May 2018 K1 Filers

[SalishSea 17,829]

The K-1 isn’t for people who want to live together to see if they want to get married......

 

It is for people who intend to marry one another within the 90 days.   Any other intentions would be considered visa fraud.

[Greenbaum 12,259]

12 hours ago, Gyn said:

Hi guys sorry out of topic, but I am really scared and confuse right now. I really need your guys opinion about my story.

 

My Fiance and I  have been together for 3 years we meet very often around 6 times per year (minimum 1 weeks, maximum 3 weeks) either he comes to visit me or we went traveling together. I never get a chance to meet his parents in the US (because my visitor visa got rejected twice) but I've been living in the US before for 6 months when I am doing my Internship, we got engaged last September 2017, and finally filled for K1 May 2018.......

 

 

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A man doesn't enter into an "agreement" thinking that "hey if I am not ready or don't want to I'll just send her home". A man makes a decision and holds himself to a higher standard. A boy cannot make a decision because he is still a boy.

 

I suggest that you put on your BIG GIRL panties and send the boy on his way as you are looking for Man. IMHO.  You deserve better. 

[LarryHickman 181]

13 hours ago, Gyn said:

So he really wants us to live together first before getting married. We came to the conversation when I asked him if I already moved there and after 3 months he thinks we not ready what he gonna do, he said that "He will ask me to go back to my home country and apply again for K1so we can try to live together again."

 

The only reason I want to move to the US is because I just wanna stay and build a family with him.  I am really sad right now and feels so stressed. I really love him but I don't think he cares about my feelings after he said the things above. I know it's very important for him to live together but is it ok to sacrifice my feelings for that?  Thank you so much guys

 

 

You sound sincere so I’ll give you my opinion, I hope it helps or you can throw it out the window either way but one thing is for sure you don’t sound like you can talk to your boyfriend.

 

You need to find someone else, it sounds like he wants a money back guarantee, your human not a car.

 

He wants to live together and try it out first. People have different views and I respect that but my personal opinion is ask yourself one question, would he wait on intimacy until after marriage and listen to you? In my humble opinion deep down women want a man who will wait on them and accept them for who they are. Never get with a guy who wants to try things out first. 

 

Would he allow you both to go through ups and downs? Allow you to have your bad days and still love you?  You will have bad days.

 

If he is not ready what are you going to do if you get pregnant and he wants to break up and send you back home? As greenbaum said put on your big girl panties and send him packing there are many other men who have their head on straight.

 

If your about the same age you are more mature, generally speaking girls mature faster boys this could be part of his problem but there are exceptions to this rule.

 

you want a family? If your feelings this way now before marriage you can forget about it changing after you are in the ‘test’ stage with him. Remember a zebra never changes its stripes. 

 

Never sacrifice your feelings, that translate to you having to change for someone.

 

I think you already know what you need to do I wish you the best.

 

good luck and god bless

[Dana89 6]

17 hours ago, LarryHickman said:

You sound sincere so I’ll give you my opinion, I hope it helps or you can throw it out the window either way but one thing is for sure you don’t sound like you can talk to your boyfriend.

 

You need to find someone else, it sounds like he wants a money back guarantee, your human not a car.

 

He wants to live together and try it out first. People have different views and I respect that but my personal opinion is ask yourself one question, would he wait on intimacy until after marriage and listen to you? In my humble opinion deep down women want a man who will wait on them and accept them for who they are. Never get with a guy who wants to try things out first. 

 

Would he allow you both to go through ups and downs? Allow you to have your bad days and still love you?  You will have bad days.

 

If he is not ready what are you going to do if you get pregnant and he wants to break up and send you back home? As greenbaum said put on your big girl panties and send him packing there are many other men who have their head on straight.

 

If your about the same age you are more mature, generally speaking girls mature faster boys this could be part of his problem but there are exceptions to this rule.

 

you want a family? If your feelings this way now before marriage you can forget about it changing after you are in the ‘test’ stage with him. Remember a zebra never changes its stripes. 

 

Never sacrifice your feelings, that translate to you having to change for someone.

 

I think you already know what you need to do I wish you the best.

 

good luck and god bless

We also already applied for K1 but after that he started like testing me one day he can say I love you next day I don't want get marry etc Finally he said I can't do anything I asked what do you mean he said exactly what I said and he said at first he will not do anything with K1 then he said he will cancel it I said ok as you want but still he didn't cancel it I am getting crazy by checking every day and waiting when he will cancel but still I love him also before he said that we need to live together

[LarryHickman 181]

1 minute ago, Dana89 said:

We also already applied for K1 but after that he started like testing me one day he can say I love you next day I don't want get marry etc Finally he said I can't do anything I asked what do you mean he said exactly what I said and he said at first he will not do anything with K1 then he said he will cancel it I said ok as you want but still he didn't cancel it I am getting crazy by checking every day and waiting when he will cancel but still I love him also before he said that we need to live together

I’m very sorry for you, please do yourself a favor and let this guy go the sooner you do this the sooner you can find or be found what real love is, how will you know? You know when you see it.

