Moroccan husband joining a US pregnant wife!

[caliliving 606]

look. it may be a cultural thing, but when people are giving you advice they are not passing judgement! you asked a question and you are getting HONEST questions: SOrry if you do not like them.

 

you will not be in the USA for her delivery! sorry! i know its hard to imagine that the USA does NOT give a $*#@ that you got your wife pregnant and cant be there for the birth but understand this. If everyone could get an expedite from pregnancy it would be a mess! even having a child with her does NOT prove a bonefide marriage!!!!

 

1. How old is your wife? how much younger is she then you? are you teh same age? morocco is a VERY VERY hard embassay to get a K1 or a CR1 from!

2.  where did you get married? was it a cultural marriage?

3.  are you the same religion? 

 

dont expect to be in the USA with your wife for 14 months if it goes good.  Morocco is denying couples every day! if you get stuck in AP or a denied visa you are looking at 3 years!

 

at the end of the day, you have an uphill battle!!! I would not expect to be in morocco for 24 months.  thankfully we have technology and facetime.

 

Also, just because you knocked up your wife does NOT mean your marriage is more 'real' then someone who has never had sex. 

 

[NikLR 13,227]

12 hours ago, Roel said:

If it was that easy, all the couples would  be getting pregnant in order to expedite the long process.

Why they don't expedite for pregnancies?  It's because some people choose not to have children.  Some people physically CANNOT have children.  So to expedite because someone is pregnant would be rather unfair to those of us who CAN'T.  It's not like every household is a 2 parent household, even for the pregnancy.  Since pregnancy is 100% preventable.... C'est la vie.

 

The OP will not be in the USA for his child's birth.  This is something that should have been planned with more care obviously, but what's done is done.  Hopefully he can get a good skype connection?  I suggest his wife hires a doula since she won't have that support system from her husband this time around. 

 

[Illiria 980]

55 minutes ago, caliliving said:

Also, just because you knocked up your wife does NOT mean your marriage is more 'real' then someone who has never had sex. 

 

Or a couple that have infertility issues or a couple have decided to live a child free life. 

 

OP there have been several people on here the past few months that have been in a similar situation. The cavalier attitude lately to getting pregnant during this process with the associated possibility of the woman having to give birth on their own is disconcerting. Whilst accidents happen, this isn’t the case in the majority of these situations and the then scramble to ask for possibility to expedite and disbelief when being told it isn’t a valid option for routine pregnancies can be wearing for those of us that saw multiple queries like this in the last six months with most of our concern being for the woman having to give birth without the father of the child being there.

 

Unless this is a case of protection failing, you knew how long the process takes, you know that unprotected sex can result in pregnancy, you know that giving birth in your country isn’t ideal, and you chose to proceed. The consequence is that you may miss the birth of your child.

 

I don’t judge you for doing this, it was you and your wife’s decision to make for whatever reason you did but it was your decision and the reality is that you will have to live with the most likely consequence of not being able to be there.

 

I second the idea of getting your wife a doula, whilst it wasn’t the right thing for me having someone there to advocate for your wife when she is most vulnerable would be a wise decision. 

[caliliving 606]

38 minutes ago, Illiria said:

Or a couple that have infertility issues or a couple have decided to live a child free life. 

 

OP there have been several people on here the past few months that have been in a similar situation. The cavalier attitude lately to getting pregnant during this process with the associated possibility of the woman having to give birth on their own is disconcerting. Whilst accidents happen, this isn’t the case in the majority of these situations and the then scramble to ask for possibility to expedite and disbelief when being told it isn’t a valid option for routine pregnancies can be wearing for those of us that saw multiple queries like this in the last six months with most of our concern being for the woman having to give birth without the father of the child being there.

 

Unless this is a case of protection failing, you knew how long the process takes, you know that unprotected sex can result in pregnancy, you know that giving birth in your country isn’t ideal, and you chose to proceed. The consequence is that you may miss the birth of your child.

