Passport problem prior to K1 filing :/

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Just now, Roel said:

This is going to sound super harsh but..

You only know each other online for 6 months and never met in person...

 

If I were you I wouldn't get myself involve in relationship like this. Unless you have lots of money for lawyers, desire to move to Philippines, lots of patience..  .. I'd just call it a day. 

yeah. i think ive already made that decision. just trying to come to terms with it. its not harsh. its reality. 

I dont have the patience to wait for years nor the money to spend thousands. I had to save to get the damn plane tickets. 

 

the answer is clear.

 

I guess I still have time to meet someone else I suppose. :/

im headed to manila but i really dont wanna go just to spend the days with bar girls. I really wanted to meet a potential mate. 

[Ben&Zian 4,397]

1 minute ago, Roel said:

This is going to sound super harsh but..

You only know each other online for 6 months and never met in person...

 

If I were you I wouldn't get myself involve in relationship like this. Unless you have lots of money for lawyers, desire to move to Philippines, lots of patience..  .. I'd just call it a day. 

 

You know myself included might say same thing; but same time that's why definately was recommended to go see what the consequences/punishment/legal action would be. Doesn't hurt but don't be hopeful either.

 

As to moving to the Philippines, always an option for the OP. Honestly I might have highly considered it myself having been there a few times but with my work and career, just couldn't walk away from it so more beneficial for him to move here.

 

As for the OP, he lives in Odessa, which I know as an oil town with Midland in West Texas so might not be exactly easy for him either.

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1 minute ago, thistime said:

yeah. i think ive already made that decision. just trying to come to terms with it. its not harsh. its reality. 

I dont have the patience to wait for years nor the money to spend thousands. I had to save to get the damn plane tickets. 

 

the answer is clear.

 

I guess I still have time to meet someone else I suppose. :/

im headed to manila but i really dont wanna go just to spend the days with bar girls. I really wanted to meet a potential mate. 

 

Wouldn't say just go online and try to meet someone for the trip; but if you have the plane tickets, least go enjoy it. Philippines is a nice place to visit, just pretty hot like Texas is so. Pretty humid. Definately can go and meet someone in Manila, that is pretty easy honestly.

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1 minute ago, Ben&Zian said:

 

You know myself included might say same thing; but same time that's why definately was recommended to go see what the consequences/punishment/legal action would be. Doesn't hurt but don't be hopeful either.

 

As to moving to the Philippines, always an option for the OP. Honestly I might have highly considered it myself having been there a few times but with my work and career, just couldn't walk away from it so more beneficial for him to move here.

 

As for the OP, he lives in Odessa, which I know as an oil town with Midland in West Texas so might not be exactly easy for him either.

yeah moving over there is not really an option atm. 

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Just now, Ben&Zian said:

 

Wouldn't say just go online and try to meet someone for the trip; but if you have the plane tickets, least go enjoy it. Philippines is a nice place to visit, just pretty hot like Texas is so. Pretty humid. Definately can go and meet someone in Manila, that is pretty easy honestly.

yeah i know. there's thousands available. just a lot of work went into finding her. 

im just sobbing. and moaning. 

but, ill get back on the horse i suppose. might possibly meet someone before august. 

 

i cant take on this battle. 

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1 minute ago, thistime said:

yeah i know. there's thousands available. just a lot of work went into finding her. 

im just sobbing. and moaning. 

but, ill get back on the horse i suppose. might possibly meet someone before august. 

 

i cant take on this battle. 

 

Again that's your personal decision to make, no one here can make it for you. Just giving you heads up of the potential drama and struggle and long wait that might ensue from it all. Really you just have to process it all and then decide on your own. And again least take the trip, it's worth it honestly.

 

As for the Odessa bit I only said it cause I lived in Midland for couple years hah.

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Just now, Ben&Zian said:

 

Again that's your personal decision to make, no one here can make it for you. Just giving you heads up of the potential drama and struggle and long wait that might ensue from it all. Really you just have to process it all and then decide on your own. And again least take the trip, it's worth it honestly.

 

As for the Odessa bit I only said it cause I lived in Midland for couple years hah.

fair enough. ive been twice before so....ive already had the experience of having fun. 

was looking for something more. but..... its ok 

 

THANKS for the advice. its been..............sobering. 

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2 hours ago, thistime said:

I pray someone has experience with this situation. 

 

My girlfriend is in the phillipines pagadian city, I have tickets to see her at the end of August.

However, we sat down, got serious and shared everything about our past and it turns out that when she was underage

she used her aunt's name and info to receive a passport to work overseas to support her family.

As a minor she would not have been able to work otherwise. 

