So here's my very high level plan

[Jojo92122 1,924]

1 minute ago, StuBro74 said:

Ok my high level plan in my terms means it is barely thought out. I thought that this forum would be a place for people in the same boat, not people who have been there and done it.

Once again, you could have taken the high road with a simple "got it."  Instead you are choosing to continue with your attitude. 

 

Good luck.  

 

P.S.  A high level plan is usually well thought out; that's what make it high level.  You don't start off on a barely though out plan as being high level. 

[mushroomspore 3,044]

5 minutes ago, StuBro74 said:

Ok my high level plan in my terms means it is barely thought out. I thought that this forum would be a place for people in the same boat, not people who have been there and done it.

Of course this is a place for all people going through the immigration process. It's a PROCESS, meaning there are many steps and many people at various stages of it. It's clear you're just starting out and came to get info. People who are a little ahead of you have given the information you requested. You said yourself you wanted personal "stories" and that is what you received. Where else would you get that from EXCEPT from people who have already gone through it?

 

Secondly, your question is a perfectly valid one and it is good you asked. However it is not an issue to be "discussed". It is USCIS' RULE that if you file for adjustment and then leave and attempt to return WITHOUT I-131 (Advanced Parole), you will not be allowed back in and your application will be considered abadoned. End of story.

[CEE53147 559]

You would benefit from a personal consultation with an immigration attorney.

[C&AH 104]

I usually don't voice my opinions on VJ but if you have a decent job in Europe,  why not apply to bring your fiancé from the USA to marry and live with your there? 

Edited June 25, 2018 by C&AH

[fip & jim 452]

OP, I don't think K1 is for you. I don't know how you came to decide that it was your best option. There are guides on here that clearly state the criteria for each visa. 

We got our K1 & K2 visas last week & we filed in August last year. That's 10 months. Even if you file right now your child will be born before you get a K1 visa. In the meantime you would have to abide by the same rules as everyone else, including being limited to visiting your girlfriend in the US limited to 90 days in 2 years with an ESTA. Your girlfriend would need to be able to sponsor you for a K1, your income is not taken into consideration. 

Is your girlfriend not able to come and live with you? If your priority is your job & supporting her & your child the time constraints of applying for a K1 will not be right for you.

[Dritan 1]

The processing time takes much longer than the 90 days they claim for work permit and advance parolee . Hopefully there are no bumps during the process because an RFE would drag the process even longer . Good luck . 

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[StuBro74 6]

7 hours ago, Sarah&Facundo said:

You can NOT come on a K1 visa, apply for your EAD, then go back and forth to your home country. If it was that easy, we would all do it. Trust me, my husband hates not working and would do this in a heartbeat. You need to stay in the US and NOT work after entering on the K1 visa. EAD cards are taking about 6 months at this point. Once you leave, you will not be allowed back in. End of story.

Thank you this is the information I need

[StuBro74 6]

6 hours ago, mushroomspore said:

Of course this is a place for all people going through the immigration process. It's a PROCESS, meaning there are many steps and many people at various stages of it. It's clear you're just starting out and came to get info. People who are a little ahead of you have given the information you requested. You said yourself you wanted personal "stories" and that is what you received. Where else would you get that from EXCEPT from people who have already gone through it?

 

Secondly, your question is a perfectly valid one and it is good you asked. However it is not an issue to be "discussed". It is USCIS' RULE that if you file for adjustment and then leave and attempt to return WITHOUT I-131 (Advanced Parole), you will not be allowed back in and your application will be considered abadoned. End of story.

Yes thanks I reread what I wrote and it doesn't make sense. I am fully up to date now on the requirements. 

 

[StuBro74 6]

Ok so a few cages rattled here. I didn't mean any offence I am just looking for info. High level plan means that it's at 40,0000 feet and not ready to land not high level superiority. I was talking about my wife to be in future tense I don't know how to better explain that one.

 

Maybe some people are better at following instructions than others and after taking this task on from my fiancee it is clear that I am not the best choice for this.

 

I laid out my plan and it was obliterated and for that I thank you all. Better to know now than to find out down the road.

 

Starting a search on K1 is a minefield I hope I can help others in the future.

[fip & jim 452]

1 hour ago, StuBro74 said:

Ok so a few cages rattled here. I didn't mean any offence I am just looking for info. High level plan means that it's at 40,0000 feet and not ready to land not high level superiority. I was talking about my wife to be in future tense I don't know how to better explain that one.

 

Maybe some people are better at following instructions than others and after taking this task on from my fiancee it is clear that I am not the best choice for this.

 

I laid out my plan and it was obliterated and for that I thank you all. Better to know now than to find out down the road.

 

Starting a search on K1 is a minefield I hope I can help others in the future.

I can't speak for everyone but it's a very draining process and tests your patience. Some of us have been waiting years to be with our loved ones so when someone (not necessarily you) doesn't get that it can light the fuse on a bad day.

 

I hope it doesn't put you off asking in the future.

 

Did you look at the guides? It's best to read about your options then ask specific questions if you need to. You need to meet the requirements of a visa, not the other way round. 

 

I'm guessing the pregnancy wasn't planned and you're trying to find a solution for the short term. Which country are you working in? Can your fiancee move to be with you there?

 

For us, it has been easier for my fiance to visit us because there aren't the same restrictions for him visiting the UK as there are for us visiting him in the US. That's the short term solution. Long term we planned to be together permanently and that has to be in the US because of our circumstances. There are no certainties until you get the visa in hand and that's not the end, that's barely half the journey. 

