Want to hire family member from the philippines as aide for sick parent

[LL1 8]

1 hour ago, Mollie09 said:

Came here to say this - if the aunt is the best person to care for them, they can move back to the PI to be cared for by her.

Thanks Mollie09 for joining in and giving a suggestion.  Unfortunately, relocating them at this age and with their medical condition is not favorable.  Heard horrific experience from medical staff and hospitals in the philippines.  So I'll pass on that suggestion.  thanks again!

[SusieQQQ 11,586]

2 hours ago, Lyn Leon said:

geowrian - thanks.  i will probably need a crafty immigration lawyer to help me with this.

I’m sure you’ll find a lawyer happy to take your money all the way to when the visa is refused.

52 minutes ago, Mollie09 said:

Came here to say this - if the aunt is the best person to care for them, they can move back to the PI to be cared for by her.

Exactly - first language was the issue, then it was strangers, this solves both problems. Unfortunately, yes it’s horrible having parents go through this, but US immigration just doesn’t allow you to take family members in when there are plenty of trustworthy people who speak their language in the US.  If going back to phillipines isn’t an option and health workers can’t be trusted, seems you or spouse might need to care full time for them.

 

honestly - if such a visa existed, the US would be jam packed full of “aides”, local medical workers would be out of work, and there would be no wait period for F3 or F4 visas.

 

out of curiosity, your aunt (a qualified health care worker presumably) is prepared to relocate all the way just to care for your parents? And so she puts her own life on hold indefinitely and then  (because they are old and eventually will pass on) will go back to Philippines when her services are no longer required?

Edited March 6, 2018 by SusieQQQ

[WeGuyGal 1,052]

37 minutes ago, SusieQQQ said:

I’m sure you’ll find a lawyer happy to take your money all the way to when the visa is refused.

Exactly - first language was the issue, then it was strangers, this solves both problems. Unfortunately, yes it’s horrible having parents go through this, but US immigration just doesn’t allow you to take family members in when there are plenty of trustworthy people who speak their language in the US.  If going back to phillipines isn’t an option and health workers can’t be trusted, seems you or spouse might need to care full time for them.

 

honestly - if such a visa existed, the US would be jam packed full of “aides”, local medical workers would be out of work, and there would be no wait period for F3 or F4 visas.

 

out of curiosity, your aunt (a qualified health care worker presumably) is prepared to relocate all the way just to care for your parents? And so she puts her own life on hold indefinitely and then  (because they are old and eventually will pass on) will go back to Philippines when her services are no longer required?

Really?

[LL1 8]

1 hour ago, geowrian said:

Mind sharing what this possibility is?

The only thing I can think of is some sort of humanitarian parole, although this is usually a last-ditch option.

ha!  humanitarian parole - i didn't know there is such a thing.

love sharing the other options/possibilities but i don't like to share things i haven't researched myself.  i thought getting in on this forum means getting some ideas, positive vibe/support, but instead i'm getting a lot of pessimistic and rude comments.  geowrian, you are an exception.  your comments were realistic but not borderline rude and negative, unlike some.  love to help people stay in my country legally without having to worry about how long your legal status will last - as i can see most of you are waiting on some visa status of some sort but knowledge and kindness will get you places so stop being rude!!!  i know what's on my plate, i know my situation... i'm asking if someone has had the same experience.  if you haven't, PLEASE REFRAIN FROM MAKING A COMMENT.

[LL1 8]

1 hour ago, SusieQQQ said:

I’m sure you’ll find a lawyer happy to take your money all the way to when the visa is refused.

Exactly - first language was the issue, then it was strangers, this solves both problems. Unfortunately, yes it’s horrible having parents go through this, but US immigration just doesn’t allow you to take family members in when there are plenty of trustworthy people who speak their language in the US.  If going back to phillipines isn’t an option and health workers can’t be trusted, seems you or spouse might need to care full time for them.

 

honestly - if such a visa existed, the US would be jam packed full of “aides”, local medical workers would be out of work, and there would be no wait period for F3 or F4 visas.

 

out of curiosity, your aunt (a qualified health care worker presumably) is prepared to relocate all the way just to care for your parents? And so she puts her own life on hold indefinitely and then  (because they are old and eventually will pass on) will go back to Philippines when her services are no longer required?

I see you know a lot of people who over extended their stay in the U.S. which is terrible!!!  Or are you speaking from experience???

