on sponsoring women on k1 and try something different. 

To the OP's credit, it sounds like he is only now getting help for his mental condition so he wouldn't necessarily be doing the same thing with the same approach with this new relationship.

 

OP, since you're drawing disability and retirement, any chance you can live in your fiance's home country (China?) or some other place (Hong Kong?) for a year or two? That would allow you to grow your relationship and build the bonafides you need with an immigration application.

[HoosierEh 21]

1 hour ago, Randyandyuni said:

As a veteran I will defend Roel, who I believe is the spouse of an Active Duty military,

 

What she says is true, while her delivery might not be in the spirit you would like to see, perhaps after 4 failed marriages and 2 failed attempts at bringing a spouse over it might be prudent to stop and reassess what ones goals are, ensure whatever demons are tormenting you are addressed, seek a better understanding of who you are marrying before committing to it fully. As he gets the help he so much needs he will be better equipped to deal with the stress of life and the bonding of two lives

 

I do not think it was her intent to add to his burdens but rather prevent him from adding to his own burdens, you might not like her advice but I think it was given and heartfelt.

 

OP, I hope you get the help you need and obtain relief from your pain. Take the time to think this through and be sure of your motivations for marriage, your result will be better, your marriage will be stronger and you and your partner will be happier

 

Hi,

 

I have no opinion to say if it is true or not, it's not my place to say, all I know is that in my marriage and working along side service members there are things to be considered when responding to them regardless of delivery or not, wife, veteran, mother or father of a service member. I am wife number five and my husband will tell you he is the better for it - I dont think I would deny Rick the chance while he gets help.

 

There are some fragile people online who in the midst of getting help might take things to heart when really all they are looking for is perhaps some guidance, to hear they have a shot and things might be okay. Yes most of us know better than to go looking for advice online but some of the people on this site that offer advice seem really put out by it and it gets tedious reading post after post of the same people (long time members) be condescending and making someone's pain their plaything - I am never surprised at wives of service members who could care less, that's what they're husbands are out dying for.

 

With changing immigration climate and difficulties facing even a good petition all I am saying is I think Rick deserves immigration advice, we can all agree it would be difficult but we can also hold back making emoji faces at him.

 

Cheers

 

 

 

 

[Randyandyuni 2,682]

You disagree with her advice, but it was sound advice whether or not you agree with it.

 

Rather than rush in and make the same mistakes determine why the previous marriages/engagements did not work, that is something he needs to do or he will be doomed to failure on the next attempt, fix the problem and he is better equipped to deal with the future, you are obviously a kind and empathetic person no one is saying you are wrong in your beliefs, but regardless what advice anyone gives, he needs to come to grips with his issues on his own or with help.

 

But we are derailing his thread discussing what makes a good human being, we all wish him well in his life but we also have different ways of expressing it, 

[Ban Hammer 13,443]

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[Boiler 45,761]

In these sort of situations I tend to think first how I would address this if someone I know had asked me.

 

I would be thinking and suggesting that there are things to be sorted before immigration is considered, we can all be unlucky but this seems something somewhat beyond.

 

As the OP has income and no commitments I would head out of dodge and spend some time over there. 

[Calicolom 266]

5 hours ago, Roel said:

Overreacting much? I don't care he's a veteran because it's irrelevant in this case. I don't even ask about his mental issues in my posts also because its irrelevant to my answers. 

 

I just suggested if all his foreign marriages failed then maybe it will be cheaper and easier find someone closer. especially since he might have really hard time getting approved NOT because of his mental health but because of large number of women he already sponsored. Ever heard that the definition of insanity is doing one thing over and over and expect different outcome? Then maybe he should break the patterns on sponsoring women on k1 and try something different. 

Right on.

[Villanelle 4,122]

 Well this thread certainly got dramatic quickly.

