Sorry,not a troll

[Chris Duffy 1,257]

5 minutes ago, Jaquelly said:

 

Dude, there's a difference between trying to help someone who's going through some pain and being crass. Can you stop trying to tell everyone to go get laid? 

Did you read his other post?

 

Simmer down

[Mike12 0]

7 minutes ago, Perfect two 💑 said:

I just read your previous post. I don't understand why you still be with her. I do understand you posted in this website just to share how you feel. After all what she done to you, why you begging her back and dismiss the restrain order? Have you ever sit with her and communicate? Communication is important in relationship. I read about the part she want to have a child with you but you do everything you can to not having a child with her. Did both of you discuss about children before applying for K-1 visa? It is important to discuss about that since both of you should be on the same page in order for it to work. You don't look dumb. However, I really want you to open your eyes now. I do understand you already invest a lot of money, time and emotion in that relationship. But, that is not a reason for you to stay in bad relationship. The more you stay in that relationship, the more money, time and emotion you will invest. Move on. Don't let someone ruined your life just because you thinking about what you already invest. And stop thinking about her job if she doesn't even think about your feelings. It is not worth it to be with someone that make your life horrible. Life is too short. Spend your life with something/someone that can make you happy. 

I'm a big communicator.  She gives silent treatment 24/7 or screams names over and over to me. Yes we talked about having a child after a couple of years of traveling before she came here,,but the way she treats me. I know bringing a child into this would be real bad. Out of the blue she would say the meanest things to me and wait for a reaction.  After a while I would not' react.  She would then repeat it 2 more times like I didnt hear it.'

[Mike12 0]

18 minutes ago, Marcelina said:

I'm sorry to hear your relationship come to this. I guess you have to ask yourself a question what exactly do you expect from this relationship and marriage. Youth and beauty to look at from a distance or a partner in life? No matter how much time and effort did you spent on this, is that what you wanted? You are not a teenager, you should have some life/experience wisdom. I personally can't believe ppl stay in a toxic relationship like that. After 2+ years she should have her own friends and life, she seems like a little witch, she is not a child, she will make it alone. I personally would prefer to be happy alone than unhappy together. The more time you are spending with an unsolved situation like this the more time you are wasting.

 

Ask yourself fundamental questions: Do I want to live like that? Is this what I want? Am I happy? and based on the answers take an action. Good luck.

 

Thank you. No im not happy. It is just harder when you get older. We kind of disappear to the opposite  sex. I do not want to do this whole process with someone new in the P hills all over with again. I get what u r saying. It got to a point where I had to hide my phone and bills and such. She would look through them or destroy my phone.She would take financial stuff and keep it in a file. It was like she was out to get me for some reason.

Edited February 28, 2018 by Mike12

[Perfect two 💑 1,147]

21 minutes ago, Mike12 said:

I'm a big communicator.  She gives silent treatment 24/7 or screams names over and over to me. Yes we talked about having a child after a couple of years of traveling before she came here,,but the way she treats me. I know bringing a child into this would be real bad. Out of the blue she would say the meanest things to me and wait for a reaction.  After a while I would not' react.  She would then repeat it 2 more times like I didnt hear it.'

So, just leave her. It is not worth it to stay. It is really not worth it. You deserve to be with someone that can make you happy not with someone that ruined your life. 

[JFH 12,190]

*~*~*moved from "K-1 fiancé visa progress reports" to "effects if major family changes" although the OP does not appear to have an immigration question right now, should one arise this forum would be the best fit*~*~*

[Russ&Caro 1,549]

My wife and I have a 30's / 50's relationship, too, although I tease her since she turned 39 this year. The age difference does present some issues, but much of what you're talking about is beyond anything we have in our relationship. Best of luck as you look to move on.

[AL-MJD 144]

@Mike12

 

by the way, i'm super sorry that you are in a tough situation. i was once in an abusive relationship, it's not anywhere near as terrible as yours, but my future-husband's ex-wife was a nightmare, she still is. she calls me a camgirl, lol.

 

so i just wanna say that i understand where you are coming from and why it is so hard for you... my fiancée lost everything because he stayed with his ex-wife. he made mistakes that is haunting even me at this point. he lost all his savings because of her gambling and alcoholic habits -- she gets physical. his parents even took him out of their will because of her.

 

i get that you spent a lot of money and a lot of effort in making your relationship work in a way that makes you happy, but the real situation is, it's not going to get better. if nothing would move you, at least know that my fiancée is such an incredible man who wasted 9 years of his life, on someone who consistently put him down. everyday i worry if her old lies are louder than my words in his head.

 

you are only at 2 years. i promise you it only gets worse. if being lonely scares you, now is the time to start fighting that fear. if not now, then as soon as possible. life is too short to be unhappy and married to a terrible human being...

 

leave and don't turn back. don't trust her words, good or bad. it's best to start over, work on yourself, heal, and then think about a new life partner.

 

i don't know how else to convince you. please just listen.

[nelmagriffin 148]

Greetings!

My heart goes out to you. It really breaks my heart when a person who truly loves someone ended up just heartbroken. I pray that everything will be fine and that somehow your heart and mind will be enlightened to move forward. I do not want to judge your relationship but the way it sounded that RESPECT is no longer considered and this is the last final thing that is very important in a relationship. As the saying goes " If there is no respect then there is no LOVE". I know that this may sound crazy but it is also very important that you talk to her perhaps with someone around and tell her your intentions if you wanted to break up with her. Tell her everything and try to end up the relationship in a good way. And do not fall on to her lies/reasons if she will not promise not to do it again. Even if we love someone that deeply, we must also teach them a lesson, so no one will suffer. Also," LOVE MUST BE A TWO WAY RELATIONSHIP". I know when it comes to love, it becomes so complicated. but is it really LOVE if one does not respect you? Is it really LOVE if the ones holding the relationship is sex, beauty, and her youth? because if it is then one must suffer (you).

My kindest regards,

Nelma

[Cheschirecat 176]

I am so sorry for your troubles. Praying for y’all!  

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Seven tasteless posts/quotes of them/comments on them have been removed.  There is no immigration question, and the OP should seek outside counseling.  This thread is locked and is not to be reopened or revisited.

 

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