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[Derik-Lina 230]

17 hours ago, Cathi said:

What does a big difference in age, if there is one, have to do with anything? One cannot be denied a visa based on age, it's discrimination. I am 21 years older than my husband and we didn't have one single issue in the entire immigration process, up to and including citizenship. Age was never an issue.  We have been happily married for 7 years.

Generally speaking, "majority" of Moroccan and MENA men marry younger women. The families have a lot of say in these choices where the young lady MUST be a VIRGIN and from a good conservative family. These days, she must be educated too.

Drinking, Smoking, Girls nights out etc... are a big giant NO. 

The regions mentioned above are poverty stricken with no future for the young Masses; Immigration to the west and America are the only way out. They die by the thousands crossing the Mediterranean in search for better lives, and the families understand and support many.

The family and friends support and understand the young Mohamed when his 17 years older bride visits; All norms are out of the window then; She can smoke in the house, drink with him and of course sleep with him in his very house next door to his mother's room. Maybe they rent an apartment. The mother and Mohamed's family ignore all of that is NOT tolerated for the sake of their son s and their future. After all, he will send US dollars back to support all. It is a sacrifice that many men chose for a much brighter future. Actually, it is a smarter and easier venture than risking being fish food crossing the Mediterranean. 3 years later, Mohamed divorces and goes back to marry his 19 year old cousin who is a Virgin, ready to bare children, serve his mother and cook and clean. 

I am not making stuff up. I have seen this very scenarios dozens of times as I have lived within immigrant communities   for over 30 years in this great country. Of course, there are exceptions here and there. But truth is above; Re-read and I hope and pray this scenario stops. But, it might not stop as we, humans, want to believe we are loved and cherished for us and not for the green Card. Some actually know the truth, but chose to ignore it and to enjoy the moment. Some might even feel they can convince him to stick around with love etc.... but children are a MUST for these men. Yes, men are victims to this epidemic too. That is another animal all together.

Ps. I could careless if the woman is 99 and the husband is 19. Only facts here. Best of luck in all that you chose and or do. Peace

[Sunnyland 639]

8 hours ago, VickeySis said:

I am sorry that you all are going thru this. If your lawyer actually stated Fuentes to husband location and religion I suggest getting another attorney. Morocco was the first country in the world to recognize the US as being its own country (desperate from Britain) the Moroccan US tied a are very strong. Hillary Clinton grandfather is from Morocco. There is a TON of facts to give..I have been thru this process with morocco believe me it has nothing to do with religion and the country. 

 

Good luck!

Where did you get this info from? In no part of Hillary's genealogy I see a grandparent from Morocco. One came from England and the others were born in the US. I think you may be confused with the scandal that involved Hillary and the King of Morocco. 

OP,  good luck in your journey. It will be an up hill battle (immigration speaking) but nothing that real love can not conquer. Since he can not visit the US at all for the moment, its great you are able to visit him at least and get to know his culture.

[KimberlyNMustpha 15]

22 hours ago, cyberfx1024 said:

Exactly.... If he was just turned away at the border then there would be no ban at all, but he got a 5 year ban for whatever reason. Op, this is very suspicious to say the least if your husband got a 5 year ban due to being turned away at the border. What exactly did he tell you what happened when he tried to enter the USA?

 

We are not trying to judge your relationship we are just wondering why he got the ban and if there is something you or he is not telling us.

You know as much as I do, as I openly shared everything I have.  My husband, at that time fiancé, came to the US on his B1/B2 visitors visa to VISIT me.

 

At the POE, they went through his belongings and discovered his folder with all of his paperwork.  They pulled him in a room to question him and also called me to question me via telephone.  The paperwork from his POE interview is all I have to go upon as well as what he told me and what was disclosed to our attorney.   Whether it is wrong or suspicious, I am do not know.  But I have shared all that I know.

 

• In the paperwork, he is questioned why he would come with all of his vitals if he was not planning to marry and stay.
• His answer was truthful, that he was here to visit, live with me, and to plan for a future wedding.  
• The paperwork was so that we could put the application together.
• In the paperwork it clearly shows he entered the US on several other occasions - up to 6 months and never overstayed
• It says he had $5000 on him which they felt was not adequate for a 6 month "visit only."
• It states that he was very calm and cooperative and not a threat nor needing escort back
• There is in-depth inquiry into the purpose of his visit with me.  It is all about this women (me) who he loves and trying to comply with (my) family expectations.
• When they called me, they asked me what his purpose for being here was, what we planned to do, if I had the means to support him during his stay, did he have a USC brother, what his business was back at home - and we will let you know if we have any further questions..... that is it
• I don't have a copy of his Visa on me, but the number that was written on the Visa was for "misrepresentation". ACCORDING TO THE LAWYER.
• There is no indication in the paperwork that my husband was offered the opportunity to voluntarily return
• There is no indication in the paperwork that there was any other issue except for the fact they didn't believe that he was here NOT to marry me and stay
• There is no indication that there was any hostility, argument, disagreement. Nothing
• The only thing my husband told me is that he asked for an interpreter because he didn't clearly understand their questions and that the woman assigned did not speak the same dialect of Arabic and there was still some struggle with communication.
•  He said he was scared to death and did whatever they asked and answered what ever they asked.
• The day this happened I contacted the lawyer service referral on here to ask questions (At the time I had no idea why he was not admitted to the US and was told to get all the paperwork and hire an attorney)
• I also followed up with some very high profile attorneys (suggested through this website) who were faxed my information.  I was told that if I had known to contact an attorney while he was still here they could have helped.  Many of you say they couldn't do anything...maybe not.  I am just sharing what I was told.
• The paperwork states 5 year ban

Suspicious, not inclusive of details.....I have disclosed what I have available to me.  I guess when we finally get to the stage of the interview we will get more details.   

