Violence Against Women Act and me

[slim 1,525]

Slim, thank you so very much for the input and support, I really really appreciate it! I have faith in my husband - he's been doing a lot for us, and I know he is really taking a break and just wants to look for a different job that pays better, but I got mad, because I thought it wasn't the right time to do it. We'll see what happens

Good to hear! Hope it all works out well for you guys.

[russ 1]

Now, a typical US one-income family (say Russ and Galya) have no problem covering her expenses and 3К tuition for 2(?) years. My fiance has a decent salary and I have savings and a US degree. So... where's the extreme challenge? Am I missing something?

Galina and I are not really typical. Given our age, even less typical. Money gets tight for us too sometimes.

[akdiver 3]

AK, thanks for your perspective, it's very valuable. Still you seem to take it for granted that money is my priority and I will want to start working immediately after I get EAD.

Well, no. I'm just pointing out the difference between discounting the cost of something, and having a true awareness of the actual cost of something. I am fully aware that people have different priorities. (:

Cheers!

AKDiver

Edited May 18, 2007 by akdiver

[russ 1]

Is the OP coming back? Things seemed to have veered way off here...

[slim 1,525]

Is the OP coming back? Things seemed to have veered way off here...

This is now the "official Russian Off-Topic forum" since we didn't have one before and it kind of morphed into that anyway.

[Milenka 0]

Is the OP coming back? Things seemed to have veered way off here...

This is now the "official Russian Off-Topic forum" since we didn't have one before and it kind of morphed into that anyway.

cool

[Nancy2015 2]

Nip this in the bud before it gets out of hand. And by all means, don't get a second job! Pay the rent, your car, etc., and don't give him $#!^. Get whatever you can in your name (only your name) now, and get that other bank account. Use one for "joint bills", rent, utilities, household stuff, etc., and the other for "your bills", car, your credit card (in your name) and any money left over. DO NOT GET PREGNANT!!!!!!!!! Also, you can change your tax status (on the W-4 at work) because you're the only one working and you're supporting your spouse. Take that extra loot and start stockpiling it in your bank account.

If your goal is to keep the current husband from getting a benefit from your wages placing the property and assets in your own name won't help much unless you get written consent of bilateral intent to show that the property was meant to be your separate property. Otherwise we have a special community property presumption upon divorce, with equal division at divorce. Perhaps it works otherwise in traditional common law property states such as Ohio, but it won't fly in California.

Am I getting divorced already?

Nope. Never

[slim 1,525]

Common law like Ohio???

Sweet! That means she has half my debts as well!!!

[Satellite 1]

Common law like Ohio??? Sweet! That means she has half my debts as well!!!

Probably not, in California debts are assigned to the debtor. So the name on the debt is key. There are many different rules concerning debt. For example if upon divorce there is more debt than assets, there won't necessary be an equal division of the community property assets. Educational loans if the marriage was less than 10 years will be presumed to not favor the community and educated spouse has to pay back the community, with the presumption lying the other way if marriage over 10 years. Just some community property thoughts for California. Because I am taking the bar in California, I haven't really studied the laws in other states.

[slim 1,525]

Either way, there's not too much for us to "split" if we were to ever get divorced.

[John and Anna 0]

So after Olga arrived, everything was fine, things went well until I learned she was spending many HOURS on the telephone to Russia, which we cannot afford at this time and I tried to explain it to her but she either didn't understand or didn't WANT to understand.

She spent close to $300 in her first 2 months here in the USA, couple that with $127 in Text Messages to and from Russia and the next cell phone bill is looking like it will be much higher.

We have been living on the edge since we returned from Disneyland and I have been trying to get us caught up so I tried to limit her usage on both the international calls and the international text messages and when I learned she could not limit herself...I lost all trust I had in her and without trust there is not relationship...

Back up a sec, on April 1, after she agreed to spend ONLY 2 hours a week to Russia as that was all we could afford, I learned she used 8 hours in 2 weeks and removed the vonage adapter. When she came home and discovered this she proceeded to threaten to claim I sexually abused her, thus abusing the Violence against Women Act to secure her stay in the USA.

There were other signs that this may have been fraud on her part but I will not discuss those here, those that know me, have heard the WHOLE story...

Now back to tonight, I finally decided I was through with the headaches, through with the stress of our financial situation, through with our marriage and again she threatened to abuse the Violence Against Women Act, then she cut her self...intentionally and insisted I drive her to the hospital where I waited 2 hours to see what would happen, I eventually decided that I was through waiting there and came home, to write this.

Those that know me, know these are false claims...I would never hurt or abuse anyone but V.A.W.A. is written so that no one cares about the accused...at least as I understand.

All I have to say is this once wonderful turned horror story of a chapter is close to being finished!

Peace

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