Help! Am I not able to visit my family once I enter the us

[C-ma'am 684]

Post moved from K1 to Working & Traveling During US Immigration where similar posts are discussed

[BRENTWOOD 14]

I really appreciate everyone's advice ...... I really do and maybe unfair was in fact the wrong word of choice I completely understand that. I think it is just all getting more real and the fact that I'm moving in two weeks and combined with the guilt I feel from my family and leaving them is just getting very overwhelming for me. I do appreciate the reality check but at the same time I do wonder if I was cut out for this process it has completely worn me down and stressed me out and having to leave everyone is just really weighing on me. Thank you for the advice I really do appreciate it and being blunt is a must 

[JMK_IT 134]

File for an Advanced Parole. It will take a few months before you can leave the US.

[JMK_IT 134]

Ops, somehow the thread showed 0 answers but when I posted mine I saw it had already been answered and discussed. My bad

[Julia80 67]

5 hours ago, Illiria said:

Maybe the fiancé visa isn’t the right path for you then if being able to travel

as soon as you get to the US is that important. 

 

A spousal visa takes a little longer on average but is cheaper in the long run and will allow you to travel as soon as you enter the us on the visa. 

That’s not fair to say, in fact it’s quite a horrible thing to say. Just because you love your spouse and chose to move countries doesn’t mean that you miss your family any less. I am extremely close to my sister and not seeing her is so upsetting. I can’t wait for when my AP is here so I can go and give my sister a cuddle.  It doesn’t mean the K1 wasn’t “right for me”. 

 

I can fully understand your desire to be able to visit your family. AP will allow that. You just have to wait it out. Keep

strong, it will be worth it. 

[NovaDC 270]

I am a K1 Visa holder and currently on the process of adjusting my status. Not able to go home( or let me say go back to the US)without an AP or green card( which you have to wait) has a benefit. It helps an immigrant to get used to the whole new life in this country and the married life. It also helps you to cope with homesickness. Coz if I could just fly back and fro easily to my country everytime I feel homesick,it will take a whole lot of time for me to adjust here. I really understand how you feel, it's not easy. But you just need to find joy in your new life here. Spend quality time with your spouse,learn a new hobby, try to learn new American cuisines, in short occupy your mind. When the time comes that you can go home to your country and come back here freely, you have already adapted your new life here and maybe you will be calling here your new ''home''.

[QueenComley 295]

2 hours ago, Julia80 said:

That’s not fair to say, in fact it’s quite a horrible thing to say. Just because you love your spouse and chose to move countries doesn’t mean that you miss your family any less. I am extremely close to my sister and not seeing her is so upsetting. I can’t wait for when my AP is here so I can go and give my sister a cuddle.  It doesn’t mean the K1 wasn’t “right for me”. 

 

I can fully understand your desire to be able to visit your family. AP will allow that. You just have to wait it out. Keep

strong, it will be worth it. 

I think you may have attached your reply to the wrong comment as the one you have responded to was of no offence at all, which was:

7 hours ago, Illiria said:

"Maybe the fiancé visa isn’t the right path for you then if being able to travel

as soon as you get to the US is that important. 

A spousal visa takes a little longer on average but is cheaper in the long run and will allow you to travel as soon as you enter the us on the visa."

 

You may want to remove your original post or respond to the correct comment you were aiming at

Edited April 12, 2018 by QueenComley

[Sunnyland 639]

7 hours ago, missileman said:

Suggestion:  Learn how to use Video conferencing software like Messenger, Skpe, etc. 

 

Which we all mastered at some point.  Right?  My first months I did Skype all day with my family and friends. Even with some neighbors one time. 

OP. It's not the end of the world. It does seem that way but your family can always visit you if you miss them. Just hang there until you receive your Advance Parole (and employment document).

 

Read this guide.

http://www.visajourney.com/content/k1k3aos

 

Are you already in US?

Edited April 12, 2018 by Sunnyland

[Julia80 67]

1 hour ago, QueenComley said:

I think you may have attached your reply to the wrong comment as the one you have responded to was of no offence at all, which was:

"Maybe the fiancé visa isn’t the right path for you then if being able to travel

as soon as you get to the US is that important. 

