Fiancee just got Denied

[Russ&Caro 1,549]

I advised earlier to talk things through with her to see if the relationship was salvageable. Since that time you have posted many more details and then asked if anyone thought this situation could be saved. My new answer is no.

 

Assuming you rent your house/apartment, are you on a month to month lease? If so, quickly find a new place across town and move. Good luck.

[Mountain Climber 186]

9 hours ago, WokTheDog said:

Yes very sad.   She got very violent.  Ripped my shirt and threw a bunch of stuff at me.  Cracked my armoire and threw a heavy candle at my knee.    I can't take anymore of this.

For CYA purposes I would file a police report to document the assault.  Get far away from this woman before she complicates

your life even more.  Good luck on whatever you do. 

[WokTheDog 17]

3 hours ago, Mountain Climber said:

For CYA purposes I would file a police report to document the assault.  Get far away from this woman before she complicates

your life even more.  Good luck on whatever you do. 

She is trying to extort money out of me plus 2 plane tickets home.   I don't mind giving her some money even when I know she is a scammer, but 3000 I think is excessive.  I will buy the tickets no problem.   

 

I don't know who to call, which would be best.   If I don't pay her she will go crazy, break everything, burn down my house, and she has also threatened to tell cops I abused her child.    She threw a very big candle at me and it hit my knee really good.   

 

 

[WokTheDog 17]

4 hours ago, Russ&Caro said:

I advised earlier to talk things through with her to see if the relationship was salvageable. Since that time you have posted many more details and then asked if anyone thought this situation could be saved. My new answer is no.

 

Assuming you rent your house/apartment, are you on a month to month lease? If so, quickly find a new place across town and move. Good luck.

I own my home.  The relationship is not salvageable.   After I found out her lover, broke Danish kid, she went nuts.   

[WokTheDog 17]

15 hours ago, Shiran said:

Regardless if the actually cheated, or not, based on your side of the story she appears to be a dodgy and dishonest person. Relationships are precious and fragile, the LTRs are triply so. This person used you and lied to you. There is no walking back from that. I feel bad for you, and for her child who apparently is being trained and taught to lie from the early age. This is a very sad story. 

I tell you what's really shocking.   The child seemed very normal during this fight, like it's something she's been through many times.   Not crying or upset.   Sad.  I didn't want the child to see it but the woman was going crazy, saying give me my money.   

[Shiran 1,134]

17 minutes ago, WokTheDog said:

She is trying to extort money out of me plus 2 plane tickets home.   I don't mind giving her some money even when I know she is a scammer, but 3000 I think is excessive.  I will buy the tickets no problem.   

 

I don't know who to call, which would be best.   If I don't pay her she will go crazy, break everything, burn down my house, and she has also threatened to tell cops I abused her child.    She threw a very big candle at me and it hit my knee really good.   

 

 

Record arguments and threats on the phone and file police report. You should have evidence beyond "I said, she said." She assaulted you. It seems she is now testing how far she can push you until you "Find the way." Good luck.

[E & J 2018 132]

2 hours ago, WokTheDog said:

She is trying to extort money out of me plus 2 plane tickets home.   I don't mind giving her some money even when I know she is a scammer, but 3000 I think is excessive.  I will buy the tickets no problem.   

 

I don't know who to call, which would be best.   If I don't pay her she will go crazy, break everything, burn down my house, and she has also threatened to tell cops I abused her child.    She threw a very big candle at me and it hit my knee really good.   

 

 

I would have her go to a hotel. Call the police and explain what is going on and how she arrived here in the USA. Tell them what you have learned, since her arrival and have them take HER and her daughter to the nearest hotel.  You need to purchase two plane tickets to get them on the next available flight. If she tells the authorities that you abused her or her child, you are going to complicate your life, immensely! What a nightmare! 

[Going through 5,671]

You need to get something on record at this point to cover yourself in the case of possible outcomes.

 

If she's been texting you threats/leaving phone messages, being violent with you, mentioning extortion, etc. you need to seriously think about filing a police report.

[Laser1 63]

Call the police, before this gets any worse!

[WokTheDog 17]

On 9/13/2018 at 3:23 PM, Going through said:

You need to get something on record at this point to cover yourself in the case of possible outcomes.

 

If she's been texting you threats/leaving phone messages, being violent with you, mentioning extortion, etc. you need to seriously think about filing a police report.

After texting her hours before her Uber car picked her up, I was finally able to convince her to accept the 1500 + Uber to SFO.  She is expecting me to send another $2500 which would be her original $4000, but there is no way I'm sending that to her, since she has been lying about everything.   Her ex boyfriend confirmed a lot of stuff I figured out and more.   In the heat of argument she gave me the engagement ring, which is hard to believe.   I also was able to get back a 360 day prepaid SIM Card which, i can sell easily.    Relieved. 

[Boiler 45,575]

Glad to hear about it, sounded like she was setting you up for an abuse claim.

[Sunnyland 639]

Hope you can solve this mess. She is trying to play you. If you did not marry her yet, be careful she may try to threat you to marry her so she doe snot file child abuse or God knows what else. Do not be in the same room with her alone. 

[Mountain Climber 186]

6 hours ago, WokTheDog said:

After texting her hours before her Uber car picked her up, I was finally able to convince her to accept the 1500 + Uber to SFO.  She is expecting me to send another $2500 which would be her original $4000, but there is no way I'm sending that to her, since she has been lying about everything.   Her ex boyfriend confirmed a lot of stuff I figured out and more.   In the heat of argument she gave me the engagement ring, which is hard to believe.   I also was able to get back a 360 day prepaid SIM Card which, i can sell easily.    Relieved. 

It appears you have dodged a bullet.  Hope things work out well for you.

[WokTheDog 17]

9 hours ago, Mountain Climber said:

It appears you have dodged a bullet.  Hope things work out well for you.

I'm fine now thanks.   I'm going to prepare some document that shows her fraud and will report it to Homeland security and the cebu authorities.

Edited September 16, 2018 by WokTheDog

[TBoneTX 45,361]

You appear to have dodged some real bullets.

Were you able to confirm that she actually got on the airplane?

Don't forget to notify the Manila embassy, too.