Need some advise

[Catty21 0]

I recently posted about my issues with my US citizen husband, he has been torturing me , threatening me for along time i was stupid never told anyone never called police on him but after he calms down we talk about it and i have videos of him admitting and saying sorry to me , he once chocked me because i put his weed in a different place, last week he started an argument and in the process he either ran into adoor or the things the things he was throwing hit him on the mouth, when he saw blood he called the police and told him i beat him 😭we didn’t fight at all he got hurt idk how , the police took me to jail and i got abond of 500$ which i paid my self Cause i have no family in America.. i was given a no victim contact yet he’s the only person i have , I cannot talk to his parents cause they wanted him to marry a chinese gal  so that’s obvious they don’t like me am sleeping jn my car right now😭sometimes with afreind ... idk what to do cause he always told me he will get me deported cause he’s a citizen,,, i was charged for domestic violence and i have court bext week ,, just wanted to know will i be able to remove conditions on my green card even without him ?? Cause he says he will never give me divorce and he won’t file for me again for the ROC also has anyone seen such a situation,, will the court take me back to jail again 😭😭😭am so scared am only 21yrs and he’s 28 i just need help cause i got no body to talk too ,, ur response will help thanks!! 

[MadMax101 32]

I would look up what the wire taping laws are in your state and start secretly recording him with your phone if it's legal to do so in your state.

[Catty21 0]

1 minute ago, MadMax101 said:

I would look up what the wire taping laws are in your state and start secretly recording him with your phone if it's legal to do so in your state.

Thanks but am on a no victim contact I cannot see what he’s doing now 

[Sukie 1,463]

Have you been able to collect any evidence of your bonafide marriage like people suggested to you in February?

 

If you, indeed, have videos of your spouse apologizing for hurting you, have you given those to your attorney for your court case?

 

Sukie in NY

[Catty21 0]

2 minutes ago, Sukie said:

Have you been able to collect any evidence of your bonafide marriage like people suggested to you in February?

 

If you, indeed, have videos of your spouse apologizing for hurting you, have you given those to your attorney for your court case?

 

Sukie in NY

I have all the proof but I don’t have an attorney yet he told my freind that he won’t come to the court that the case will be dismissed 

[FrenchKat 32]

Catty ! 

Hire an attorney ASAP! 

 

[Catty21 0]

1 minute ago, FrenchKat said:

Catty ! 

Hire an attorney ASAP! 

 

I can’t afford him

[mindthegap 2,590]

49 minutes ago, Catty21 said:

I can’t afford him

You are the accused in a criminal trial- you have the right to an attorney at no cost to you, Aka the ‘you have the right to an attorney. If you cannot afford an attorney one will be provided to you’ that you have heard a million times in tv shows and movies.

 

Removal of conditions is the least of your worries right now - land yourself a felony domestic violence conviction( or even a misdemeanor DV in some states) and you are deportable. 

 

Get. A. Lawyer.  

 

Edited April 6, 2018 by mindthegap

[Catty21 0]

On 4/6/2018 at 7:19 PM, mindthegap said:

You are the accused in a criminal trial- you have the right to an attorney at no cost to you, Aka the ‘you have the right to an attorney. If you cannot afford an attorney one will be provided to you’ that you have heard a million times in tv shows and movies.

 

Removal of conditions is the least of your worries right now - land yourself a felony domestic violence conviction( or even a misdemeanor DV in some states) and you are deportable. 

 

Get. A. Lawyer.  

 

He dropped the charges himself and the state had to drop the charges,, but am now so stressed about the removal of conditions idk if i will be denied or be deported that’s my worries ...he keeps saying that he didn’t know what he was thinking cause the truth is he lied about that ... that I should forgive him but the bad record is on me and am really worried of what’s going to happen on removal of conditions next year 

[Catty21 0]

Thank you all ,, that took time and give me advise,, my husband dropped the Charges and the case was closed and am wondering if it’s going to affect my status next year when i go to remove conditions on my Greencard? Thanks again!!

[Villanelle 4,122]

If all the charges were dropped you shouldnt have any issues with ROC because of it. You probably will still need to disclose the arrest and the outcome. Since the outcome was charges dropped there will be no impact. Your main concern should be separating from your husband and getting to a safe place. No one should live in an abusive situation. You got lucky this time that the false charges were dropped. Next time you may not be so lucky with the court. More importantly you are risking your safety being with him. Please find a safe place to stay. 

 

You also need to start filing divorce proceedings so you can ROC on your own. Your marriage is toxic and you deserve better. 

[Catty21 0]

6 minutes ago, Damara said:

If all the charges were dropped you shouldnt have any issues with ROC because of it. You probably will still need to disclose the arrest and the outcome. Since the outcome was charges dropped there will be no impact. Your main concern should be separating from your husband and getting to a safe place. No one should live in an abusive situation. You got lucky this time that the false charges were dropped. Next time you may not be so lucky with the court. More importantly you are risking your safety being with him. Please find a safe place to stay. 

 

You also need to start filing divorce proceedings so you can ROC on your own. Your marriage is toxic and you deserve better. 

 Thank you so much!! I really needed this