Tourist Visa Second Applicant

[Jojo92122 1,924]

7 minutes ago, Vovo said:

Thanks Jojo for your advise ,I was reluctant anywhere to apply now with the advise l am getting l think will give it a second though .

 

It does't matter if you have some tourist interests, your primary reason for visiting is to see him.  He is the reason you want the visitor visa.

What advice are you getting that is encouraging you to give it a second attempt?  You are just making yourself look desperate for a visitor visa to come to the US to be with your BF.

Edited May 21, 2018 by Jojo92122

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3 minutes ago, Jojo92122 said:

You say your relationship is not even at the marriage stage, but you wrote this in your previous thread.  

"I love this men with all my heart he does too , if we can not get through this our last option will be for him to relocate then we leave here in SA a we both have one child from previous relationship and we so ready to start our live and family together .He is 34 and l am 33"

Yes but not right away we can , there are still things like introduction to family , lobola negotiations and meet in real person . Sometimes you meet a person in real life and only realize it's all a mistake . If he seem to be the person l think he is yes l will marry but that does not mean tomorrow  

[Jojo92122 1,924]

3 minutes ago, Vovo said:

Yes but not right away we can , there are still things like introduction to family , lobola negotiations and meet in real person . Sometimes you meet a person in real life and only realize it's all a mistake . If he seem to be the person l think he is yes l will marry but that does not mean tomorrow  

Do you not see the contradictions in your answers here? 

Not in the marriage stage, but if you can't get a visitor visa, you are ready for him to come and live with you as a family.   You did not say in the future, you said you are ready now to be with him as a family.  

Edited May 21, 2018 by Jojo92122

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7 minutes ago, Jojo92122 said:

It does't matter if you have some tourist interests, your primary reason for visiting is to see him.  He is the reason you want the visitor visa.

What advice are you getting that is encouraging you to give it a second attempt? I said l will give it a second thought to reapply as you said it will be a waste of money .  You are just making yourself look desperate for a visitor visa to come to the US to be with your BF. / But it will be 10 Months after the first rejection is that desperate as most site say you can try reapply after 3 months ?

 

[Boiler 45,525]

You can apply as often as you like.

[Jojo92122 1,924]

3 months or 10 months doesn't make a difference.  You are coming off as desperate for a visitor visa to come and be a family with your BF.

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4 minutes ago, Jojo92122 said:

Do you not see the contradictions in your answers here? 

Not in the marriage stage, but if you can't get a visitor visa, you are ready for him to come and live with you as a family.   You did not say in the future, you said you are ready now to be with him as a family.  

Jojo l get you and please note that English is not my first language ,what l meant was yes in the future why l say so is , should we get married he has to honor my culture Lobola negotiations and we don't pay lobola today and get married next week its a process of like six months to a year , Yes l wish we can be together but they are cultural procedure that have to be followed and my family is very traditional as much as l want it to happen now it won't .

[Boiler 45,525]

Presumably he needs to sort out his child support before he can think about paying a bride price so this seems a long way down the road.

[Jojo92122 1,924]

3 minutes ago, Vovo said:

Jojo l get you and please note that English is not my first language ,what l meant was yes in the future why l say so is , should we get married he has to honor my culture Lobola negotiations and we don't pay lobola today and get married next week its a process of like six months to a year , Yes l wish we can be together but they are cultural procedure that have to be followed and my family is very traditional as much as l want it to happen now it won't .

You can try again for a visitor visa, but don't put all your hope in getting it based on the circumstances you've outlined.

If you want to be together, then your BF should honor the tradition of supporting his children by paying his child support so he can get a passport.  This is the obvious course going forward if you want to be together.

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3 minutes ago, Jojo92122 said:

3 months or 10 months doesn't make a difference.  You are coming off as desperate for a visitor visa to come and be a family with your BF.

Okay l here you Jojo so tell me so what is considerable non desperate timeline ? 

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6 minutes ago, Boiler said:

Presumably he needs to sort out his child support before he can think about paying a bride price so this seems a long way down the road.

Yes you right @Boiler realistically speaking we given ourselves a 2 year plan , him trying sort out his debt and l try get a second application if possible 

[Jojo92122 1,924]

2 minutes ago, Vovo said:

Okay l here you Jojo so tell me so what is considerable non desperate timeline ? 

A non-desperate timeline.

Your BF paying his child support.

Your BF getting a US passport.

Your BF coming to visit you.

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26 minutes ago, Jojo92122 said:

It does't matter if you have some tourist interests, your primary reason for visiting is to see him.  He is the reason you want the visitor visa.

What advice are you getting that is encouraging you to give it a second attempt?  You are just making yourself look desperate for a visitor visa to come to the US to be with your BF.

Jojo l am not sure why you being so mean , he did not voluntarily decide he is not going to pay his child support for one child but he lost his job and when he go a job he got into an arrangement to pay his current and the arreage on his child support 

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Just now, Vovo said:

Jojo l am not sure why you being so mean , he did not voluntarily decide he is not going to pay his child support for one child but he lost his job and when he go a job he got into an arrangement to pay his current and the arreage on his child support 

Good luck.

I have advised you why you will not be getting a visitor visa.  I have advised you on how you and your BF can meet.

If you don't think you are coming off as desperate for a visitor visa, you are free to try again.  I'm not one to give false encouragement, but the blunt reality of your situation as someone with experience in immigration matters.  

Bye.

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5 minutes ago, Jojo92122 said:

A non-desperate timeline.

Your BF paying his child support./ He is already doing that Jojo it will take years so now his life has to stop because of that ?

Your BF getting a US passport./ Just for interest sake if you had lost your job for years and could not keep up with the child support payment don't you think too you will be in the same situation ? , life is unpredictable  you could be in the same position look at the situations both side just because it's raining in your field does not mean it will rain forever and 

Your BF coming to visit you.