 

I don’t judge you for doing this, it was you and your wife’s decision to make for whatever reason you did but it was your decision and the reality is that you will have to live with the most likely consequence of not being able to be there.

 

I second the idea of getting your wife a doula, whilst it wasn’t the right thing for me having someone there to advocate for your wife when she is most vulnerable would be a wise decision. 

exactly!!!
But being from Morocco, i think they have a bigger issue then being there for the birth of the child.  they have a tough case. we dont even know the ages of the couples, how the marriage was or religion ect.. they still need to focus on showing a genuine relationship which means making frequent visits! i suggest the wife visits morocco early in the pregnancy. 

 

[Tilia 75]

I would not give birth in Morocco. But Europe is within close flying distance, so she could always pay and give birth in Spain or Italy. Of course, that would make her return to the US a tad more difficult.

[Andrea&Henry 311]

Honey,

 

noone is judging you for real. I’m a woman and a mom myself. I understand you, I know what it means bringing a life and wanting your partner there with you. The only person I wanted was my husband when our child was born 4 years ago. Although my son was born a year later into my residency here in the States, doesn’t mean I don’t get how you and your wife feel.

 

what are we trying to is to HELP you as you don’t seem to understand the processing times and it seems like you are willing to do some not smart choices that in the long run, are going to hurt your case.

 

Let me explain you: if you try to apply for a business visa, you have zero proof or backgrounds to support your petitions and that means you will need to lie. During your interview the IO have ALL your information before you even get to the embassy and you current petition and all your wife information is there. They will know you are just trying to expedite your process of moving. If you lie, not only you will not get your business visa but also you will likely harm your cr1 case forever. 

 

What you can do is apply for a tourist visa, be completely honest and transparent and just hope for the best. The thing is a that Morocco/Casablanca is in the list of high fraud countries and even getting a cr1 visa for an spouse, is quite difficult, let alone a tourist visa. BUT having a honest tourist visa petition/interview it might be the only legal way without hurting your case. Plenty of people apply for tourist visa while their wait on their k1/cr1 visas and get denied without affecting their current processes as long as they are honest. But reality is that odds are not on your favor just because of the embassy/country you come from. Again: not judging! It is what it is and we didn’t write the rules. I’ve been an active member of vj for 7 years.

 

When you think people are being “opinionated” and “off topic” they are just trying to give you options. Noone is trying to tell you what to do or judge you base on your personal decisions. We are trying to give you another options as we would like for you yo be with your wife and baby. Sorry if is not what you want to read, but as you may see, your process will take at least a year plus your case won’t be expedited...and we won’t encourage you to commit fraud and ruin all your possibilities to immigrate to the States.

 

I know you are desperate but these immigration processes are not a sprint, they are marathons. We ALL being there, we all hate the waiting periods, we all want to be reunited with our significant others. It sucks big time but it is what it is.

 

Having her moving with you, might not be the perfect solution but at least you can be together, you will be with her during her pregnancy and childbirth and you will be able to see your baby born and take care of both. As someone who went through that myself, I would rather that than going through my pregnancy and my son’s birth without my husband by my side

[Nitas_man 3,100]

23 hours ago, Benaflic said:

OMG! They could convert K3 you said to CR1 ??? I won’t tell her that though. I should try a tourist visa to assist her during the birth which will be for July. Otherwise you don’t think they may contact me before the birth if I try to let them know ? 

No

Edited February 7, 2018 by Nitas_man

[Nitas_man 3,100]

18 hours ago, Derik-Lina said:

R, are you sure a denied B2 won t affect his CR1 approval? Does t that look like he tried to go before??? I don t wanna get into the details of it, but I heard and read some who had to explain that denial. Does he want more issues? Please enlighten me. I could be wrong.

About half of this forum (including us) were denied B visas.  Never affected us one way or the other. 

 

Doesn't hurt to try and applying for one (might) be interpreted as evidence of a real relationship

 

New baby and household size of 3 is going to be a real fun affidavit for her.