 

Anyway I think the focus should be on Nicks immigration procedure question and not so much his personal choices. He was quite clear that he wasnt looking for opinions and yes the TOS state anyone can answer anyway they like but seriously guys hes not interested in hearing it. If you are so inclined to state your opinion anyway then do so but IMO its a waste of energy.

 

Personally I dont really care. If he just wants procedure advice then thats what Im going to offer him below. :::

 

Nick-

 

Can you please post the letter again with your info blacked out. Either use a paint or editing program to draw black lines over your info and post it or cover the info with small strips of paper and retake the picture.

 

Without seeing the letter its hard to know exactly what they are asking for. Obviously its a multiple filing waiver request but I dont know if theres more to it. 

 

The multiple filing waiver is one of the easiest waivers to prepare. You should be able to do it yourself w/o an attnys help. Basically anyone that petitions 2 or more times on the K visa needs one. Even if its the same person or its been years in between. 

 

 I am attaching a link to a USCIS memo on this.\

 

Here is some info from it:

 

The petitioner may request a waiver by
attaching a signed and dated letter, requesting the waiver and explaining why a waiver would be
appropriate in his or her circumstances, together with any evidence in support of the waiver request. Factors the adjudicator should consider include, but are not limited to:
• Whether unusual circumstances exist (e.g. death or incapacity of prior beneficiary(ies));
• Whether the petitioner appears to have a history of domestic violence;
• Whether it appears the petitioner has a pattern of filing multiple petitions for different
beneficiaries at the same time, of filing and withdrawing petitions, or obtaining approvals of
petitions every few years.
 Examples of acceptable evidence to support a waiver request include, but are not limited to:
a death certificate, police reports, news articles describing an accident which resulted in the
beneficiary’s death or incapacity, or medical reports from a licensed medical professional regarding
the death or incapacity of an alien approved for a prior K visa. The determination of what evidence
is credible and the weight to be given that evidence shall be within the sole discretion of the
adjudicator. 

 

Typically people just write a basic letter explaining what happened in their past relationships and what their new relationship is like. You have a very long history. You need to show you are not helping people obtain status and then breaking it off. 

 

Do you need specific help creating the letter or just inquiring on whether or not its good enough?

 

https://www.uscis.gov/sites/default/files/USCIS/Laws/Memoranda/Static_Files_Memoranda/Archives 1998-2008/2006/imbra072106.pdf

[Illiria 980]

Not linked to the waiver query so pardon my boldness in adding the below advice about filing. 

 

You also need to ensure you include all those you are still financially responsible for in your affidavits of support when you do them, any of those you have previously brought over who have green cards and have not fulfilled any of the criteria to no longer be your responsibility (become citizens, given up their green card, or worked 40 quarters). 

 

Make sure your new fiancé knows every little detail about your precious beneficiaries, she will be asked about them as has happened with other k1 visas when there was only one previous filing. 

 

Not a dictate or judgement just something that I would consider in your shoes. Are you tied to staying here? I only ask in that maybe a move to her country could be a good line in the sand moment where you can separate your old life from your new life (and new found health) with her especially as she is from a beautiful part of the world and if your income could continue. 

Edited August 15, 2018 by Illiria
I can’t spell or make cohesive sentences today sorry

[ddjoy44 1]

Thanks again Everyone.

The Philippines is to hot for me. Yes, I will post up my letter

Thanks

[ddjoy44 1]

I have blotted out personal stuff

Thanks

Visa waver.pdf

[Lemonslice 4,922]

Is your signature current, or for a former visa process? I am getting confused.

 

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Hello to all

I am in the process of bringing my girl Truc from HCM city to Las Vegas Nevada. I just came back seeing her the first time and what an experience, Just wonderful.

Loved it. So I am bringing home my girl.

I am no stranger; I was married before to a Russian girl. I too went to Russia and filed all docs for her as well.

So now here i go again. I remember paying $190.00 for process now it’s what $465.00 WOWWW.

Ok I guess they think if she is true love cost is nothing.

Thanks.

Dominic