October 2017 I-129F Filers, Part III

[Seraphinek 99]

6 hours ago, Naes said:

@Sarac9 @Seraphinek

 

I 100% understand that feeling, and maybe I’m not even at the positions to say this.

 

i wanted to withdraw every single day... I don’t know if it was worth it as I think till that visa is in my hands I will feel this stress and awful emptiness and fear...

 

however, I am glad he didn’t let me pull the petition... because I would also be angry at my self. (And know that this comes from a person who also recovered from a depressive state and high anxiety, so believe me when I say I feel you..)

 

especially @Seraphinek without figuring out a solution don’t do this. Because not having any solution in the end will only cause more stress on the current situation. It ends, not easily maybe or early but it ends. 

 

Guys I know it looks longer in the wait but as I said, we didn’t even see the November starting yet, please try to give it 2 weeks from when it starts. That’s when most months cleared up as much as they can. And please realize many here are in the same boat, I’m not saying this to make you think about others by the way, I’m saying this so you’ll realize it may very well just be a normal wait as it is not only 5 people waiting here without explanation, but a big portion waiting under similar circumstances.

 

 

Thanks for sharing your experience @Naes. ❤️

 

We were thinking get married in Croatia. He’s also a Croatian citizen. Malaysia changed their law for the people with the word ‘Muslim’ on their ID card, they can now ask a letter stating that we’re single from commissioner of oath, not needing us to go through the processes like before but the only thing is our marriage won’t be recognised in Malaysia which I don’t mind at all since we’re not going to live here in Malaysia. 

 

The reason why he’s thinking about withdrawal is almost the same as @Sarac9, I’m all alone here in Malaysia. It’s worse when my depression and anxiety are kicking back in. I gotta go and see the doctors again, was admitted to the emergency ward more than 4 times in the last two months and my doctor keeps on persuading me to voluntarily stay in the phsychiatric ward now. I’m really sad because I was recovering before, I don’t even need to take the medicine anymore but now the doctor is starting to give me the medicine again. Being far apart from my fiancé is making it harder too. My worriness does stop there, it’s disturbing me in my sleep too with some kind of weird dreams that will keep awake from the rest of the night. I’m starting to look like a walking dead now. 😭

 

Sometimes I wish I got the strength like all others that have been waiting since previous months. I’m really thankful for my calming fiancé, he’s been keeping me calm every single time I’m starting to have an episode of breakdown. And not to forget all of you guys here on Visa Journey. I really wish all of us will get through this process and be with the one person we love the most. As for me and Ivan, we’re not gonna let the religions and the immigration rules to stop us from being together. Nothing could fight love, love will win. Love always win. ❤️

Edited April 29, 2018 by Seraphinek

[Seraphinek 99]

21 minutes ago, ToniAnn said:

I am right with you.. We started this process for a reason, what other choice do we have? I am saddened to know this is the pain we have to go through to be with the ones we love, and this is a right I have as an American.

True! I understand that they’re doing this for the security but it is so painful. Everytime when I see a status changed to withdrawal, I’m really hoping that the couple withdrew not because they broke up but they decided to go with another route. It is sad and scary to see couples breaking up because of this painful process. 

 

Hear us USCIS. This is a really painful process for all of us. 

[SONIA AND MICHAEL 508]

19 minutes ago, ToniAnn said:

I am right with you.. We started this process for a reason, what other choice do we have? I am saddened to know this is the pain we have to go through to be with the ones we love, and this is a right I have as an American.

yes... tomorrow we have a new week!!!!  I know is very hard...but..... we can with this situation ... our objective is very important ... we can be optimistic a few days more ....  

[ToniAnn 395]

Just now, Seraphinek said:

True! I understand that they’re doing this for the security but it is so painful. Everytime when I see a status changed to withdrawal, I’m really hoping that the couple withdrew not because they broke up but they decided to go with another route. It is sad and scary to see couples breaking up because of this painful process. 

 

Hear us USCIS. This is a really painful process for all of us. 

Thanks for the response. WITHDRAWAL is NOT an option for me.

Just now, SONIA AND MICHAEL said:

yes... tomorrow we have a new week!!!!  I know is very hard...but..... we can with this situation ... our objective is very important ... we can be optimistic a few days more ....  

I hope we can feel "better" this week.

[Seraphinek 99]

5 minutes ago, ToniAnn said:

Thanks for the response. WITHDRAWAL is NOT an option for me.

I hope we can feel "better" this week.

