Abusive spouse

[alivcc 0]

Hi

A quick background, also a request

Please do not send me any abusive responses, if you do not like what I am asking,  please do not respond, you do not know my situation, therefore, you have no right to criticise me.

Thank you

 

I got married, and followed up getting her here, on a spousal visa, I think K1

She came here, and few months later, became abusive, lazy, demanding etc.

I tried and did what I could do to keep the marriage going, then we had a baby.

The wife came here on Jan 20th, 2017

Now she is visiting her family back home ( with the baby), and I want to divorce her, and hopefully try and revoke her visa, so she cannot come back to the USA

I will support the child fully, I am down with that. Its here that is just plain unbearable. Now in a threatening mode.

Thanks to anyone who has any idea what I should do here, frankly I am scared for myself and my two kids from previous marriage.

Edited March 24, 2018 by alivcc

[Roel 7,192]

Did you file for AOS? Does she have her green card yet? Or travel permit? Should have include those in your post. 

 

Honestly you cannot do anything if she has any of those. You cannot revoke anything. If she has a green card she can come and go as she please. If you NEVER filed for AOS and she left then she won't be able to come back unless you'd file for a spouse visa. 

 

Don't be bitter. Just divorce if that's what you want and move on. Her immigration status will be her problem. 

 

Also this is a public forum. You will get all kinds of answers and you have no right to tell people not to comment. Welcome to the internet  

Edited March 24, 2018 by Roel

[payxibka 10,045]

22 minutes ago, alivcc said:

Hi

A quick background, also a request

Please do not send me any abusive responses, if you do not like what I am asking,  please do not respond, you do not know my situation, therefore, you have no right to criticise me.

Thank you

 

I got married, and followed up getting her here, on a spousal visa, I think K1

She came here, and few months later, became abusive, lazy, demanding etc.

I tried and did what I could do to keep the marriage going, then we had a baby.

The wife came here on Jan 20th, 2017

Now she is visiting her family back home ( with the baby), and I want to divorce her, and hopefully try and revoke her visa, so she cannot come back to the USA

I will support the child fully, I am down with that. Its here that is just plain unbearable. Now in a threatening mode.

Thanks to anyone who has any idea what I should do here, frankly I am scared for myself and my two kids from previous marriage.

What is her current staus in the USA?  Your described facts are not telling the right story.  If you married first and then brought her here then it is not K-1 because a K-1 the marriage occurs in the USA.  If she came on a spousal visa which resulted in a green card there is no revokation of a visa...  There is nothing you can do.  

 

 

[Roel 7,192]

Oh right. I didn't notice that. If she came on the spouse visa cr1 then she obviously have her green card.  Can't revoke that. 

[j&ana 363]

Quote

 

This post is confusing what the @#!#%#@@!

but seriously you do not know what visa ? IR-1or CR-1 visa spousal visa K -1 visa is fiancé visa .

you can not revoke her visa  no matter what. She not a merchandize to be ship somewhere 

Edited March 24, 2018 by j&ana

[Lemonslice 4,859]

How many partners can you bring and return?  

 

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/542542-fiance-in-the-us-but-do-not-want-to-marry/

[Roel 7,192]

6 minutes ago, Lemonslice said:

How many partners can you bring and return?  

 

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/542542-fiance-in-the-us-but-do-not-want-to-marry/

Lol! Good find. 

[Going through 5,671]

2 hours ago, alivcc said:

Now she is visiting her family back home ( with the baby), and I want to divorce her, and hopefully try and revoke her visa, so she cannot come back to the USA

 

If she has a green card, you can't do anything to revoke it. 

If she has a green card she can re-enter the US, you can't do anything to prevent that. 

She can remove the conditions on her own with a divorce waiver  (if she is in the ROC stage) and even later on become a US citizen (if she chooses to do so) without the need for your involvement, approval or consent.  

 

You can divorce her and pay child support, no problem with that.

 

 

 

[pushbrk 12,910]

8 hours ago, alivcc said:

Hi

A quick background, also a request

Please do not send me any abusive responses, if you do not like what I am asking,  please do not respond, you do not know my situation, therefore, you have no right to criticise me.