Well 'newsflash' for you susieQQQ, my aunt is not like the people that you know who breaks the law and overstays.  My aunt is doing this because she cares and loves her sister.  susieQQQ- i really feel bad for you... you are so jaded, you fail to see the niceness in people. 

[LL1 8]

53 minutes ago, WeGuyGal said:

Really?

do yourself a favor and educate yourself.  please read my response to susieQQQ since you confidently quoted her.

[Crazy Cat 41,886]

3 posts which violate terms of service.......not good...someone needs to chill out....

Edited March 6, 2018 by missileman

[SusieQQQ 11,586]

19 minutes ago, Lyn Leon said:

  if you haven't, PLEASE REFRAIN FROM MAKING A COMMENT.

Please read the terms of service of the website.

 

you won’t find anyone who’s done it by the way. Because there is no such visa.

 

you seem to confuse what you want to hear, with what you think is “nice”. In my mind, in matters of immigration and expensive legal fees, “nice” is being realistic so that people don’t waste time and money.

 

and if you think I’m jaded and cynical, wait till your aunt goes for her interview at the Manila embassy.

 

unfortunately when people emigrate it leads to families being separated, most of us have had to face some of other fallout of this, good luck with how you deal with yours..l I expect you’ll come back on here and let us know when your aunt gets her visa, and what type of visa she got.

40 minutes ago, WeGuyGal said:

Really?

Well, there was no suggestion that this was a backdoor way to immigrating. Was there?

Edited March 6, 2018 by SusieQQQ

[SusieQQQ 11,586]

8 minutes ago, Lyn Leon said:

I see you know a lot of people who over extended their stay in the U.S. which is terrible!!!  Or are you speaking from experience???

Well 'newsflash' for you susieQQQ, my aunt is not like the people that you know who breaks the law and overstays.  My aunt is doing this because she cares and loves her sister.  susieQQQ- i really feel bad for you... you are so jaded, you fail to see the niceness in people. 

Hm, where did you see that?

 

And no,  “newsflash”, I did everything perfectly by the book. When I had to wait years for a visa, we didn’t manufacture backdoor reasons, we waited it out,  just like most people on this site. 

[WeGuyGal 1,052]

2 minutes ago, SusieQQQ said:

Please read the terms of service of the website.

 

you seem to confuse what you want to hear, with what you think is “nice”. In my mind, in matters of immigration and expensive legal fees, “nice” is being realistic so that people don’t waste time and money.

 

and if you think I’m jaded and cynical, wait till your aunt goes for her interview at the Manila embassy.

 

unfortunately when people emigrate it leads to families being separated, most of us have had to face some of other fallout of this, good luck with how you deal with yours..l I expect you’ll come back on here and let us know when your aunt gets her visa, and what type of visa she got.

Well, there was no suggestion that this was a backdoor way to immigrating. Was there?

Re the last sentence, I can't read OP's mind, have to ask OP. 

[Crazy Cat 41,886]

 

Edited March 6, 2018 by missileman

[LL1 8]

thank you all for your comment and suggestions.

i will keep you all posted on my aunt so we all can learn from  the experience.  

after all, i think that is the purpose of a forum.

good luck to you all.

[Crazy Cat 41,886]

11 minutes ago, Lyn Leon said:

thank you all for your comment and suggestions.

i will keep you all posted on my aunt so we all can learn from  the experience.  

after all, i think that is the purpose of a forum.

good luck to you all.

Your experience will be very valuable for others....Thanks.

[Boiler 45,525]

I know somebody who migrated to the US as a Health Care Professional using a H1b, now the requirement of having a degree and and the job requiring a degree is unusual in Nursing, but she was able to do it.

 

Also you have the Lottery to contend with.

 

MIL could sponsor a sibling, but this is a longer wait than is likely practical.There might be other opportunities depending  on the specific qualifications of the Aunt. So what are they?

 

What sort of time period are you looking at?

 

Seems to me that this is a work visa issue so will ask one of our friendly Mods to move to the correct forum.

 

 

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4 hours ago, Lyn Leon said:

missileman - yes tried that.  because they are strangers, my parents didn't feel comfortable having strangers in their house.  so they can't sleep or rest or take their siesta when its only them and I'm not home.  also, because they are strangers (and i'm sure this is partly because my parents are old - i've seen it with other older people as well), they are paranoid.  have done through soooo many help now.  hence i'm desperate.  thanks for the idea.

 

 

Your parents can either accept help from those legally able to work in the US or return to the Philippines for care.  You may not be able to explain it to your mother but do so with your father.