I can see that you’re a really strong person! How I wish I can be strong just like you. We don’t want to withdraw too, deep inside we really don’t want to even though we got the draft ready. My fiance keeps on telling me to give it one more week every single week, and I keep on telling myself to give it another week too and it’s been a few weeks of telling that to myself now, because we really don’t want to do withdrawal! It will be just in case it’s taking longer that we thought, then we might go with our newly planned Plan B. I just miss having a good night sleep, being normal and happy.

[ToniAnn 395]

Just now, Seraphinek said:

I can see that you’re a really strong person! How I wish I can be strong just like you. We don’t want to withdraw too, deep inside we really don’t want to even though we got the draft ready. My fiance keeps on telling me to give it one more week every single week, and I keep on telling myself to give it another week too and it’s been a few weeks of telling that to myself now, because we really don’t want to do withdrawal! It will be just in case it’s taking longer that we thought, then we might go with our newly planned Plan B. I just miss having a good night sleep, being normal and happy.

Right now I am VERY WEAK, and stressed. I cannot take it. I just do not want to speak anymore negative words.

[Seraphinek 99]

7 minutes ago, ToniAnn said:

Right now I am VERY WEAK, and stressed. I cannot take it. I just do not want to speak anymore negative words.

Not saying negative words in this kind of moment is considered being strong too. :’) I might be a bit fragile now dealing with my anxiety and depression but I will never say I’m very weak, I’m still strong but you know, not that strong.. we’re strong, and that’s why we’re still here. Do know that. YOU ARE STRONG. We all are. ❤️

Edited April 29, 2018 by Seraphinek

[SONIA AND MICHAEL 508]

Maybe I'm wrong ... but USCIS must start with the cases of November ... soon !!!.. cases without approval (october) must be resolved ... I do not think they want to have a big delay with the cases....!!!! I hope that!!!!! 

Edited April 29, 2018 by SONIA AND MICHAEL

[ThomasNC1988 762]

Time doesn’t really ‘march on’. It tends to tip-toe. There’s no parade. No stomping of boots to alert you to its passing. One day, you turn around and it is gone.

[ToniAnn 395]

Just now, Seraphinek said:

True! I understand that they’re doing this for the security but it is so painful. Everytime when I see a status changed to withdrawal, I’m really hoping that the couple withdrew not because they broke up but they decided to go with another route. It is sad and scary to see couples breaking up because of this painful process. 

 

Hear us USCIS. This is a really painful process for all of us. 

That's how I feel as well. This is too painful, and I am tapped out

Just now, ThomasNC1988 said:

Time doesn’t really ‘march on’. It tends to tip-toe. There’s no parade. No stomping of boots to alert you to its passing. One day, you turn around and it is gone.

true

[DonAnn 266]

I feel like this is a bad time for job interview... I pray God help us all mentally... need to think straight sigh🙏

[Kiera22 31]

This weekend I vowed not to look at anything visa related as I was going slightly insane but on the way to work this morning I thought I might aswell check.  Low and behold we got approved on Friday via the new site!!! I’ve been wanting to write the below for a very long time...

 

NOA1 Received: 10/10/17

RFE: 29/01/2018

RFE Received: 11/04/2018

NOA2: 27/04/2018

 

Best of luck to all those still waiting, hoping this week rains approvals! 

 

[Kiera22 31]

12 minutes ago, Kiera22 said:

This weekend I vowed not to look at anything visa related as I was going slightly insane but on the way to work this morning I thought I might aswell check.  Low and behold we got approved on Friday via the new site!!! I’ve been wanting to write the below for a very long time...

 

NOA1 Received: 10/10/17

RFE: 29/03/2018

RFE Received: 11/04/2018

NOA2: 27/04/2018

 

Best of luck to all those still waiting, hoping this week rains approvals! 

 

 

[Kiera22 31]

Sorry for the duplicate post...got the date wrong in the first one. I have no idea how to delete and my hands are still shaking! 

[ToniAnn 395]

Just now, Kiera22 said:

This weekend I vowed not to look at anything visa related as I was going slightly insane but on the way to work this morning I thought I might aswell check.  Low and behold we got approved on Friday via the new site!!! I’ve been wanting to write the below for a very long time...

 

NOA1 Received: 10/10/17

RFE: 29/01/2018

RFE Received: 11/04/2018

NOA2: 27/04/2018

 

Best of luck to all those still waiting, hoping this week rains approvals! 

 

Congrats!