 

The fact is, he was not offered to voluntarily return (if he was, it is not documented and he did not understand that question)

The fact is, his visa has a big old RED x in it and cancelled

The fact is he has paperwork clearly indicating a 5 year ban

 

Whether what happened is not right or not we cannot go back and change it, only move forward. I have faith that the experienced immigration attorney that I have hired is doing what needs to be done.  He is communicating with me, and together Mustapha and I have met with him via Skype.(me in person)

 

 I am struggling with keeping a smile on my face, focusing on our home, and missing my husband terribly.   I have been back and forth to Morocco 6 times in the past 11 months and preparing to go again.   Spending a week, even a month doesn't fulfill the craving of wanting your spouse with you.  Our entire life is on hold while we wait.    We see each other through video chat at least 3 times a day and text throughout the night, both of us our depressed, can't sleep and want to move on with our lives together.   We rely on our faith to get us through and pray for patience.  I am very lucky to have the financial capability and some time to do the traveling, but everytime I have to leave him and my in-laws it puts in motion depression.    

 

Neither of us started this relationship or decided to marry without our eyes wide open to the long haul and process.  We have always wanted to do what is right.  It's just getting harder between each visit.  What keeps me going is the busy-ness I have surrounded myself with.

 

[KimberlyNMustpha 15]

54 minutes ago, Sunnyland said:

Where did you get this info from? In no part of Hillary's genealogy I see a grandparent from Morocco. One came from England and the others were born in the US. I think you may be confused with the scandal that involved Hillary and the King of Morocco. 

OP,  good luck in your journey. It will be an up hill battle (immigration speaking) but nothing that real love can not conquer. Since he can not visit the US at all for the moment, its great you are able to visit him at least and get to know his culture.

Thanks.  I have tried to look at this as a blessing.  I have a whole new family who has embraced me and my son, and who I am getting closer with each visit.   Blessings to you.

[Derik-Lina 230]

14 hours ago, janet3 said:

Of course that was meant to offend..otherwise you would have not called out all MENA men and called them Macho Men. And, by the way, I am offended. There is a six year age difference between my Macho Man and I......me being older. We are both in our 40's. He is intelligent and kind and generous and magnificent in every way  (and, by the way, he's cooking supper right now). So, before you make sweeping generalizations about someone from a specific region of the world......how about you go ahead and remember.......people are people......good and bad, honest and dishonest, loyal and disloyal, perfect and flawed.....but in general....people are just people. We fall in love and try to make the best of it.

Statistics, facts, reality and experience can lead one to generalize. Not nice, but it is what it is.

Love can be one sided and humans are very capable of hiding true feelings with eyes on the Prize  I hope I am wrong about your situation. Please do not feel offended unless you have doubts about your own situation. To clarify, I did not use "ALL". I am sorry you felt offended.

[Boiler 45,464]

The Deportation seems quite clear, do I take you speak Arabic, his dialect?

 

And the reasons he was not admitted need no further comment.

 

So that leaves just the Misrep issue, would need to know the code that was on his passport. Ask him what it is, that could add a year to the process.

[Derik-Lina 230]

27 minutes ago, Derik-Lina said:

14 hours ago, janet3 said:

make the best of it.

Statistics, facts, reality and experience can lead one to generalize. Not nice, but it is what it is.

Love can be one sided and humans are very capable of hidin

 

[deepfineleg 13]

On 5/1/2018 at 1:37 PM, KimberlyNMustpha said:

I apologize for not knowing how to attach the conversation I am replying to.

 

• I am 52, my husband is 47.......not a big difference in our ages.
• I have all the paperwork from the interview.  I have disclosed everything I have read and explained to me by the lawyer, there is nothing to hide, my husband is the type of guy that drives 59 in a 60mph zone because he is afraid of getting into trouble.  
• There was obviously communication breakdown before and after an interpreter was assigned to him
• I agree on enforcing immigration laws.  I am thankful that we have them and am not playing a victim to what has happened to my husband (then fiancé) but I do believe that we have CBP Officers that fly by the seat of their pants and make decisions based on the current flavor of the day.

 

I came here not to argue or defend my case.  It is what it is and I have accepted that.  I came to this forum to introduce myself and in support of how people manage their waiting time.  Every one of the cases I have read are unique in and of itself and nothing seems to be normal, just a guideline to help.  Perhaps I am using the wrong lingo.....this is new to me.  On July 12, 2017 I was contacted by CBP and told that my husband would not be entering the USA Today.   When I was faxed over the paperwork and had the several consults with the lawyer before choosing one, I was told he was banned for 5 years.  Might sound suspicious to you, but I can only go off of the paperwork/interview/ and stamp in his passport.    If there is something more to it, I am not aware of it and it was not documented int he interview.

 

I am just trying to survive the waiting game.

 

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