Thank you

 

I got married, and followed up getting her here, on a spousal visa, I think K1

She came here, and few months later, became abusive, lazy, demanding etc.

I tried and did what I could do to keep the marriage going, then we had a baby.

The wife came here on Jan 20th, 2017

Now she is visiting her family back home ( with the baby), and I want to divorce her, and hopefully try and revoke her visa, so she cannot come back to the USA

I will support the child fully, I am down with that. Its here that is just plain unbearable. Now in a threatening mode.

Thanks to anyone who has any idea what I should do here, frankly I am scared for myself and my two kids from previous marriage.

Did you marry BEFORE she arrived in the US?  If so, you cannot "revoke" her visa.  You can divorce but her status in the US is up to her.  If she has a green card, it's too late to "revoke" anything.  Divorce if you wish.  

[Bfree3 132]

8 hours ago, alivcc said:

Hi

A quick background, also a request

Please do not send me any abusive responses, if you do not like what I am asking,  please do not respond, you do not know my situation, therefore, you have no right to criticise me.

Thank you

 

I got married, and followed up getting her here, on a spousal visa, I think K1

She came here, and few months later, became abusive, lazy, demanding etc.

I tried and did what I could do to keep the marriage going, then we had a baby.

The wife came here on Jan 20th, 2017

Now she is visiting her family back home ( with the baby), and I want to divorce her, and hopefully try and revoke her visa, so she cannot come back to the USA

I will support the child fully, I am down with that. Its here that is just plain unbearable. Now in a threatening mode.

Thanks to anyone who has any idea what I should do here, frankly I am scared for myself and my two kids from previous marriage.

If it were me, 

1. file complaint about abuse - so you have this when you do go to lawyer.

2. file for custody rights to the child - so your visitations and payments are marked out clearly from the beginning. 

3. go through with whatever divorce proceedings as necessary - know that since you filed for her and more than likely agreed to support her while she is here, you will still be required to support her. 

Like everyone else said, once she has her green card,there's nothing you can do to take that away from her. 

 

Seek help right away. Hope it all works out for you. Good luck!

[JFH 12,190]

Interesting...

 

"I have found another woman who wants to marry me and come to the USA" - sounds like you are getting involved with these women purely for them to gain immigration benefit. Especially given the speed at which you were ready to bring a new wife here after the failure of the previous relationship. It failed the first time but it looks like this latest one got what she wanted. 

 

You don't hold hold the keys to the country. You don't decide who does and doesn't live here. If she has a green card, she can stay until she dies.

 

My concern is this - you have a child who is a USC, presumably. Why do you want to ban the mother of your child from living in the country of your child's birth? What would that achieve for your child? What kind of father would do that? No matter how much you hate your wife, you should love your child more. For the sake of the child, don't even attempt to stop her returning. If she stays in Pakistan the child would be forced to stay there. But your child is an American. Why the heck would you do that to your child? Are you really that heartless? 

 

Edited March 24, 2018 by JFH

[Sunnyland 639]

OP, where is your spouse from? and is this one the same person of your 2015 thread? 

[Eternity1516 38]

It sounds to me (according to past posts cited) like the abuser and the victim are opposite of what you are claiming. Typical abuser claiming to be the victim. You sound like a very toxic person with extreme hostility. I would recommend couples counseling. (that is, if she returns) I would also recommend a psychiatric evaluation for you. I believe the evaluation and treatment might help your situation immensely. 

Good luck!

 

[Jeanne Adil 1,651]

comments are not abusive but they are critical

and you will get that on here from those of us that take this process so seriously

sounds more like she returned home because you were abusive and she did not know what to do

and you are still married and hunting for a new wife?   WOW    

were you ever serious about your wife and relaitonship?

Did anyone file police reports of abuse?   hard to fight that if no reports exist

why did you pay for her to return home?

if you did not and didn't know ,  why didnt you follow as she has your child?

or did she just go to visit and has no idea what you are algedging back in US?

YOu need help and not the kind VJ can give you

[JFH 12,190]

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