Devastated! Victim of marriage Fraud before ROC w/ Iranian national

[Xcalj5 3]

2 minutes ago, wanderer84 said:

I would also worry about long term consequence of just settling now without involving the law. There is no telling what will happen later and I would worry if OP can be misunderstood later as if they willing took part in any of his schemes.  

 

I know nothing about the law, but given what OP tells about him, I would take no chances with this character.

yes, luckily I had no part of his fraud. I will have no choice, but to find good attorney. So far I have been talking to some and they do not work on my side. They just tell me I have to pay him, etc.

[spring333 44]

Law is a law - you gotta share all with him. Why waste more money on attorneys?

Sorry to say this, but there is nothing you can do unless you two signed some kind of agreement before marriage about how you gonna share finance in case of divorce. 

 

 

[Jovic 8]

sorry for all that you experienced in hands of the so called lover. He must have been lying to you severally in course of your marriage, maybe you don't notice or just pretended because of the love you have for him. But I do know that the wicked shall not go unpunished. I will advise you to pray more to God and seek the counsel of a good attorney. 

[Boiler 45,575]

3 minutes ago, Xcalj5 said:

Yes!!!! He lawyered up after he left me announcing he used me for green card and money and now he is gonna get more! I still did not retain attorney. They cost thousands and I have to pay just to defend what I worked so hard for.

Sounds like you can not afford not to get a Divorce Lawyer.

 

PS there is no 10 years I 864 limit, there is 40 quarters but that is based on him working.

[Xcalj5 3]

2 minutes ago, Boiler said:

Sounds like you can not afford not to get a Divorce Lawyer.

 

PS there is no 10 years I 864 limit, there is 40 quarters but that is based on him working.

He is dating wife of CEO of the company we work for. I have voice recording stating how much she loves him. He does not make much money, but still works. In my best interest is not to report it as he will lose that job and I will end up paying more. I saw got copy of chats with his Family stating he found another woman to use. She is super rich and I suspect she is helping him with lawyer.

[Boiler 45,575]

1 minute ago, Xcalj5 said:

He is dating wife of CEO of the company we work for. I have voice recording stating how much she loves him. He does not make much money, but still works. In my best interest is not to report it as he will lose that job and I will end up paying more. I saw got copy of chats with his Family stating he found another woman to use. She is super rich and I suspect she is helping him with lawyer.

So alimony seems a long shot, and more so the I 864.

[cyclone27 710]

Well  I can only give you experience of my best mate. His ex lawyered up and so did he in order to defend against her. End result almost a million dollars between the pair of them in legal fees and it financially ruined them both.

 

As much as I would love to say fighting works - far better to reach a mutual agreement because the only winners end up being the lawyers who have no incentive to settle.

[Xcalj5 3]

3 minutes ago, Boiler said:

So alimony seems a long shot, and more so the I 864.

I live in no fault state. I was told cheating does not matter :(. Im really screwed!

[NewlyNaturalized 38]

Sorry to hear of your story. How much time passed between you meeting him and getting married to him? 

 

You probably need to accept that you are going to lose quite a bit of money no matter what in this situation. Federal immigration law is totally separate from state divorce law. I would imagine that he is still entitled to half of whatever you made during the marriage regardless of his immigration intentions.  So you will either lose the money to him or to a lawyer in the end unfortunately. 

 

I just want to point out that these situations also happen all the time between US citizens. How many people do we all know that got married, found out the person wasn't really who they thought and had a nasty expensive divorce? Probably you know more than one. It can happen to anyone. So don't beat yourself up too badly. Next time you find someone, really take your time and get to know them/live together for at least a couple of years before getting married. 

 

On the flip side, there are immigrants who come with good intentions in a marriage to a US citizen, and those US citizens completely take advantage of them. I've read cases where the immigrant followed all the rules, did everything correctly, and got screwed over by their US citizen spouse making false claims to the authorities. 

 

 

 

 

 

[Xcalj5 3]

3 minutes ago, cyclone27 said:

Well  I can only give you experience of my best mate. His ex lawyered up and so did he in order to defend against her. End result almost a million dollars between the pair of them in legal fees and it financially ruined them both.

 

As much as I would love to say fighting works - far better to reach a mutual agreement because the only winners end up being the lawyers who have no incentive to settle.

I agree. I have currently restraining order and he has very aggressive lawyer. He is shooting for the stars. I don't think negotiation is on the table  

[cyclone27 710]

Good news is that you have a short marriage so his prospects of alimony are dim.

[Xcalj5 3]

1 minute ago, cyclone27 said:

Good news is that you have a short marriage so his prospects of alimony are dim.

Almost 3 years and Im in no fault state. Cheating does not matter.

[mrmvkjts 459]

OH my! I am so sorry for you having to go thru this

You say that you have chats that he sent to his family that he found a new women that he can use?

Isn‘t that proof that you could use? 

I really hope you find a good solution, nobody deserves this

[Xcalj5 3]

5 minutes ago, mrmvkjts said:

OH my! I am so sorry for you having to go thru this

You say that you have chats that he sent to his family that he found a new women that he can use?

Isn‘t that proof that you could use? 

I really hope you find a good solution, nobody deserves this

Unfortunately, I don't think it matters in my state laws.

[Boiler 45,575]

11 minutes ago, Xcalj5 said:

Almost 3 years and Im in no fault state. Cheating does not matter.

I think most, all?, States are no fault, mine certainly is.

 

I do not see much in the way of an Immigration issue, obviously yo do have Divorce aspects but that if for a Divorce LAwyer to help you with.