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[Jeanne Adil 1,651]

High fraud countries do take long time and that is why i did not share personal info with neighbors and friends / sometimes i needed to talk or have encouragement and i got it here from vj members who shared my frustrations

DR is not one of the places that will need a 4 or 5 or 6 year fight to get a person here unless there r problems like the criminal report

your best solution is to corresond with other DR VJ'ers and read that portal and the embassy reviews

personally we were a total of 6 years as morocco is high fraud/ u r not looking at that situation

just be assured any questons u have , bring them here
forget the negative people and the jugdement calls 'and dont watch 90 day financee as none of those couples look to make the long run

good luck

much patience is needed

but remember it will not be a long long run for you

[swalker 137]

The only things I’ve come up against from others is that my wife only used me for a green card (laughable, but this came from an ex) and the constant asking why it’s taking so long to get everything finished. I admit I also was not fully aware of all the steps necessary to bring a fiancée to the USA, but in no way did I think the process would be a snap—-unlike everyone else. 

[Reggie B 11]

As the beneficiary in the whole process what surprised me most (given I’m from the UK) is just how much positivity I had off my fellow Brits during the process. The K1 visa took almost a year to the day from filing to using. This was mainly due to slight delaying so that finances and loose ends on my side could be cleared up. 

We filed for permanent residency in mid Feb and I had the GC in my hand at the end of May. I live in Chicago and have had zero issues from American’s opining on our marriage. Perhaps I’m lucky. 

The only thing that irritated me the whole time before and during the K1 process was people talking about how we were going to be living together and how it is different and it might not work out. I just replied that if we don’t try we will never know.

 

It’s your life, ignore or cut out negative people, they are of no use. 

Edited July 9, 2018 by Reggie B

[Ben & Katy 168]

7 hours ago, Going through said:

When I was going through my ROC phase, a work acquaintance kept insisting and arguing that I was filling out all the forms, submitting evidence and fees and going through interviews, biometrics etc. over the years all for nothing and repeatedly stated that I "didn't need to do all of this---just tell them you are married to a US citizen!"

 

What still amazes me is how many people are surprised to find out that one doesn't become an automatic citizen upon marriage.

OMG that is my main frustration with all Americans.  It is so amazing how ignorant our people are to the whole immigration process.  Even my parents who went through this in 1975 kept asking during the USCIS phase why is it taking so damn long?  In 1975 it took one month to finish this whole process. LOL.  Or the classic one, "can't your wife enter the USA since you guys both live on the Mexican-USA border?" "She can't come across the border to Nogales,AZ just for the weekend with a permission slip or your marriage certificate proving she married an American citizen?"  

 

Even explaining the process in great deal the same people ask all over again if she can come yet? 

 

Honestly it would be so logical if us Americans married to people from Mexican border towns could take our spouses to Tucson or Phoenix for a weekend stroll at the mall or movies while we wait for the CR1 process to finish.  

[Ben & Katy 168]

To add another comment to this.  When I first met my now wife I was living in Phoenix and she was living in a sleepy beach town called Rocky Point,Sonora,Mexico about one hour from the Arizona/Mexico border.  I would drive almost every weekend from Phoenix to Rocky Point which was about 4 hours one way sometimes 3.5 depending on traffic conditions since it is a year round getaway for Arizonans.  

 

Anyways one of her friends was to marry an American businessman on the beach in a symbolic ceremony/not a civil one since they had no intentions on living in the USA afterwards.  My spouse and her friend were telling him that if you apply for a tourist visa and get denied that's it.  You don't get a refund for all the money you paid the US government to process your visa.  He responded to them with, "That is impossible of course the US government would give the money back if they don't approve a tourist visa."  Then they said to him, "Nope your American government takes the money and runs away with it whether we get approved for a visitor's visa or not." He then said "I can't believe this, this is so not cool i didn't know my government treated you guys like this."

 

[narakthisud 174]

9 hours ago, Going through said:

What still amazes me is how many people are surprised to find out that one doesn't become an automatic citizen upon marriage.

This! Some of the "smartest" people I know think that's how it works. Admittedly, that's what I thought until I started reading up on the process. Sigh.

[florida racer 73 200]

Interesting stories about how mis informed people can be. Back when my wife and I first got married in Odessa, Ukraine, I did not tell anyone anything about our plans, well needless to say when I finally told them you could imagine the responses, at first they were surprised by it but they have understood and have very well accepted and very much love my wife.

 

However, I had a group of friends that I used to be involved heavily with and we played sports together, as you can imagine they all had a different response, some of their comments even went as far as implying I was paid a money fee to get married to her to bring her over here for a green card. Now I was always taught that when guys joke around, you can joke with the man, but his wife and children and never to be brought up, this crosses the line from friendly joking around to insulting someones family. Needless to say, I do not associate with them anymore or talk to them. 

 

They had absolutely no clue as to how the immigration system works (as do a majority of the people) but what makes things worse is that there is a stigma around immigration these days in the media and unfortunately, (in my opinion) people just blindly believe what they see on the internet or what they hear on the tv and they will base their opinions on that and fail to do any research on the true facts and time/expense involved in the immigration process.

 

It would equate to a person explaining to me about their personal issues (ex: children). My wife and I currently do not have children but we are trying but if another person was explaining about problems with their child, I would understand, but I could not comprehend fully what they are saying because I have not personally experienced this..... it is the same with the immigration process.

 

I have made alot of changes in my life since being married, there are people that I do not speak to anymore because of their negative attitude and there are others that I do not speak to because they just refuse to do some research and educate themselves on the process when I speak about it. In the age of smartphones and instant answers there are just some people who refuse to get off of their preconceived thoughts about the immigration process. For alot of us we did not have smartphones and computers to answer questions for us, we had to research our information at a library!

 

My advise to anyone is, if people do not want to understand the process, it is their choice, I am not going to waste my time trying to explain and educate a person when they simply do not want to learn, as for others in my circle of acquaintances that want to make comments that are rude or disrespectful, I have no problem telling them off and blocking them from my life.

 

Never let anyone get you down, this process is hard enough without having negative people around commenting on you're life!

 

Good luck to everyone in their journeys!