Devastated! Victim of marriage Fraud before ROC w/ Iranian national

[Coco8 1,042]

I guess you could try to get evidence, even as a text message or email from him. Or report him to the FBI. The information you provide could be serious (travel under a different passport, having worked for the Iranian government, arms training, violence). 

 

From a green card standpoint, it would be hard to do anything. I guess you could write to USCIS and they could do a more thorough background check on him. Without any evidence to go on, it would be hard for them to find what you are saying.

 

You can send them the restraining orders. 

Edited March 7, 2018 by Coco8

[Display01 6]

I can imagine what you're going through. I went through something similar.  He went after everything I had: savings, 401k, house, alimony. I can see you're upset and devastated. However, I don't want you to lose yourself during this process. Material things don't matter much to me, I will rebuild and so are you. If he remarries or even cohabitates with someone,  he's not entitled to alimony. Get a good lawyer. Reach out to friends and family so you can get the support that you need in this difficult time.  Immigration might look at you as an "angry ex-wife" trying to get back at him unless you get proof of certain things.

I wish you good luck.

[Yanirose 64]

If I was you I'd report him to FBI for what it's worth....I'll pray for you! 

[doggieandsam 765]

what a jerk! make sure you get a very good divorce lawyer! may this be a lesson to others, esp if one is marrying later in life and is bringing significant assets to the marriage, get a prenup!!!

[immianxiety 8]

Please be careful of making incendiary claims just because you think they will help your case. Why would you have been okay with all of this until now? 

[Lucy&Jason 807]

6 hours ago, Xcalj5 said:

I brought my current husband from Iran on K1 visa. My husband is 14 years younger than me and came without any money. Yes, I lost my mind. I fell in love with young charismatic man. I am educated and my whole life I saved with hard work and sacrifices. And it happened, he used me just for a green card (yeah stupid me for trusting). He admitted for lying on application regarding his previous employment. He admitted for working for Iranian government and having weapons training (not mentioned on visa app). He received his visa based on lies (I have no way of proving it). I refused to sign ROC (I751) and so he left and is filing it based on divorce waiver. He was abusive throughout the relationship, which was documented in court. Two temporary restraining orders. No criminal charges though. After he left (2.5 yrs) I found out he was in relationship with another older woman and have recording of them. I am ok he left, but I am not ok he is suing me for half. I confirmed with 3 attorneys that he is entitled to half of my savings (which is a lot collected during marriage.) He is also going for alimony and my 401k which I saved a lot. He did not pay a dime to me or towards my house or anything. I covered all his expenssed. Found him job. I basically lost $40K on him and will lose another $40k based on him defrauding me and the country. I made Infopass and was lucky to speak to officer who then told me they cannot do anything!!! He is permanent resident (conditional green card) and has every right to renew it based on divorce, because I cannot prove it was a sham. Even if he does not have anything in his name, no financials because some marriages agree to that. So not only he wasted almost 6 yrs of my life, he refused to have children (I never had it was my last chance), he will get my savings, 401K, plus my investments and I am being told there is nothing I can do to stop it and I am on the hook for I864 for 10 yrs, so this will never end. He is evil and is doing everything to hurt me financially. I really don’t understand why as I only gave him and provided everything and let him travel with me all over the world. I am glad that he is out of my life, but is there anything I can do so he does not take everything I worked so hard for. He received his visa based on lies and deception. I can clearly show that he was using me for money and green card. USCIS is not interested in what I had to say at the infopass. Is there anything else I can do?? 

 

This story brought me to 90 day fiancé. I thought it only happened on tv. I am so sorry for your predicament. I know its hard and painful for you to go through this kind of situation. I am a woman and i feel your sadness, disappointments and anger. But feeling relieved(as what you have said) made me realized that there’s still hope in you(which is a good indication) that you still possess optimism despite all the odds. 

 

Anyways, your story is the same as Danielle and Mohamed in 90day Fiancé. She fought a good battle against her husband and later her husband got deported. 

 

There is nothing i can do to help you except Prayers. The Lord  didnt put you in this situation if He knows you wont surpass it. Go fight for your right. Go go go... 

[Unlockable 7,314]

12 minutes ago, ShyLucy said:

This story brought me to 90 day fiancé. I thought it only happened on tv. I am so sorry for your predicament.

This happens every day and has been going on well before 90 Day Fiance. You can do a search in the Effects of Major Family Changes on Immigration Benefits section of Visajourney and find stories of marriage fraud from 10, 15, 20 years ago. Sometimes it gets as frequent as 1-2 marriage fraud posted here a week.

 

Unfortunately, OP’s story is not going to be the last.

[Lucy&Jason 807]

Just now, NuestraUnion said:

This happens every day and has been going on well before 90 Day Fiance. You can do a search in the Effects of Major Family Changes on Immigration Benefits section of Visajourney and find stories of marriage fraud from 10, 15, 20 years ago. Sometimes it gets as frequent as 1-2 marriage fraud posted here a week.

 

Unfortunately, OP’s story is not going to be the last.

Sorry to mislead you with my post. I know it does happen before the 90day fiancé. I just want only the OP to feel she is not alone in this battle. Because it does really happen to any other couple. 

 

Still i feel so sorry for her predicament 😞😞😞

[1USSister 2]

7 hours ago, wanderer84 said:

Please lawyer up, better safe than sorry, please dont be defenseless when he is already working to build a case against you. 

Find a Domestic Violence Shelter to find you a good Lawyer who is good in dealing with this type of case. You need an attorney who knows how to handle the Domestic Violence portion of this type of abuse in a divorce proceeding.  You sound like you were involved with a Naricissitic #######.  I do not say or use the word lightly because Malignant Narcissist are very real and very destructive. I know this is a personal question but is your husband Muslim?  

