mother in law wants to come and visit

[luukee 18]

Just wondering, how long did any of your MIL stay during her visit?  I'm hearing that a request for 6 months would be an automatic denial.  I'm also heard that in some cases, where someone requested to stay in the U.S. for 1 month, but then extends it to 3 months or something, they will question it.  

 

thanks guys

[Boiler 45,153]

6 months?

 

Masochism knows no bounds.

[geowrian 22,337]

As long as she plans to visit and less than the time she is granted at POE.

[cyclone27 710]

I’d say do 1month be conservative and no extensions. Otherwise I think you are asking for difficulties.

 

Edited August 6, 2018 by cyclone27

[luukee 18]

good points guys, thank you very much!  honestly, I don't really want her here, but keeping the peace and also for her to see her grandkid...

 

 

[frontgear 194]

@luukee I think how long your MIL spends visiting the US really depends on how long you can handle her

[luukee 18]

On ‎8‎/‎7‎/‎2018 at 12:30 PM, frontgear said:

@luukee I think how long your MIL spends visiting the US really depends on how long you can handle her

Hahaha...I've started to learn how to handle myself better around her.  Instead of trying to get the last word in, i'll just let her think she knows it all and I just go on about my business.  You know when I was visiting them in Saigon, she keeps forcing me to eat the foods that she cooks, nothing wrong with her food, but I just have a preference, and I preferred eating Banh MI, every kind there was in Saigon.  I know we have Banh Mi here too, but man, I swear, I tried so many different variations of them I never got sick of them.  Maybe to them Banh Mi is considered cheap food, but for me the amazing combination of Cha, Thit nguoi, Do chua...and that amazingly awesome French breads....damn I want one now (and I just had 2 for for dinner from Banh mi che cali).  

 

[JRF 117]

On 8/7/2018 at 2:30 PM, frontgear said:

@luukee I think how long your MIL spends visiting the US really depends on how long you can handle her

His wife would probably say that it is up to the USG to determine how long she stays (length of visa) and that her husband has little or no say in the process.  

 

My mother in law (who I enjoy having in our house) has visited twice, for five months each time, and not had any problems.  Six month visas each visit, separated by a year in Vietnam.

[luukee 18]

22 hours ago, JRF said:

His wife would probably say that it is up to the USG to determine how long she stays (length of visa) and that her husband has little or no say in the process.  

 

My mother in law (who I enjoy having in our house) has visited twice, for five months each time, and not had any problems.  Six month visas each visit, separated by a year in Vietnam.

 

thanks for the info JRF, and the laughs too   My MIL suffers something similar to all older Asians have, she thinks she's always right.  or maybe that's just how all MIL are.   I wouldn't mind her company too much, just that when it comes to how I handle myself and live, should be up to me, i'm not some kid who has no clue hahaha, although she probably thinks that.

 

 

[luukee 18]

hey guys i know an invitation letter is useless,  but service person helping mil is insisting we need one.   do i just type one up and sign then scan and send? or should i mail it over? also what do you guys suggest i write? 

,"we would like you to come and visit...." ?

[Boiler 45,153]

16 minutes ago, luukee said:

hey guys i know an invitation letter is useless,  but service person helping mil is insisting we need one.   do i just type one up and sign then scan and send? or should i mail it over? also what do you guys suggest i write? 

,"we would like you to come and visit...." ?

Service Person?

 

I would do whatever said person wants, mail/scan and word it they want it worded then nothing comes back on you.

[luukee 18]

2 minutes ago, Boiler said:

Service Person?

 

I would do whatever said person wants, mail/scan and word it they want it worded then nothing comes back on you.

yes service person.  cool for the tip  boiler. yeah i don't want her to blame me for anything. 

[geowrian 22,337]

What exactly does this "service person" do in the visa process...?

[Unlockable 7,314]

49 minutes ago, Boiler said:

Service Person?

 

I would do whatever said person wants, mail/scan and word it they want it worded then nothing comes back on you.

Is this "service person" charging your MIL? If so, be careful with that. Many people take advantage of people not knowing the process. 

 

A visitor visa application process should be no more than $160. And that is for the filing fee. And the application can be done online. In fact, you could fill out the application for your MIL without a need for a "service person". 

 

And even if you provide her with the invitation letter, it is not possible for her to upload it when she applies. It will be with her when she goes to the interview where the CO will have no interest in looking at it.

 

Anyway, you can draft up a letter stating the dates she will be ataying with you and what you plan on doing while ahe is here, I guess. 

Edited August 25, 2018 by NuestraUnion

[cyclone27 710]

I think the visa agent charged my MIL $100 odd dollars.

 

As for where the useless documents go - basically put it in an organized binder to give to the CO who prob never asks for it.

 

The agent also completes the online DS260 and MIL provides all the info and coaches the client. Also she goes to the consulate and takes care of transport r/t for the client.

 

Anyways just do as your told no matter how ridiculous it seems. The alternative won’t be very beneficial to your relationship.