 

You have lots to consider. Take time to research and think over the different options. A marriage based visa may be your best option if you eventually decide to live in the US and need to work and travel. There are no short cuts to doing this legally and it is a long process and it's currently getting longer with further delays expected. Not that long ago you would have been advised that a K1 is quicker to get than a CR1 or IR1, but currently the processing times are long. K1 will not be a short term solution for you being there for your fiancee throughout your pregnancy. 

 

If you are currently going to the States on an ESTA I'd advise you to think carefully about using up the 90 days allocated for the 2 years. When we committed to being together I tried to divide those days equally, so rationed 45 days for each year and tried to space out evenly how I used them. You never know what might happen and with a baby on the way you'll want to be there at crucial points, if your fiancee stays in the States. 

 

Maybe it would help for you to write down what your priorities are, short term and long term and explore what is available in both countries for you. Unfortunately, there is no quick or easy fix. 

 

Another consideration is where you want your child to be raised, or even born, as it impacts their identity and future. 

Edited June 25, 2018 by fip & jim

[Wendy427 2]

A fiancée in the future can be referred to as wife. That made sense to me as the reader.

 

a high level plan is an initial first draft of a plan like a high level estimate is the quote you get for work before going ahead and filling in the detail.  It’s not a “superior” plan.  

Edited June 25, 2018 by Wendy427

[Going through 5,671]

9 hours ago, StuBro74 said:

I thought that this forum would be a place for people in the same boat, not people who have been there and done it.

People in the same boat ARE the people who have been there and done it.

 

Every single person who has immigrated was in the very same boat as you right at the beginning---not knowing the process, not knowing all the requirements, and had to figure out where to begin.  Every single person has had questions and confusion at some point---whether those questions were voiced aloud or they researched the answers themselves.

 

Current stories and experiences may be "warming"---but facts are what matters when planning on immigrating legally and what requirements need to be followed along the way.   You have gotten very good factual information in this thread on what parts of your plan are and are not attainable under immigration law/requirements needed for your fiance/wife to be with you in the US....from the people who have been there and done it.

 

 

[StuBro74 6]

56 minutes ago, fip & jim said:

I can't speak for everyone but it's a very draining process and tests your patience. Some of us have been waiting years to be with our loved ones so when someone (not necessarily you) doesn't get that it can light the fuse on a bad day.

 

I hope it doesn't put you off asking in the future.

 

Did you look at the guides? It's best to read about your options then ask specific questions if you need to. You need to meet the requirements of a visa, not the other way round. 

 

I'm guessing the pregnancy wasn't planned and you're trying to find a solution for the short term. Which country are you working in? Can your fiancee move to be with you there?

 

For us, it has been easier for my fiance to visit us because there aren't the same restrictions for him visiting the UK as there are for us visiting him in the US. That's the short term solution. Long term we planned to be together permanently and that has to be in the US because of our circumstances. There are no certainties until you get the visa in hand and that's not the end, that's barely half the journey. 

 

You have lots to consider. Take time to research and think over the different options. A marriage based visa may be your best option if you eventually decide to live in the US and need to work and travel. There are no short cuts to doing this legally and it is a long process and it's currently getting longer with further delays expected. Not that long ago you would have been advised that a K1 is quicker to get than a CR1 or IR1, but currently the processing times are long. K1 will not be a short term solution for you being there for your fiancee throughout your pregnancy. 

 

If you are currently going to the States on an ESTA I'd advise you to think carefully about using up the 90 days allocated for the 2 years. When we committed to being together I tried to divide those days equally, so rationed 45 days for each year and tried to space out evenly how I used them. You never know what might happen and with a baby on the way you'll want to be there at crucial points, if your fiancee stays in the States. 

 

Maybe it would help for you to write down what your priorities are, short term and long term and explore what is available in both countries for you. Unfortunately, there is no quick or easy fix. 

 

Another consideration is where you want your child to be raised, or even born, as it impacts their identity and future. 

Thank you. We looked at the process last year and then we left it due to college, work, pregnancy, life and I'm picking it up again. I guess I convinced myself that the leaving the US only applied to the 90 day visa and made some assumptions based on that. The missus coming to Scotland is an option but the better option is for her to remain in the US and for me to go there. If it's the case that I can't work then that's the way it has to be. I also totally forgot about the ESTA restrictions as I thought we'd be by that by now. Thank you for your reply, it means a lot to get a response

[StuBro74 6]

12 minutes ago, Going through said:

People in the same boat ARE the people who have been there and done it.

 

Every single person who has immigrated was in the very same boat as you right at the beginning---not knowing the process, not knowing all the requirements, and had to figure out where to begin.  Every single person has had questions and confusion at some point---whether those questions were voiced aloud or they researched the answers themselves.

 

Current stories and experiences may be "warming"---but facts are what matters when planning on immigrating legally and what requirements need to be followed along the way.   You have gotten very good factual information in this thread on what parts of your plan are and are not attainable under immigration law/requirements needed for your fiance/wife to be with you in the US....from the people who have been there and done it.

 

 

Thanks I said yesterday that I didn't make sense. I was meaning more of an attitude. I get it that it's frustrating when noobs come on with the expectation that it's all a breeze and it looks as though they haven't researched anything. Fact is we researched it for months and have the packet ready and had it reviewed by family members but circumstance meant that we dropped it. I'm picking it up and refreshing my basic knowledge. Thanks for your reply.