Furthermore, Do not listen to the "You both lose #######" you have more to lose than he does and I believe it is worth the fight. Not only do you want to fight for what you have been wronged but to also have the ultimate freedome from that man. I will be praying for you. I know this all too well. The Iranian Muslim man that I was with is an Malignant Narcissist and myself and our son ended up homeless. Unfornately, I was married through Islam. I can say it was a living nightmare! the Psychological/mental/verbal/emotional/financial/physical abuse these men learn and inflict are debilitating. 

[1USSister 2]

1 hour ago, muchyounger said:

Please be careful of making incendiary claims just because you think they will help your case. Why would you have been okay with all of this until now? 

The sad thing is when people assume "why you would be okay with all of this until now?" In her description it states that he was abusive throughout their relationship. That should answer that question. In abusive relationships many are not reported and their is no court or police records and even in those cases only 20% of the abuse is actually known.  Thank God she did and was able to report and document abuse. So, unless you have been involved in an abusive relationship you will never know nor understand its affects. Alot of people say "omg! if I was her/him I would just leave him/her etc...."  If he is so abusive why did you stay? What did you do to get him so angry? What people need to start doing to talking to the Abuser and saying what is wrong with you!? You need to get help. The victim is always repeatdly victimized in our society while the perpetrator/abuser/oppressor is always somehow given the excuse or sympathy. After all most Sociopaths, Psychopaths and Narcissist thrive off of empaths and their sympathy and that is the very emotion the lures their next victim in.  Also, their is no set criteria for a persons emotional well-being to attract these type of sickos. You don't have to have low-self esteem nor be codepent because these disorders can fool almost anyone.  Most of the time when you are being abused by Sociopath/Psychopath/Narcissist it is a dance with the devil himself you will be lucky to come out alive and fully functional at all.  So, I can assure you that she was NOT okay with all of this until now.

[Blessed21 141]

Find way to prove he used  to make this Idiot u married does not reap where he didnt sow. Sorry for ur going  through I am praying to God for you. 

[kattaklizm 11]

I feel really bad when I hear stories like yours. I want to believe that if house abuse happens, it should give you the right to revoke his green card and all the benefits that he gained because of you. 

Please get a lawyer. There should be a way to transfer your money to your parents or other relatives as a present, they can buy a real estate or some kind of the other property and there will be nothing to share with this moron since your bank account will be technically empty. 

[1USSister 2]

2 hours ago, 1USSister said:

Find a Domestic Violence Shelter to find you a good Lawyer who is good in dealing with this type of case. You need an attorney who knows how to handle the Domestic Violence portion of this type of abuse in a divorce proceeding.  You sound like you were involved with a Naricissitic #######.  I do not say or use the word lightly because Malignant Narcissist are very real and very destructive. I know this is a personal question but is your husband Muslim? 

I asked if he is Muslim because is there anything you can do through the religion? 

[Akwunomy 4]

10 hours ago, Xcalj5 said:

I brought my current husband from Iran on K1 visa. My husband is 14 years younger than me and came without any money. Yes, I lost my mind. I fell in love with young charismatic man. I am educated and my whole life I saved with hard work and sacrifices. And it happened, he used me just for a green card (yeah stupid me for trusting). He admitted for lying on application regarding his previous employment. He admitted for working for Iranian government and having weapons training (not mentioned on visa app). He received his visa based on lies (I have no way of proving it). I refused to sign ROC (I751) and so he left and is filing it based on divorce waiver. He was abusive throughout the relationship, which was documented in court. Two temporary restraining orders. No criminal charges though. After he left (2.5 yrs) I found out he was in relationship with another older woman and have recording of them. I am ok he left, but I am not ok he is suing me for half. I confirmed with 3 attorneys that he is entitled to half of my savings (which is a lot collected during marriage.) He is also going for alimony and my 401k which I saved a lot. He did not pay a dime to me or towards my house or anything. I covered all his expenssed. Found him job. I basically lost $40K on him and will lose another $40k based on him defrauding me and the country. I made Infopass and was lucky to speak to officer who then told me they cannot do anything!!! He is permanent resident (conditional green card) and has every right to renew it based on divorce, because I cannot prove it was a sham. Even if he does not have anything in his name, no financials because some marriages agree to that. So not only he wasted almost 6 yrs of my life, he refused to have children (I never had it was my last chance), he will get my savings, 401K, plus my investments and I am being told there is nothing I can do to stop it and I am on the hook for I864 for 10 yrs, so this will never end. He is evil and is doing everything to hurt me financially. I really don’t understand why as I only gave him and provided everything and let him travel with me all over the world. I am glad that he is out of my life, but is there anything I can do so he does not take everything I worked so hard for. He received his visa based on lies and deception. I can clearly show that he was using me for money and green card. USCIS is not interested in what I had to say at the infopass. Is there anything else I can do?? 

 

“Is there anything else I can do” unfortunately, there is nothing else...the immigration system tried to protect against such but when they couldn’t see any thing wrong and issue the green card that is...calling them after the fact is like redirecting resources...however, there is two sides to every story...we need need to hear it from the Iranian perspective or point of view and I do not buy the idea of character assasination just because it doesn’t work out the way you want it.

just move on...there are better things that life can offer

[JFH 12,190]

3 hours ago, ShyLucy said:

 

 

Anyways, your story is the same as Danielle and Mohamed in 90day Fiancé. She fought a good battle against her husband and later her husband got deported. 

Actually he didn't get deported. He successfully filed for ROC with a divorce waiver and is now living in Texas and posting on social media regularly about his life there.