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[Mina90 134]

Hey all,

I'm really tempted to leave this site for good. I posted a topic earlier about a concern I had which was immigration-related plus it was linked to my husband's job. I had some great feedback from most folks who put my mind a little more at ease but I encountered some people who are just so negative and just like putting others down. I know we can just report those people but it's like a never-ending supply and someone who just has nothing nice to say appears. Perhaps I'm taking this a little personal because I was attacked personally, but I shouldn't have to be subjected to such on an immigration forum. I thought this place was open to anyone who wanted to share/discuss/ask about something immigration related (or even off-topic in that section), but here, I feel some people are just interested in policing what others should or shouldn't post. Some even go to the extent of being the judge, jury and executioner. 

 

I try to help people as much as I can even with a busy schedule as I've been through this whole process over the course of 5 years-start to finish, so I know how stressful, frustrating, time and energy consuming it can be. Whatever little help I can offer to those that need it, makes me feel good. I follow many threads on this site and continuously I see so much venom spouted. I know @Captain Ewok made this a family-friendly site but I don't see so many friendly responses on here nowadays nor treat anyone like family. I feel a little disappointed. VJ has been so close to me because I used this site when I had no idea what anything immigration related was and all the knowledge I have now is thanks to this site. I'm not saying people need to pretend to be nice or friendly, but I think there should be a better way to filter out the negative people. 

[Captain Ewok 1,891]

47 minutes ago, Mina90 said:

Hey all,

I'm really tempted to leave this site for good. I posted a topic earlier about a concern I had which was immigration-related plus it was linked to my husband's job. I had some great feedback from most folks who put my mind a little more at ease but I encountered some people who are just so negative and just like putting others down. I know we can just report those people but it's like a never-ending supply and someone who just has nothing nice to say appears. Perhaps I'm taking this a little personal because I was attacked personally, but I shouldn't have to be subjected to such on an immigration forum. I thought this place was open to anyone who wanted to share/discuss/ask about something immigration related (or even off-topic in that section), but here, I feel some people are just interested in policing what others should or shouldn't post. Some even go to the extent of being the judge, jury and executioner. 

 

I try to help people as much as I can even with a busy schedule as I've been through this whole process over the course of 5 years-start to finish, so I know how stressful, frustrating, time and energy consuming it can be. Whatever little help I can offer to those that need it, makes me feel good. I follow many threads on this site and continuously I see so much venom spouted. I know @Captain Ewok made this a family-friendly site but I don't see so many friendly responses on here nowadays nor treat anyone like family. I feel a little disappointed. VJ has been so close to me because I used this site when I had no idea what anything immigration related was and all the knowledge I have now is thanks to this site. I'm not saying people need to pretend to be nice or friendly, but I think there should be a better way to filter out the negative people. 

Hi Mina!  Thank you for being a VJ'er for the last 6 years!  I'd love to help shape the community tone.  Any suggestions on how moderators or other members can help filter out the noise?  I'm open to helping!  If there are things I could do let me know!

[Mina90 134]

9 hours ago, Captain Ewok said:

Hi Mina!  Thank you for being a VJ'er for the last 6 years!  I'd love to help shape the community tone.  Any suggestions on how moderators or other members can help filter out the noise?  I'm open to helping!  If there are things I could do let me know!

Hi Captain Ewok.

 

Thanks for your response. I had a person who first insulted where my family is from (I was born/raised in the US), he thought my verbiage was off so I must be a fake person or something because my people don't speak the way I do and somehow that negated what I said in a topic. This member called me an idiot and said I have a peanut brain. Which was uncalled for because this person has no idea I am a Biologist, a mother of 1, my husband is a software engineer and I come from a family who are all educated. I normally don't like bickering with anyone, but that truly bothered me. That user is also going around on other threads bringing up my thread (that I had closed because I didn't want any argument to ensue). He is bringing down my reputation here on VJ as well.

 

Is there a better way to fully block someone? The "ignored users" function seems a little rudimentary since you can still see the person's profile and such. I think maybe something more like what FB has where if you block someone, they can't see you at all or you can't see them at all. Also, I think it would be nice if someone who is habitually rude to others, that when they are reported, if Mods could look into their past posts and if they see a collection of negative responses, then maybe a ban may be in order? I'm just throwing some suggestions out there, I am unaware if any of these are already in practice.

[TBoneTX 45,303]

Mina, did you report this person at the time?

Rather than suffer in silence, hit the Report button when someone violates the Terms of Service.

This includes occasions when someone imports drama into another thread.

[Mina90 134]

1 hour ago, TBoneTX said:

Mina, did you report this person at the time?

Rather than suffer in silence, hit the Report button when someone violates the Terms of Service.

This includes occasions when someone imports drama into another thread.

I did report one of their posts, but not all. I guess I should have reported all of their posts but I thought I would just let it go, but that member seemed super ticked off at my topic and at me. I suppose I should report the other post in a different thread that he brought the drama into. 

[TBoneTX 45,303]

A post has been removed and administrative action has been applied for violating the site's Terms of Service.

The TOS are found here:   http://www.visajourney.com/content/terms

[Unidentified 2,930]

This has been going on for several years, it's nothing new and I don't think it's going to ever get better. All you can do is report and hope that a moderator will take it seriously and that you didn't report one of their friends because if you do they will either ignore it or kick you instead even if you didn't comment back. 

 

If you notice that it's always the same people being nasty you can always block them. 

 

 

[Steeleballz 7,550]

12 hours ago, Unidentified said:

This has been going on for several years, it's nothing new and I don't think it's going to ever get better. All you can do is report and hope that a moderator will take it seriously and that you didn't report one of their friends because if you do they will either ignore it or kick you instead even if you didn't comment back. 

 

If you notice that it's always the same people being nasty you can always block them. 

 

 

 

 

 

   I agree. My observation is that once in a while someone will join the site just to harass people asking immigration questions. More frequent are regular posters who seem to make the presumption that people asking questions have some kind of scam going on and jump all over the person asking. Also, once in a while we have knowledgeable posters who are just a bit gruff with their responses. 

 

  When more people are reporting someone, it does alert the moderators to a pattern of behavior more quickly. I am not in the upper forums much anymore, but I never hesitated to report people who were acting like jerks. Also if someone is asking a question they shouldn't, best for everyone to just to report it also. If someone has already responded to the question, I'm not sure it serves any purpose to have 15 more people leaving hostile responses.