90 Day Fiance -- season ??? [merged threads]

[Redro 4,611]

Random 90 Day Fiance person (or was it Love After Lock Up... idk same production company): We have sex 7 times a night. 

Me: ... can someone say yeast infection? 

Edited April 25, 2022 by ROK2USA

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6 hours ago, ROK2USA said:

Random 90 Day Fiance person (or was it Love After Lock Up... idk same production company): We have sex 7 times a night. 

Me: ... can someone say yeast infection? 

I honk that was Emily for the few days they were together 

[laylalex 7,293]

8 hours ago, mam521 said:

I still think something's off with her, too though.  

There's a reason she's broken off more than one engagement before. She may be more in love with the idea of love than ready to deal with the day to day of a marriage. 

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[laylalex 7,293]

Miona is so pretty without all her makeup -- and I say this as someone who loves wearing makeup! But 

 

Also... just saying that I have seen a LOT of Jasmine on Reddit this evening.

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[Eric-Pris 1,607]

At first, I thought that Sheeda was a simple gold digger because she was complaining about the van and the house.  But then I thought about it more.  She must've figured out that he has money, from his job to the way he rolled when he visited her.  So she came with expectations and when she saw the van and house, she thought that he scammed her.  That could explain her getting angry, but it doesn't rule out her being a gold digger though.  I still think she is into the material things, but she seems to love him.

 

The weightlifter with the Brazilian with a "slight" jealous side is so p-whipped.  He has to send her his location on his phone and even doorbell camera video to see who came to his house.  And the funniest thing is that he believes that it's because they are apart.  It will get worse when she's there because she'll get more angry when he messes up.  From Brazil, she could get too angry and chance him changing his mind.  But once she gets here all bets are off.  That one has cray written all over her.  

 

The scene with Kobe meeting his kid was pretty emotional.  I think everybody wanted the kid to recognize him and jump in his arms.  That was a bit of a let down.  And her making plans for them to be alone for 1 night before seeing his kid.  No babe, I don't think so.  I have never seen my kid, sex can wait.

 

Miona from Serbia came to South Dakota knowing that they would have to stay there a while.  It's not fair for her to demand that they move to LA right away when he's broke. I don't get when people want to bring foreigners over but don't have the means to actually take care of them.  Living with mommy and daddy is fun when you're a teenager, but 30+ is a bit much.

 

The Arab guy just wants a mommy cougar.  That's another Syad/Rebecca story.  She's going to be jealous, controlling, and possessive. 

[laylalex 7,293]

I think some of the issues with Miona and Shaeeda come down to them being sold a bill of goods by their fiances before they came here.

 

Jibri told Miona they were moving to LA, but then changed the plans and said oops, I meant South Dakota. That's kind of a big difference, and for a woman who'd grown up in a city, that's a big difference. Plus she's a makeup artist (or "MUA" if you're Ben from Before the 90 and you're talking about the woman who put bronzer on you), and there's kind of more job opportunities in LA than Rapid City if she wants to use her training. LA is a softer landing to some extent, and if my husband told me we were moving to London and then whoops we actually ended up in his tiny town for more than a short stay I would not be happy. 

 

Bilal is one giant walking, talking red flag with the words "B GR8FUL" on it. He represented himself in Trinidad as a man with big spending ways. I do not blame Shaeeda for worrying when she saw that house -- if he spends all his money on clothes and watches, but can't maintain his own home, what does that say about his financial prudence? Given that she won't be able to work for months, that's very understandable. I suspect she had a pretty middle class life in Trinidad from what we've seen so far, which could explain her being surprised and her mom laughing her butt off at the state of the place. Bilal is so unbelievably rude, grading her on her response. YUCK. 

 

My husband watched the bits with Patrick and Thais with his head tilted and eyebrows knit in grim fascination. "What kind of person thinks this is love? This is paranoia. This is mental illness. This woman will destroy him." Thais is even worse than Jasmine with her "EVIDENCE REPORT!" demands. I hope the M-hole brother drives her INSANE and she leaves.

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I had not realised how old Shaeeda is, and wondered if there had been any comments on her history?

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1 minute ago, Boiler said:

I had not realised how old Shaeeda is, and wondered if there had been any comments on her history?

They've mentioned she's been engaged twice already and Bilal's sister thinks it a big ol' red flag. 

Then she has also told Bilal she really wants to have children and isn't getting younger. 

She also hopes his children will be okay with another sibling. 

I haven't read any spoilers but I wouldn't be surprised if we find out Bilal's been snipped. 

[Eric-Pris 1,607]

This chick Emily breastfeeding out in the open in the living room is just weird.  And Kobe is right but her weirdo family sees nothing wrong with a 17 month old still breastfeeding.  She seems to be cuddled and is in charge, and he's from a male dominant culture, so there's going to be issues.