Edited February 7, 2018 by Nitas_man

[Derik-Lina 230]

3 minutes ago, Nitas_man said:

About half of this forum (including us) were denied B visas.  Never affected us one way or the other. 

 

Doesn't hurt to try and applying for one (might) be interpreted as evidence of a real relationship

Where do you get your statistics from? Half or even more than half of VJ members are US Citizens. 

 

Edited February 7, 2018 by Derik-Lina

[Derik-Lina 230]

12 hours ago, caliliving said:

look. it may be a cultural thing, but when people are giving you advice they are not passing judgement! you asked a question and you are getting HONEST questions: SOrry if you do not like them.

 

you will not be in the USA for her delivery! sorry! i know its hard to imagine that the USA does NOT give a $*#@ that you got your wife pregnant and cant be there for the birth but understand this. If everyone could get an expedite from pregnancy it would be a mess! even having a child with her does NOT prove a bonefide marriage!!!!

 

1. How old is your wife? how much younger is she then you? are you teh same age? morocco is a VERY VERY hard embassay to get a K1 or a CR1 from!

2.  where did you get married? was it a cultural marriage?

3.  are you the same religion? 

 

dont expect to be in the USA with your wife for 14 months if it goes good.  Morocco is denying couples every day! if you get stuck in AP or a denied visa you are looking at 3 years!

 

at the end of the day, you have an uphill battle!!! I would not expect to be in morocco for 24 months.  thankfully we have technology and facetime.

 

Also, just because you knocked up your wife does NOT mean your marriage is more 'real' then someone who has never had sex. 

 

Wow! that was harsh but true;

Honestly, it s a reality check that many need to wake up. I applaud your courage to put it out there, especially asking about the age difference.

Age has been a major decider for many couples in that region of the world. Unfortunately, some do not realize there is no entitlement nor assurances when it comes to US laws, including the Immigration ones. 

[Derik-Lina 230]

18 hours ago, RJandHamid said:

There are plenty of people who apply for and visit on a tourist visa while their CR1 petitions are being processed. A B2 visa is a different class of visa as well (non-immigrant). I agree that if he applies for a B2 multiple times and is denied multiple times, then if may raise suspicion. As long as they are honest in their intention to use the B2 visa (even it was not approved) just to visit and not to stay, the CO will likely think little of it. It's pretty common for couples to have a B2 denial and still be approved for CR1 visas. 

Is it possible he ll be put on "ADMIN" for the B2? that alone will take months, and this is and only if the B2 is approved. 

[Boiler 45,524]

5 minutes ago, Derik-Lina said:

Wow! that was harsh but true;

Honestly, it s a reality check that many need to wake up. I applaud your courage to put it out there, especially asking about the age difference.

Age has been a major decider for many couples in that region of the world. Unfortunately, some do not realize there is no entitlement nor assurances when it comes to US laws, including the Immigration ones. 

I do not thing age is major decider for couples in that region, seems to be for those looking to come to the US judging by posts on VJ.

[Derik-Lina 230]

2 minutes ago, Boiler said:

I do not thing age is major decider for couples in that region, seems to be for those looking to come to the US judging by posts on VJ.

Agreed; I take that statement back.

Age is not the decider at all and many couples of major age differences are legit.

I meant that some much younger men marry older American women for Green Cards/Naturalization only; Not for love.

[Nitas_man 3,100]

53 minutes ago, Derik-Lina said:

Where do you get your statistics from? Half or even more than half of VJ members are US Citizens. 

 

I've been doing immigration stuff for awhile.  12 years now.

 

"Half of us" refer to half of couples.  The number's probably higher.  You're new.  You'll learn.

[Nitas_man 3,100]

19 hours ago, jskibo said:

Being pregnant did help in the Philippines......

 

On the day of the interview, since my wife was pregnant, they moved us to the front of the line to enter the embassy.  That saved us a good 30 minutes of standing outside 

AhHA!  They DO expedite!