 

So, she has been working overseas off and on for several years and now she is ready to marry but of course she cant marry under aunt's name

especially since the aunt is actually married. All of her documents are under aunt's name. We are desperate to remedy the situation. She is headed to dfa in a couple of 

weeks to explain the situation and hopefully be able to apply for a new passport with her new ID. The first thought was to try and just get a new passport without bringing up the old one

but I explained that they would probably run a check on fingerprints and match to older ID. So, she just needs to be honest about the situation. 

 

Does anyone have any experience with this kind of issue. 

If her honesty at the dfa will not work, I will probably visit the American embassy while there and see if there is anything they can do for me. (or is that even a resource to tap?)

 

 

FYI. This is not a random girl I met two weeks ago. We have been in a relationship for about half a year. I have an American friend married to a family member of hers. Everything checks out. I have met the aunt 

and everything. I appreciate any advice, its just that we've gone through a lot of trouble to establish trust and would rather not defend any pessimistic comments. Thanks in advance. 

Is she still a minor? (you said only a couple years of working overseas, if not then she is still very young, say 19 or 20?) If the law is the same here maybe the charges would be different for a minor? Either way she made a huge mistake, I'm not sure if you are saying you want to end the relationship in some of your questions and move on or are saying that you don't want to pursue fixing her situation? Like others have said, have HER get a lawyer and decide what the outcomes will be. It appears to be a very big deal, and if someone did this in the US you know how bad that is..so why would it be any different there? Sorry you've got yourself into this predicament but no one can decide for you on what to do with her. 

Edited May 21, 2018 by javadown2

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9 minutes ago, thistime said:

yeah i know. there's thousands available. just a lot of work went into finding her. 

im just sobbing. and moaning. 

but, ill get back on the horse i suppose. might possibly meet someone before august. 

 

i cant take on this battle. 

Sorry missed this post before replying on the last one...move on then...sounds like the best option. 

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Just now, javadown2 said:

Is she still a minor? If the law is the same here maybe the charges would be different for a minor? Either way she made a huge mistake, I'm not sure if you are saying you want to end the relationship in some of your questions and move on or are saying that you don't want to pursue fixing her situation? Like others have said, have HER get a lawyer and decide what the outcomes will be. It appears to be a very big deal, and if someone did this in the US you know how bad that is..so why would it be any different there? Sorry you've got yourself into this predicament but no one can decide for you on what to do with her. 

I did not know about this initially. it was only after i bought plane tickets, she decided to enlighten me. I think maybe she didnt think i was serious but then we she saw the plane tickets,

she figured shed lay everything out. Of course its serious in the states, no joke. I didnt think it would be different there, was just going off of her response. Ive never lived there. I know theres a lot of policitcal corruption etc. so i thought maybe she knows something i dont. thats why i posted. 

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3 minutes ago, thistime said:

fair enough. ive been twice before so....ive already had the experience of having fun. 

was looking for something more. but..... its ok 

 

THANKS for the advice. its been..............sobering. 

 

Hey we all know in a way how it feels. My husband now, it isn't like I hadn't dated anyone before him so we all have gone through things and understand your pain.  Obviously not the information/responses you had hoped for when you posted, but like everyone else who asks for information/suggestions, we give it out and some more than others ( @Roel  hahaha) can be very blunt and upfront so. It's a lot to take in but better now than later I would think.

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Just now, javadown2 said:

Sorry missed this post before replying on the last one...move on then...sounds like the best option. 

yeah thats what im thinking.

 

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Just now, Ben&Zian said:

 

Hey we all know in a way how it feels. My husband now, it isn't like I hadn't dated anyone before him so we all have gone through things and understand your pain.  Obviously not the information/responses you had hoped for when you posted, but like everyone else who asks for information/suggestions, we give it out and some more than others ( @Roel  hahaha) can be very blunt and upfront so. It's a lot to take in but better now than later I would think.

the feedback......the quick feedback i should say, is greatly appreciated. puts my mind at ease. and again, i think i already knew the answer just wanted to hear it from others. 

even @Roel

[Russ&Caro 1,548]

As others have said, the US immigration laws are tough. Meanwhile, immigrating to and getting a decent job in the Philippines is often not easy or doable for the US citizen. The other alternative is to develop the relationship and/or marriage in a 3rd country. If your career lends itself to a position in Hong Kong, Japan or other Asian country, she might more easily be able to join you there by either getting a real work visa or immigrating there. But she still has that same hurdle of getting a legitimate passport in Phil before she can start that.

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the ease you chose to pack it away without seeking competent legal advice or recourse is telling also, plus your lamenting maybe you can meet another potential spouse for your visit. Are you interested in being married or marrying someone you love? It seems almost casual