 

That Arab guy is missing his mommy making him breakfast and waiting on him hand and foot.  That's going to be a disaster since she really just brought him to take care of her kid because she can't afford good childcare and give her sex when she wants it.  This guy has some serious Muslim beliefs (men in charge, women are there to serve men, women should listen and obey, not talk or opine, women shouldn't be in the presence of any man not her husband).  A younger American woman would never take that nonsense, but she may be desperate and old enough to actually put up with it.

 

Ariela's parents have some set of balls seriously.  They decided to rent them an apartment so that they would have one ready as soon as they landed in the US (probably so they didn't stay in their house at all).  Then they go and rent this big 2 bedroom apartment (in Princeton, that's $2000-2500/mo).   Overkill for broke people.  That screams of a superiority complex, the mother probably did that on purpose to show Binyam how much better the US is compared to the apartment they had in Ethiopia.  And then mom (and dad) says "Oh by the way, it would be good for you to take over the payment soon..."  HUH?  From what money... they are pretty much broke.  Her-no job, him- can't work.  Ariela seems like a little princess who's been babied and now that she has a man, the parents expect him to provide for her literally right off the plane.  Not fair to Binyam.  An the only reason they came to the US is for her to get away from his sisters.

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8 hours ago, Eric-Pris said:

This chick Emily breastfeeding out in the open in the living room is just weird.  And Kobe is right but her weirdo family sees nothing wrong with a 17 month old still breastfeeding.  

 

I thought it was OK to breast feed to age 3 or 4.  No?

[mam521 2,113]

Breastfeeding at home wherever is fine.  Some people do it til their kids are old.  To each their own.  But the excuses for routines being upset and yadda yadda yadda...of course!  Building routine takes time, changing routine takes time but that kid hasn't spent a single day in his own bed.  Ever.  

 

Shaeeda and Bilal are a disaster waiting to blow up.  

 

Bini's been to the US before.  He has some expectations.  BUT, I can't disagree that Ari's mom and dad renting the apartment and tossing it at Ari and Bini as newly landed and without jobs - yeah, not cool.  Guess daddy is fine paying like he did for the property in Addis Ababa. 

 

Mohamed is definitely a mess.  His reaction to no bidet was interesting. Breakfast = disaster. 

[laylalex 7,293]

I don't have an issue with Emily breastfeeding. It's her body and her decision to feed Koban that way as long as she wishes. And while I wouldn't feel comfortable breastfeeding in front of my parents, there's nothing inherently "wrong" about it. Babies get hungry and they need to eat; breastfeeding is normal and no woman should be forced into the shame hut in the basement just because her husband doesn't like thinking of her boobies as anything more than sexy things. Breastfeeding isn't sexy (for most people), so doing in front of her parents is fine if they don't have an issue with it. Clearly they don't if Koban is 17 months old. My nephew is 11 weeks old, and my sister is finally getting the hang of breastfeeding -- like Emily, it wasn't easy to start with. She doesn't have a problem feeding in front of her husband or my parents if she has to, but she told me she isn't cool with having my husband in the room if she needs to take care of Kai, or most of her friends except her two closest ones who are also moms and have been giving her a lot of support. Whatever works for mom is what's probably right.

 

I do think she was completely wrong not to sort out the bed situation before Kobe arrived when she promised she would. That looks like a double bed! 

 

Mohamed's whispery voice and vacant eyes make me think he's a budding cult leader. Yve needs to chuck that manbaby. 

 

Shaeeda is so sweet -- her being really nervous before she met the kids was adorable. She wants this relationship to work so badly. Unfortunately the relationship is with Bilal, who is a toad. I can't believe he didn't chew her out for put the pool cue chalkside down on the white carpet! Also, was that Bilal's "mancave" as advertised by the sign on the wall outside? If so (1) sorry excuse for a mancave and (2) I have no time for those kids of signs, which are strictly (as my friend Cait puts it) wine decor. 

 

Okay, I cannot stand Ari but I will say this. Ari is a princess in her family, and I have been accused of being a princess more than once in my life. It's probably true. When your family enables your helplessness, it can be hard to break out of it because no one really takes you seriously. Ari's parents chose a 2 bed, because they want her to be comfortable, and because they know they will pick up the slack if they have to, which they will. It's a way parents can continue to control their adult children. They think they're protecting their "baby" but are setting "baby" up to fail because they have never let her grow up, and when they offer more help because she's failing, the cycle continues. It can take a lot to break out of this if "baby" has never learned how to stand on her own two feet. As someone who did, it took me a lot of time and a very serious shock to grow up at last and break free, and I didn't even have a child like Ari does.

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I am sure I can speak not just for myself when I say there is no way we would compare you to Ari.

 

I did wonder how old she is, that is becoming a trait, late 30s?