Sad day for my wife

[John & Rose 7,239]

This is the main reason that we will not have many chat logs in our proof of relationship.  She calls me her "handsome husband" and I call her "my sexy wife".  Those are major no-nos in this process.  Now it is kind of a joke to us but maybe the CO won't think so.

[Springrain22 427]

4 minutes ago, John & Rose said:

This is the main reason that we will not have many chat logs in our proof of relationship.  She calls me her "handsome husband" and I call her "my sexy wife".  Those are major no-nos in this process.  Now it is kind of a joke to us but maybe the CO won't think so.

It does not matter how you call each other, even "intergalactic bed ninja". What does matter is what CO thinks.

[kirkn09 13]

Not sure if I misread but you've only seen her 7 times in 7 years?

[John & Rose 7,239]

3 minutes ago, Springrain22 said:

It does not matter how you call each other, even "intergalactic bed ninja". What does matter is what CO thinks.

True but they are sensitive to married couples using the K-1 process to get in the states trying to cut a few months off the process.  I know of at least a couple couples here who are already married but trying to do the K-1.  I assume they will get busted.  It isn't worth taking the chance because a denial for misrepresentation has a best case scenario of starting over with a CR-1 and waiting 12 to 14 months.  Worse case scenerios are much more challenging.  5 year, 10 year, permanent ban?  

 

It is too common that people believe they will get away with it.  Most COs are well trained and very good at their job.

[John & Rose 7,239]

3 minutes ago, kirkn09 said:

Not sure if I misread but you've only seen her 7 times in 7 years?

I just went back and saw that too.  Once a year for 7 years?  It meets the requirement but seems strange.  I've seen Rose and the kids 5 times in 2017 alone.

[Unidentified 2,930]

8 minutes ago, Springrain22 said:

It does not matter how you call each other, even "intergalactic bed ninja". What does matter is what CO thinks.

People have actually gotten in trouble when calling each other wifey and hubby and was suddenly not married enough for Cr1 but too married for k1. 

[kirkn09 13]

1 minute ago, John & Rose said:

I just went back and saw that too.  Once a year for 7 years?  It meets the requirement but seems strange.  I've seen Rose and the kids 5 times in 2017 alone.

Yeah, I could see how that might raise some eyebrows and make the interviewer not be quite as receptive. 

 

If they meet the requirements they might not be able to turn them down, but they'll probably be a little less friendly and more by the books. 

[John & Rose 7,239]

Just now, kirkn09 said:

Yeah, I could see how that might raise some eyebrows and make the interviewer not be quite as receptive. 

 

If they meet the requirements they might not be able to turn them down, but they'll probably be a little less friendly and more by the books. 

There are stories of denials even when all the requirements are met.  The COs have the final say and if they say "no" it  is difficult to challenge them.  If they suspect anything all they need to do is deny.  The evidence won't really matter.  I've seen a few of those in the short time I've been here.

[Springrain22 427]

7 minutes ago, Unidentified said:

People have actually gotten in trouble when calling each other wifey and hubby and was suddenly not married enough for Cr1 but too married for k1. 

I meant the same thing. Call it whatever you like but it MUST be official when there's an immigration process involved.

[geowrian 22,338]

32 minutes ago, kirkn09 said:

Yeah, I could see how that might raise some eyebrows and make the interviewer not be quite as receptive. 

 

If they meet the requirements they might not be able to turn them down, but they'll probably be a little less friendly and more by the books. 

They can (and have) refused visas and had the petitions returned for this. If the CO believe the I-129F is invalid because you may not be free to marry from filing through visa issuance, they can refuse the visa on that grounds. Essentially, it's not their job to determine that you aren't actually married (i.e. if you married but didn't report it)...it's your job to show that you are eligible for the benefit being sought.

Edited April 3, 2018 by geowrian

[Perfect two 💑 1,147]

1 hour ago, John & Rose said:

This is the main reason that we will not have many chat logs in our proof of relationship.  She calls me her "handsome husband" and I call her "my sexy wife".  Those are major no-nos in this process.  Now it is kind of a joke to us but maybe the CO won't think so.

That is what happened to us too, we called each other "hubby and wifey - even though we are not yet married", that is why we really checked every single evidence before we submit it. It is too risky and we are not willing to take that risk

[Marieke H 2,523]

Too bad the OP hasn't been back to answer all the very valid questions that were raised here...

[JFH 12,191]

I'm wondering if the fiancé is Japanese or someone from a high-fraud country who happens to live in Japan. 

 

Seven visits in 7 years is odd. I understand flights are expensive but neither of you would need accommodation, just the flight, and there are deals to be had in low season. If the fiancé is Japanese she is presumably eligible for the VWP so shouldn't have any problem visiting. Maybe that's the reason? Maybe it's unusual for Japanese beneficiaries to see so little of each other. I know that it would be odd for the London embassy if someone has only seen their spouse/fiancé once a year as we have the luxury of the VWP and flights are relatively cheap in terms of average salaries compared to other countries where a flight to the USA might be equivalent to a year's salary. 

 

Also - what's the time scale of the previous divorce? Was the OP truly free to marry at time of submitting the I-129F? Or was he still trying to track down the Vietnamese wife? Is that the reason they waited 7 years to file? 

[Paul & Mallory 1,398]

13 hours ago, MariekeH said:

Too bad the OP hasn't been back to answer all the very valid questions that were raised here...

OMG I KNOW. Why do these people come and stir us all up and then don't come back and feed our curiosity! lol

 

[John & Rose 7,239]

1 hour ago, Paul & Mallory said:

OMG I KNOW. Why do these people come and stir us all up and then don't come back and feed our curiosity! lol

 

He wanted support and sympathy.  I assume he read these, made some comment about us being jerks then he went back to Asian Cupid for his next "wife".  Red flag was "first wife was latina", "second wife was Vietnamese", third wife is Japanese".  He collects foreign wives and then apparently they just leave him never to be heard from again.  I feel sorry for all of his exes.  They deserve better.