 

good luck 

[debbiedoo 2,339]

If he feels he has to live with his fiancee before he marries her, then perhaps he shouldnt have asked someone who didnt already live here to marry him ....

 

how long have you known him, how many times have you seen each other?

[Dana89 6]

52 minutes ago, debbiedoo said:

If he feels he has to live with his fiancee before he marries her, then perhaps he shouldnt have asked someone who didnt already live here to marry him ....

 

how long have you known him, how many times have you seen each other?

Is this question for me?

[Dana89 6]

Just now, Dana89 said:

Is this question for me?

Only one time I haven't been rush about to get marry he wanted it I suggest wait at least after 8 months because that time I worked in American company in third country so I thought maybe I can transfer to America so we can know each other better but he said it's too long time to wait also we are not so young we wanted at least five children build a big family get old together 

[Dana89 6]

Just now, Dana89 said:

Only one time I haven't been rush about to get marry he wanted it I suggest wait at least after 8 months because that time I worked in American company in third country so I thought maybe I can transfer to America so we can know each other better but he said it's too long time to wait also we are not so young we wanted at least five children build a big family get old together 

Even we created names for our children so many plans ... Sorry that I'm so honest to tell everyone here about my life but I'm so sad and nobody understand me When he proposed me my parents reaction were like so far who is he then I said to my fiancé that they just need time 

[Sarge2155 4,587]

2 hours ago, Dana89 said:

We also already applied for K1 but after that he started like testing me one day he can say I love you next day I don't want get marry etc Finally he said I can't do anything I asked what do you mean he said exactly what I said and he said at first he will not do anything with K1 then he said he will cancel it I said ok as you want but still he didn't cancel it I am getting crazy by checking every day and waiting when he will cancel but still I love him also before he said that we need to live together

As what was pointed out to you, you have gotten yourself involved with a "BOY" men don't do things or say things like you have quoted. If you are having these problems NOW just think what life will be like once you are together and he plays these stupid games. I can sense by your writing that you love him, but do yourself a favor and save the future heartache and find yourself a real man who will love you. I know you will do what your heart tells you regardless of what we are telling you here in this forum, just be prepared to suffer the consequences. By the look of your time line you don't have much time to decide.

Edited October 4, 2018 by Sarge2155

[Dana89 6]

8 minutes ago, Sarge2155 said:

As what was pointed out to you, you have gotten yourself involved with a "BOY" men don't do things or say things like you have quoted. If you are having these problems NOW just think what life will be like once you are together and he plays these stupid games. I can sense by your writing that you love him, but do yourself a favor and save the future heartache and find yourself a real man who will love you. I know you will do what your heart tells you regardless of what we are telling you here in this forum, just be prepared to suffer the consequences. By the look of your time line you don't have much time to decide.

You're right 

[PA2DR 140]

11 minutes ago, Sarge2155 said:

As what was pointed out to you, you have gotten yourself involved with a "BOY" men don't do things or say things like you have quoted. If you are having these problems NOW just think what life will be like once you are together and he plays these stupid games. I can sense by your writing that you love him, but do yourself a favor and save the future heartache and find yourself a real man who will love you. I know you will do what your heart tells you regardless of what we are telling you here in this forum, just be prepared to suffer the consequences. By the look of your time line you don't have much time to decide.

So right Sarge

[Dana89 6]

3 minutes ago, Dana89 said:

You're right 

He said that I need to wait for him there are a lot of things that he can't do relationship yes I understand but he said that he doesn't expect that I'll wait for him that's his opinion sorry if I disturbed you

[Sarge2155 4,587]

On a brighter note April filers are in full swing now lots of approvals today &^%$ we are on deck folks I am 5 months in, in a couple of days. I must admit even though I don't want to the time has been rapid to reach this point. I am hoping it's the same for all of you.

[PA2DR 140]

1 minute ago, Sarge2155 said:

On a brighter note April filers are in full swing now lots of approvals today &^%$ we are on deck folks I am 5 months in, in a couple of days. I must admit even though I don't want to the time has been rapid to reach this point. I am hoping it's the same for all of you.

I was just thinking to myself it’s been five months already.. time seriously does fly!!