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[Boiler 45,558]

Have you met?

[selsiii 87]

2 minutes ago, AmaB said:

If you read everything carefully, u wld hv known that I never said I was going to marry anytime soon. That was the purpose of my post initially. It’s an advice that I wanted pple to give me on the time I can marry. I didn’t say I was going to marry this year. You cld hv just made your point clear without saying that pple like me make Ghana high fraud country. It was unnecessary. 

Go read my post again. You were asking how soon you can marry after your divorce. It’s an advice you were asking and what I said was “IF” you marry too early, you will be opening up to scrutiny and you asking about marriage this early after a divorce means you might eventually do that no matter how long it takes you. Whether it’s today and in 10years, it’s still considered fast to be asking about marriage after a recent divorce and mind you I was not the one who posted about you people making Ghana a high fraud country. 

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6 minutes ago, Mrsamoah2018 said:

I waited after a year I was divorced to remarry.....I didnt want that to be a red flag

Nice one was that helpful to you? And how did that benefit your process. Thanks Maame

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1 hour ago, Roel said:

Somehow my brain went with theory that OP is green card holder, dunno, lol.

Good gut instincts. Thank being said. OP just make sure you have a lot of proof of bonafide relationship. And more than 1 recent meeting. Meeting years ago when you were young and still living in Ghana doesn't really count. Even though it is not required you should front load your petition with proof of an ongoing bonafide relationship.

Edited July 15, 2018 by EmmNM

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13 minutes ago, Boiler said:

Have you met?

Yes we actually went to the same high school we have been friends for a long time. We also met recently when I went to Ghana in dec last yr. I plan on going back in oct again and possible April next yr. God willing 

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4 minutes ago, AmaB said:

Yes we actually went to the same high school we have been friends for a long time. We also met recently when I went to Ghana in dec last yr. I plan on going back in oct again and possible April next yr. God willing 

Again, meeting years ago doesn't really show much. Meeting last year doesn't count either because you were still married. From my understanding you haven't had ANY meetings with him since you were in a relationship? How do you know your compatible as a couple in person? I wouldn't recommend getting married on your first visit together as a romantic couple.

Edited July 15, 2018 by EmmNM

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3 minutes ago, EmmNM said:

Again, meeting years ago doesn't really show much. Meeting last year doesn't count either because you were still married. From my understanding you haven't had ANY meetings with him since you were in a relationship? How do you know your compatible as a couple in person? I wouldn't recommend getting married on your first visit together as a romantic couple.

Gotcha. I plan on visiting a lot of times. 

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12 minutes ago, AmaB said:

Gotcha. I plan on visiting a lot of times. 

That's great! Good luck to you.

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4 minutes ago, EmmNM said:

That's great! Good luck to you.

Thank you. I wld want to do it smoothly as much as I can. 

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2 hours ago, Abies said:

People like the OP are the ones making Ghana a high fraud country. 

 

@selsiii @Sugarlegetiti your attention is needed here.

I am speechless. The OP divorce was finalized May 1st 2018 and she already has a fiance less than three months later. Like @Abies said Ghana is a high fraud country and the CO will see that you were still married while you started the relationship with your fiance. I will advise you to wait at least two years before you marry your fiance and file for him. When you visit your fiance stay at least 3weeks or more. I wish you the best.

[JFH 12,190]

I would say that you have a high hurdle to overcome here. Not only did you get engaged very quickly after your divorce, but to someone you knew before you married your ex-husband. It's not the first time the CO will have seen that kind of shuffle. 

Edited July 16, 2018 by JFH

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11 minutes ago, JFH said:

I would say that you have a high hurdle to overcome here. Not only did you get engaged very quickly after your divorce, but to someone you knew before you married your ex-husband. It's not the first time the CO will have seen that kind of shuffle. 

I agree she needs to wait sometime before getting married but to be fair she was married for 7 years. If her intent was to do some kind of shuffle she could have accomplished it much faster that staying with her ex for 7 years.

Edited July 16, 2018 by EmmNM

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18 minutes ago, EmmNM said:

I agree she needs to wait sometime before getting married but to be fair she was married for 7 years. If her intent was to do some kind of shuffle she could have accomplished it much faster that staying with her ex for 7 years.

Yup. Plus everyone tends to go on about how big age gaps and different cultures are huge red flags, yet now saying that the fact that they are same age and culture and have known each other for years doesn’t mean much! I can certainly see the problem re the fast turnaround time, but there are some positives in this particular situation too. And as far as I know, beginning a relationship before an existing marriage has officially ended is not illegal, after all the current president has done that a few times. You may not like it ethically, but it’s not necessarily a negative for an immigrant petition.

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7 hours ago, SusieQQQ said:

Yup. Plus everyone tends to go on about how big age gaps and different cultures are huge red flags, yet now saying that the fact that they are same age and culture and have known each other for years doesn’t mean much! I can certainly see the problem re the fast turnaround time, but there are some positives in this particular situation too. And as far as I know, beginning a relationship before an existing marriage has officially ended is not illegal, after all the current president has done that a few times. You may not like it ethically, but it’s not necessarily a negative for an immigrant petition.

Actually It is illegal in some states and punished with up to 1 year in prison in the USA:

 

https://www.womansday.com/relationships/dating-marriage/a50994/adultery-laws/

 

As for immigration purposes, It is not a crime of moral tribute. 

Edited July 16, 2018 by Michael2017

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You see this is what I like about this platform. The power to debate, I want to thank you all for sharing your ideas, I am really taking it into consideration. 😊😊😊