A spousal visa takes a little longer on average but is cheaper in the long run and will allow you to travel as soon as you enter the us on the visa."

 

You may want to remove your original post or respond to the correct comment you were aiming at

Nope. I found it quite rude. Telling someone they may have basically made the wrong decision if travelling is “that important” just seems extremely uncalled for especially when going through the emotional turmoil of this process. Sorry if I read it differently to what this poster meant but if I was the OP, I would have been upset by that comment.

[Boiler 45,913]

And factually correct.

[geowrian 22,338]

I certainly can't tell somebody else how to feel, but it did not come off as rude at all to me. People have to make choices...sometimes very tough ones between the lesser of 2 evils. Is being together a few months sooner worth the struggles of not being able to travel abroad right away? For some people, the answer is yes. For others, it's no. There is no universally right or wrong choice...just a wrong choice if you want one thing and pick the option that only provides the other.

 

At least the OP either has or had (I'm not sure where they are in the process tbh) the choice. People who already married don't even get this choice and are forced into the longer separation.

Edited April 12, 2018 by geowrian

[Lemonslice 4,947]

11 minutes ago, Julia80 said:

Nope. I found it quite rude. Telling someone they may have basically made the wrong decision if travelling is “that important” just seems extremely uncalled for especially when going through the emotional turmoil of this process. Sorry if I read it differently to what this poster meant but if I was the OP, I would have been upset by that comment.

We all make choices and go with what is most important to us.  If travelling is more important than moving to the USA, then K1 is not the best choice for that person [which does not mean they do not love their spouse or want to be apart]. 

[Scandi 4,176]

10 hours ago, BRENTWOOD said:

Hello

 

does anyone know if during the probation period of getting a green card if we are allowed to visit our family at all? It just seems so unfair that when I will be the most stressed and home sick I won't be able to visit my family. That could be up to 18 months and probably the most doifcilt 18 months of my life. Any help is appreciated.

thank you 

 

 

Just assuming you're talking about entering on a K-1 visa.. this is yet another thing that is negative about that particular visa. If it doesn't suit you, you should choose the CR-1 visa instead.

 

Many people just seem to pick the K-1 visa without doing proper research, and then they get upset and call it "unfair" when they later realize that it wasn't the best choice on their part. But instead of blaming themselves for not doing enough research and planning, they wrongfully blame the immigration system/process.

[janet3 1,170]

9 hours ago, BRENTWOOD said:

I really appreciate everyone's advice ...... I really do and maybe unfair was in fact the wrong word of choice I completely understand that. I think it is just all getting more real and the fact that I'm moving in two weeks and combined with the guilt I feel from my family and leaving them is just getting very overwhelming for me. I do appreciate the reality check but at the same time I do wonder if I was cut out for this process it has completely worn me down and stressed me out and having to leave everyone is just really weighing on me. Thank you for the advice I really do appreciate it and being blunt is a must 

I cannot begin to imagine how overwhelming all of it is.......leaving your home and family and friends and everything familiar....but that is what my Algerian fiance  (now husband) did. He knew when he entered the US that it would be at least 6 months before he could leave and prepared everyone for it. He speaks to his family and/or friends every day via skype/whatsapp/viber.......it has helped immensely with the home sickness. ..

 

[CEE53147 559]

9 hours ago, BRENTWOOD said:

I really appreciate everyone's advice ...... I really do and maybe unfair was in fact the wrong word of choice I completely understand that. I think it is just all getting more real and the fact that I'm moving in two weeks and combined with the guilt I feel from my family and leaving them is just getting very overwhelming for me. I do appreciate the reality check but at the same time I do wonder if I was cut out for this process it has completely worn me down and stressed me out and having to leave everyone is just really weighing on me. Thank you for the advice I really do appreciate it and being blunt is a must 

 

It does not sound like you are ready for the commitment to a marriage if you find leaving your birth family so stressful.  If you have doubts, you will be doing yourself a favor to give yourself more time to sort out your feelings and prepare for the challenges of a significant move and married life.