Where do you live when you arrive?

[Ben&Zian 4,398]

2 minutes ago, cyberfx1024 said:

I am trying to understand how her husband had no credit whatsoever and what was he doing during the Visa process, was he in the Philippines as well and didn't have job to go back to? If that is the case then it's poor planning on his part. I was in Afghanistan during the process and I had a job lined up outside Los Angeles, that's why we moved literally 4 days after getting married from NC to Ca. 

How was your asawa supporting you during the process? There is no housing sponsor.

 

Exactly. I've been long out of the military now; but before the interview I took a loan out of my 401k to ensure I had extra money to spare for him to transition easier,  maybe some new furniture, extra clothing, down payment for car eventually, ect.

[mrmvkjts 459]

I do not trust this story at all!

Either some HUGE parts of the story are missing or it’s a big freaking scam!

 

 

Edited March 27, 2018 by mrmvkjts

[usmsbow 802]

Simple question: what did your husband tell you before you arrived? I mean your experience is common among immigrants who came here with no connections to the USA. My former boss immigrated here with $0 from Vietnam (boat person). A lot of her first experiences here are similar to yours BUT she had no family that arrived before her. So on the one hand, I'm not surprised by your story, but the fact your husband is an American, I just don't get that part of the story...

 

And how did you all do AoS and the like? Co-sponsors?

 

 

[Paul & Mallory 1,398]

4 minutes ago, bukawbukaw said:

Being married to an American did not seem to matter to anyone renting, no. Why didn't I look into housing before I moved? I did not know I needed to. Even my husband did not know. It was his first time being married to an immigrant. I don't know why people were offended at that thread and told me to get out of America. I am sorry if I am sometimes not good with my English. I do not mean to be mean. I am just thinking lately about my struggles here. Maybe I am venting too much? I am venting I admit. But I also want to prepare others. I am an American now so I don't have to "get out". But I also do wonder if there is a such thing as finding some peace and quiet here. I thought it was going to be quiet in America. Instead of karaoke at 3am here, it is gangster rap and I don't know what is worse! lol

Again, your view of this entire country seems to be very narrow. You shouldn't base your opinion on an entire country based on one specific state, or even one town.

 

Your other thread contained name calling and some pretty direct negative comments so I wouldn't exactly chalk that up as "bad English", but okay, whatever.

 

Your husband didn't have a place to live already? I guess that's not what I'm understanding. I'm on K1 and not CR1, but I wouldn't expect my fiancé to move here if I didn't have a home and place for him to come home to. I don't consider myself a millionaire either, I noticed that comment in an earlier post. Just seems like common sense to me.

 

You're in California, yes? California is one of the biggest and most entertainment driven states we have in this country. I think even people from outside the states looking in can agree with that. I'm not sure what you expected by moving somewhere like that. It's a fast paced life. Perhaps you should consider moving to a more "small town" friendly state. (PS this is the kind of information I was referring to in wondering why you didn't do any research before moving over, such as what area you would prefer to live in, what area you could AFFORD to live in, etc.)

[Paul & Mallory 1,398]

9 minutes ago, bukawbukaw said:

That is a visa sponsor. We were talking about a housing sponsor.

There's no such thing as a housing sponsor (for this particular visa, that I'm aware of). Part of the financial validation for visa processing is to ensure the immigrant coming over doesn't become a burden of the state. Meaning - if you move here, you/your petitioner or whoever is financially sponsoring you should be able to provide you enough financial support to live here.

 

Also - again, I understand K1 and CR1 are two different things but are somewhat similar. I had to validate my finances in order to petition my fiancé. I also had to say where he would be living (my home here in the states) and provide enough evidence supporting my financial stability to prove he would not become a burden of the state - basically, he's my responsibility. Is this not the case with CR1, just with one's spouse versus fiancé?

Edited March 27, 2018 by Paul & Mallory

[June2018 3]

When I arrived, my U.S. spouse bought a 2002 class a motor home with slid outs and 2 1/2 acres of land outside the city. The total cost was $13,000 and $12 a year for property tax.

[*Snowdrop* 604]

It's possible that the husband had never lived in the USA before, or only as a small child, and was still a dual citizen. In that case it would be exactly like two new immigrants arriving together and that can be very tough with no family to fall back on.

[bukawbukaw 2]

11 minutes ago, Iwo_Jima said:

I don't believe you.

OK?

[bukawbukaw 2]

Just now, Trellick said:

It's possible that the husband had never lived in the USA before, or only as a small child, and was still a dual citizen. In that case it would be exactly like two new immigrants arriving together and that can be very tough with no family to fall back on.

No my husband grew up in the US. Is it common knowledge that immigrants can't rent in most places? I thought that was only me. No one ever told me this. That is why I wanted to discuss it. I never read it here either.

[Paul & Mallory 1,398]

1 minute ago, Trellick said:

It's possible that the husband had never lived in the USA before, or only as a small child, and was still a dual citizen. In that case it would be exactly like two new immigrants arriving together and that can be very tough with no family to fall back on.

I think this question has been asked previously but not really answered, but it is a good point.

 

However, in that case, I still feel better research could be done prior to moving so it isn't such a shock. At the very least, have a better understanding of the financial responsibilities of where it is you are moving to. Moving blindly can lead to a lot of disappointment, as it appears is the case here.

[usmsbow 802]

Just now, bukawbukaw said:

No my husband grew up in the US. Is it common knowledge that immigrants can't rent in most places? I thought that was only me. No one ever told me this. That is why I wanted to discuss it. I never read it here either.

 

So if he grew up here, why did you have any problems renting a place due to being an immigrant? That makes no sense. And your statement is false. Immigrants can live in many places. 

[bukawbukaw 2]

4 minutes ago, March2018 said:

When I arrived, my U.S. spouse bought a 2002 class a motor home with slid outs and 2 1/2 acres of land outside the city. The total cost was $13,000 and $12 a year for property tax.

That is a GREAT idea!

[Paul & Mallory 1,398]

1 minute ago, bukawbukaw said:

No my husband grew up in the US. Is it common knowledge that immigrants can't rent in most places? I thought that was only me. No one ever told me this. That is why I wanted to discuss it. I never read it here either.

So your husband's never lived anywhere on his own then? I'm not understanding this part.

 

If he already lives somewhere, especially if he already resided somewhere with his name on the lease/mortgage/whatever, it should not be such an issue to add his legal spouse to that residence contract. I've already added my fiancé to the lease on my house with his move in date in May and had ZERO problems with this. People have zero problems adding their immigrant spouse/fiancé all the time, to utility bills, bank accounts, etc.

[usmsbow 802]

After seeing another topic started by the OP, it is clear s/he is a troll with time to kill. Cheers!

 

 

[bukawbukaw 2]

2 minutes ago, Paul & Mallory said:

I think this question has been asked previously but not really answered, but it is a good point.

 

However, in that case, I still feel better research could be done prior to moving so it isn't such a shock. At the very least, have a better understanding of the financial responsibilities of where it is you are moving to. Moving blindly can lead to a lot of disappointment, as it appears is the case here.

Well we were shocked. And I hope someone else comes on this thread that needs it. We survived, but I have little in the way of advice. But others here seem to have a few good ideas!